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I've already made out with her, and we both like each other a fair bit.
I'm sensing we are going to continue dating, because we've been talking a fair bit and she's not worried about hinting out how interested she is (unlike my ex, who was soooo godamn cold. But that's not really relevant, sorry)
SO - I've met her twice, and we made out last time. This is the third time I'll be seeing her.
My question is - how should I behave in order to stop this from ending?
I really like her, so I'm tempted to completely be myself...except my true self has some AFC qualitites which I'm happy to "trim" for the "Greater Good" haha.
For example, If I had it my way I would talk to her once every day via meeting up or cell phone chat, regardless of how often she calls me first. I understand its important to restrict that so that she doesn't feel like she's completely "got me in the bag" at all times.
What else should I be aware of?
Just looking for some very general tips regarding "being available", be it regarding dates, kisses, whatever.
Feeling excited. Tonight should rock.
I think you can handle tonight on your own, just make sure you don't start thinking about what to say or what move to make. If that happens pay close attention to where her body is and what she's saying. Be completely in the moment.
"Power of Now" plug aside, I know exactly the kind of codependent relationship you're looking for, I love it (though ironically Tolle bashes it). I'd talk (texting to calling shift over about 2 weeks) to her every 3 or 4 days at first, moving more frequent gradually. Odds are she'll start texting you on days when you weren't planning to talk to her. DON'T ANSWER. Leave those days off, escalate your time-table at the pace you determined. You should be calling her every day once you're officially dating her (and I think one of you will want to make it official). The shift from excitement sexually to a relationship comes from the phone calls, and I think your phone game is probably good.
I think this'll work out for you, man.