A girl that I met last week at a bar is on her way over to my house now. It has been made very clear to me that her intention are to f*ck me, BUT I want to make sure that this goes no further than FUCK BUDDIES.

I have just come out of a relationship and don't want to get back into another one anytime soon, so how do I make sure that she gets the message that this is just casual sex?
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Howd it go? Honesty pays, especially with women. Just say to her exactly what you said to us. 'This is just a bit of fun, if your ok with that lets get it on, otherwise no harm done.' I found this recently that when you verbally take the potential of a relationship out of the equation and clarify to her that this is just mad sex then all emotion goes flying out the window, and all your left with is pure sexual addrenalin. Nice.

UM NO not always bro, some woman will be like what your only using me for sex, even though they know when they come over that it is all for that, then she becomes irrational and bounces like that check you received from working at taco bell. Point is, get it in, then get her out, shell get the picture. Ask a friend to call you at 10pm after you fuck and say omg my frieds in an accident I ahve to go, hes my best friend, blah blah blah shell bounce and go grab a donut, boston kreme after you just had your own filling stuff a woman is amazing!

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Of course not always, she wont always be keen. But women do generally appreciate the fact that you were up front. She cant hate you for that because you gave her the option.

Of course not always, she wont always be keen. But women do generally appreciate the fact that you were up front. She cant hate you for that because you gave her the option. In fact... because you were completely up front with your intentions she'll appreciate it no matter what even tho on the outside she'll pretend she was pissed off, she'll respect you for not pretending it was something it wasn't.

We had sex... Sorry, we had AMAZING sex! We didn't really talk about what the implications would be before it happened. It just sort of happened.

She begged me for the rest of the day to go to a local club event with her, which got me really worried. So after giving her a sufficient excuse as to why I couldn't go, I sent her the most blunt text I could.

Basically, I told her that I had just come out of a relationship and wasn't prepared to get into another one at the moment (she has also just come out of a relationship). I told her that I thought she was a very cool chick and that I'd feel bad giving her the wrong idea.

She texted me back saying that she definately wasn't interested in having a boyfriend at the moment, and that she was cool with it.

(Intuition told me not to text back because she wasn't completely finished saying what she had to say, so I went and had a long shower to resist the temptation to text her back)

The response waiting for me on my phone when I got out of the shower could not have been better:
HB: "You're good in bed, fuck buddies?"

The dynamic over text since then has been nothing more than friends and she's coming over again tomorrow

Thankyou once again to my fellow PUA's! I'm starting to really build confidence in my own decision making thanks to the tools you have all given me over the last 12 months, and the results speak for themselves.