I find I'm very good at opening and getting numbers etc but I'm not so good at developing a day 2. I seem to generate rapport, build interest but I'm not quite sure where I'm going wrong. Perhaps I'm not being direct enough on approaches, or not developing enough interest from the start. Or maybe it's the fact that I don't go any further with the text. What I often do is I'll start texting a girl, I'll get some laughs and some interest, but as soon as I don't get a reply back I drop the whole thing and never pursue that girl any further. My thinking being that if she was interested she'd reply and if I send her another message without her reply, it becomes too needy. I wonder if I'm being a bit over the top with that though? I wonder if there's been some opportunities I've missed because I don't bother to text her again at some point later down the line. Here's an example of a text situation I had, there have been numerous others. I met this Romanian girl doing some daygame. I kept the interaction fairly indirect but it was still a good interaction with a level of kino and genuine laughter. She gave me her facebook details with the potential of meeting up sometime during Christmas. I requested her as a friend and she added me. I then sent her this message;

Hey missy, how's it going? How do you say, 'I need ten chocolate biscuits immediately!...' In Romanian??

To which she replied

Heey, it's all good. How are you? 'Am nevoie imediata de 10 biscuiti de ciocolata!' lol

My second message could have been a lot better and perhaps more direct. Looking back on it I think I would have done better to have then said something like, "That's awesome, you need to teach me more Romanian. We must meet up again so you can teach me more. How are you for next weekend?" Or something like that. However, what I actually said to her was

Lol! That's awesome, though I'm not sure quite how to pronounce that. You'll have to teach me that one. Do you think it's better to demand biscuits or cake? I'm trying to decide which is better... x

Of course I never got a reply to that and as a result I do not intend to message her again. I'd really like your thoughts on general text game and developing day 2s after a good first meeting as it does seem to be a big sticking point for me. Do I bother messaging them again at some point if I get no reply? Or do I just except it as a flake and keep playing the numbers game by approaching more women and getting more numbers and fbs etc until I come good?

hey man i find my self in the same situation as you!!! i though i was the only one!

i guess be direct with her? ive been txting a girl i met at the bar did excellent kino, did some compliance test, she followed some of em. pretty good overall. tired txting her she responds immediatley and then i sen her a txt no response...???? acouple weeks later i txt her trying to set up a date, responds next morning because she was "working" at the pool hall i told her i had something fun planned monday (today) and she should call me but no call...

so i gues you and me need to try new stuff perhaps going direct?

my plan is to txt her saying "hey im going to this place i keep hearing bout on friday, your welcome to come join me, it will be awsome they got great food according to foodchannel.com"

if she she gives me "i got to work" or some other excuse ima tell her "please try harder than that cmon tell me you got a fiance or are in love, but i get it...well i tried.. pleasure meeting you"

what do yout think?

i know the above doesnt quite answer your post but i guess if you go direct you might see different results because you said you have been going indirect kinda like!

but bro i wish you the best and go direct with her! let me know how it goes!!!

This is a response to both the original poster and second poster,

First, congrats on getting numbers and having the confidence to go up to women and building attraction. This however is an art and its one thing to be ok at it... its another thing to be good at it... and its quite another to be a MASTER at it. Mystery and a lot of the other MASTER PUAS have an EASE with this...and i feel right now both of you are not quite at this MASTER level (not many people are... I myself am still learning).

So your both prob wondering why shes flaking on the texting/days 2s right? Here is some advice through personal experience that should help you guys out.

First it seems both of you are being a little to NEEDY. The text above "we should go on a date... we need to hang out ect" is not a good text message and if u didnt build a lot of great attraction she will flake on you... guaranteed.

So how do we avoid this?

1. Step up our seduction game at the bar/club. AKA kiss closing +
2. text her a few times just playing around... not asking to hang out with her... just be friendly and NOT NEEDY. In order to get a girl to want to actually hang out with you again we need to get her to start texting us first instead of us texting her first all the time! She needs to chase you... not opposite.
3. If she seems resistant then freeze her out... stop texting her for a bit... then text again being creative and short. i suggest both of u read up on how to text girls (this is key esp. with girls and their iphones...)

Try this on for size... i feel u will have more success with day 2s ect...

GL

Duke

Thanks for both your replies!

dukehoopz30, I think you're right. I'm good at approaching and number closing and to a degree, building attraction but I wouldn't say I'm a master, not yet anyway. I still have much to learn!

I seem to miss a lot of opportunities when it comes to text/email game, perhaps I don't get a reply so then I decide to forget the whole thing all together with that girl. Or perhaps I jump in too quick and come off as needy because I hadn't built up enough attraction upon first meeting. I think it's gonna just need some more practice on my part and a bit more calibration. You're pointers @duke are helpful and I'll look to use them

My big question has been answered! Which is, what to do if I don't get a reply from a text or email i.e "If she seems resistant then freeze her out... stop texting her for a bit... then text again being creative and short."

I've found some really good pointers on what to do with text game on an older post on this forum. The above situation is specifically addressed too. If anyone else reads this thread and wants some good rules of thumb for text game I think the points made in this post are worth checking out; 7-essential-rules-of-texting-vt12230.html