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the easiest way to make sure that a girl wont flake on you after you get her number is to ensure that you text her for the same reason that you got her number for. I often see guys who take a girl's number to send her the details about an exibition and then they text her, "hey, whats up?","when are we meeting up?" and it always freaks them out because that isn't the reason they give you their number for. On the other hand you swap the phone number because you are going to hook them up to a night club and then you contact them for the night club, they are not going to flake because they know what the reason was.
If you look back on the times when a girl flaked on you, you will almost always see the that the reason you got their number is not the same that you are texting them for.
And in addition to that i would like to say that the biggest things happen before getting the phone number, on their qualification.
The more qualified a girl is, the more a girl has worked to get your attention and invested in the interaction, the more reasons she has that you legitimately like her for more than her looks. The more she is going to not flake. Also if you set up a date properly for a specific time and she agrees, that cuts down her flaking a huge amount. and lastly, it's having a good follow up plan. These are reall the ways to cut down their flaking a lot. Very, very little flaking control happens on the phone, most of it happens in the initial interaction.
I hope that helpsy know what the reason was.
If you look back on the times when a girl flaked on you, you will almost always see the that the reason you got their number is not the same that you are texting them for.
And in addition to that i would like to say that the biggest things happen before getting the phone number, on their qualification.
The more qualified a girl is, the more a girl has worked to get your attention and invested in the interaction, the more reasons she has that you legitimately like her for more than her looks. The more she is going to not flake. Also if you set up a date properly for a specific time and she agrees, that cuts down her flaking a huge amount. and lastly, it's having a good follow up plan. These are reall the ways to cut down their flaking a lot. Very, very little flaking control happens on the phone, most of it happens in the initial interaction.
I hope that helps
the point was not that getting a girl to invest in an interaction, will not help your cause, the point was, GIRLS ARE NATURALLY FLAKY, if you are ugly and fat, throw down some really good game, give a girl a really fun time, make her laugh, get her number, but she is not attracted to you physically, only emotionally, no matter how invested in you she is, there is still a fairly decent chance she flakes on a date, that is what I have actually experienced in real life, not just read in some book, and yes there is permanent attraction, a girl will know within 30 seconds of seeing you if physically she would fuck you or not, it is your job from that point to carry the interaction forward, add value instead of trying to take it, spark some emotional attraction, and don't cock-block yourself
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When you've delivered a proper pick up chances are little she will flake. Unless she has a BF she did not mention. And to me a proper pick up starts at around five minutes and having her all over you and totally absorbing your vibe. 1 minute numbers are worth nothing unless you're Brad Pitt or someone of his status.
have you actually gone out and collected 1 minute numbers and tried to follow up?