i am logged into several dating sites. I would like ot know if people here have any resources or experience in writing a killer ad that would perk up the ladies attention and how to write mails that will get her to respond. Please help. How is is possible to do a pickup from a written letter?

dude . . . i dont know about a written letter or by mail . . .thats like 3 days just to get the letter through the mail the game is played in the field you really need to get out there to experience it and fail. . . . its ok to fail and try but dont fail to try

It is possible, but it will only go so far without being in direct proximity with each other.

The goal of online gaming is not the same as gameing in the feild. The goal online is to make the person feel comfortable enough and attracted enough to you to meet with you in person.

Basically you have to be different then other guys. Same as regualr gaming however your "opener" is your ad. It must be intresting and display your alpha characteristics in a way that is not too cocky, but doesnt come accross as needy.

Once you get responses its normal gaming with the exception that you do not obviously have a time constraint. You must be intresting and run routines or DHV stories, let her ask questions about you. Answer some up front and be C & F with others.

If possible after a written set of conversations try and number close, say something like this conversation is really intresting but i feel like it'd go even better over the phone. Just leave it at that and see if she gives you her number that way.

Now your on the phone and can convey tone and humor through your voice. Even disintrest or confidence will be conveyed more quickly through a vocal conversation. Once you have her on the phone invite her to meet up with you someplace you are gonna be anyway. "Hey im gonna goto x place y time with some buddies, your invited to hang with us there."

Then you can game in person.

Also it may be possible to skip from written to in person without the phone, i just figured the point of the phone would be to offset the extra time itd take to build rapport and attraction through writting.

Hope this helps.

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Just to add something to Ka's good advice, you can check out some of David DeAngelo's stuff because he covers how to make an add that catches women's attention through those dating sites.

I had a horrible experience with a speed dating site a few months back, the organizer of the event was completely retarded and rescheduled the event twice, then refused to refund me the money when I couldn't make it.

I sent her a letter and gave her a piece of my mind, threatened to take action with my credit card company, then went over her to her supervisor and got everything refunded. Total pain in the ass.

In my opinion, it's humiliating paying other people to set you up with someone who you may or (more likely) may not be attracted to. It's degrading to you as a man---think about it, you're admitting you're so helpless/useless around women that you need to pay some site to set you up with one, and intrinsically lowers your value because you're paying for the privilege of meeting a random woman.

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I'm not so sure he's talking about speed-dating, where a group of guys is set up with a group of girls and you rotate to have brief chats with all of the members of the other group. He's more likely talking about dating websites, where you set up a profile that people can look at and read a bit about you, before emailing you or sending some sort of IOI.

I am actually signed up to such a site, and have spent money on "stamps" (you spend a "stamp" on initiating contact with someone, either by internal email or java chat). Members send each other "kisses" which indicate interest and why they are interested (you have a list of pre-set messages to send with a kiss, you don't actually get to write it yourself). Though I'm also looking for ways to improve mine, too, so I can't give much advice on it. David DeAngelo does go into it a bit, and you can sign up to an email list at the top of the PUA forum page ("Net-to-Bed system"), but so far they've been only marginally useful to me.

I totally disagree. I've found speed-dating to be fun and highly enjoyable. You get to try out your 'skills' on at least twenty women in under 3 minutes. I've had drinks bought for me a good few times. Have had the oppurtunity afterwards to not only open sets but to merge with others.

The bad side I've seen are the guys who drink to get confidence and expect some 'magic' to happen. They usually get blown out and vanish. And the guy who tries too hard.
I've been to parties where woman have said that they would not do speed dating because they don't want to listen to a boring guy asking the same questions the last guy asked, for 3 minutes!

Just relax, go with no expectaions have a blast and people will respond positively to you.

Picking up an anonymous girl via written letter? That's something I've never come across. I'm interested in hearing the responses as well.

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