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my fight with don is definately going to help many guys. lets first
No. Not really.
It's just going to give you an excuse to post 200 times a day, and talk about old PUA concepts. But, hey, I'll bite.
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you said that she were not responding much so you have to do most of the talking(were you talking about rape ? Were you talking about killing peoples? If not, then no problem with your talk)
My friend here has a sever problem of not understanding English. It's not his fault really, he's just so eager to be Mystery.
Pay attention " i met a girl and
we ended up bbming alot, went from general stuff to deep stuff like our past, her ex, my ex, and then about how its good to share problems and she offered to help at any time and what not. so rapport was somewhat there. Problem is
after 2 days she kinda stopped talking to me really" so as you can see, there was NO problem initially and they were both putting the same amount of efforts. If they ended on the note that she offered to help him about his problems (read : dead end) because the only reply given to that can be "Thanks. I would do the same for you." or such.
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and don is such a big loser that he dont even know that if a person isnt even replying to you, what are you going to do of the topics? Topics matter the least.
How would she respond to your texts depends on how she feels about you and how much she is attracted to you. If she is attracted to you she would talk a lot and reply quickly even if you are talking about the most boring topic on the world. Makes sense?
Leaving the personal flaming aside, AGAIN, look at how he ignores the core concepts. Topics matter the most in a conversation, but perhaps, he would know that IF he went on in the field. But, I will humor him, and assume from this point that he doesn't

and still reply..
"Weather"
Him : Hey, how's the weather today?
Her: It's nice. There are so many clouds, I think it might rain!
Him : I know, I love rains!
Her : Me too!
That is ALL you can say about the weather, before you HAVE to change to another topic. Keep talking about the weather, and she'll say what a weirdo.
This is not about pick-up, this is general advice, unless you have a slew of interesting, intelligent topics to hold her or for that matter the other person's interest they won't bother with replying or will just give boring replies like "k".
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And then don says to text her, ok suppose you texted her but if she shows the same behaviour again? How to handle that? Don didnt tell you that because he dont have the reall life experience.
So in short, don offered the most shitty advice that you would ever get.
Now lets analyze your situation.
Were she into you when you met her for the first time? Did she show interest? from your post, i guess yes. You texted a lot and all that. So where is your mistake?
Your possible mistakes are
1. You texted too much and didnt give her personel space.
2. You executed a behaviour that reduced her attraction levels ( neediness, lieing, not standing your ground etc)
and there is only one solution to both of them
BREAK RAPPORT.
Cut off all communication for 2 or 3 days. Let her breathe.
Another reason for her behaviour could be some of her personel issues( could be a fi8 with a fi8, may be someone out of her family died, may be her family issue blah blah blah)
and if thats the case, you dont need to cut off all communication, you need to be there. You dont need to discuss her issues or to be her therapist but you need to be there. Reply her when she texts you, talk to her but dont talk too much. Dont initiate chat with her, just once or twice in a day for an hour maximum(you dont wanna be around her all the time because when she is experiencing bad feelings and you are around her all the time, she would associate those bad feelings to being with you.)
what you need to do now?
Text her and try to figure out the reall issue, read her behaviour and then apply the appropriate solution. I have given you all the information that you need.
Cheers!
khuram
They say, a man tells us a lot more about himself, when he is talking about others. Look at this example and see what we learn about khuram.
Point number 1, in where he talks about not giving her personal space, well, she was comfortable enough to discuss her ex and her past with you, those are BIG personal boundaries and women don't do that very often with guys they've just met. So, claiming "personal space" is well, a shitty excuse since she has no problem with discussing her personal issues. Do not push her, but instead ask her, show genuine interest in knowing, be empathetic but do not be a therapist.
Point number 2, is somewhat valid but I cannot comment on that because you have not provided with the log or even some messages. How khuram can, is well, beyond me.
After that point there is a lot of assumptions.
One thing, I want people to know about posting here, is that unlike my friend khuram here, I DO NOT work on assumptions. I work on the information provided to me. If you are not telling me all your situations in full, I won't be able to give you the solution which will be exact to your problem and there will always be some degree of generalizing in there. So, be honest with your problems. No one here is judging you.
Again, this arguement is fun, but from this point onwards your posts won't be replied to. You can cry about it, shout about it, abuse me, write a poem about, maybe listen to Taylor Swift if that's your thing

.. but, you, sir, will be unequivocally and categorically IGNORED.
And for those who want to use his advice, please go ahead and do so. My way is NOT the only way to do things. But, it's what I can come up with, for you, in your situation. Rest is a factor of trust in my abilities. But, I'll leave that for you to understand who's advice to take and who's to ignore.
Thank you and good luck.