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What was the good advice?? That he should "talk it over" with her? That he should start to be nice to her? It was obviously bad advice, he should have start playing her own game and turn into a jerk.

umm...did you actually read the thread? in just the first 2 pages alone there's tons of posts telling him to leave her, to cut off sex, that she's being manipulative, etc.

i mean, even if you didn't read the whole thread, surely you looked at the first 3 responses. the first one said to bail, the third one said she's lying, and the second one said pretty much both of those things.
He asked for advice on how to fix the situation, "dump her" doesn't count as advice. The advice that he DID get was to talk logically about the situation, to "listen to her", to please her, etc... obviously that didn't work.

People think that "shit tests" end after you have sex with a girl... false. They keep testing you forever. What she did was a "in relationship" shit test and he bought into her frame of him only wanting sex from her and started to apologize for it.

What she needed was to see him getting text messages from other girls wanting to bang him, then her automatic jealousy mechanism would kick in, and she would be coming back to him on her knees. Pleasing never works. Or, he should have flipped the whole frame and not get sucked into it:

"No, I don't only want sex.... is that how you see me? As such a shallow person? I'm not sure we can stay together if this is how you see me, coming from a girl that's X Y Z (pointing to her bad habits)" - and flip the frame onto her and go into attack.

arandomdude6- I don't understand what you're talking about. An open relationship but she CANNOT have sex with other people? That's not an open relationship... anyway it's clear that its all over between you two, now you want to bang another girl... just move on.
Personally if a woman were to tell me that all I want is sex (which HAS happened before), I would simply reply that sex is only one of many things I want, which is actually the truth I need intellectual and emotional stimulation from a woman.


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You don't love her . . . this is scarcity to the MAX.

There is absolutely no way in hell that the two of you are EVER going to have a healthy relationship. Her insecurities are so deeply rooted that it will take years and years (if ever) for her to get over them.

She will do the same thing to the next guy. And the guy after that.

Leave it. Don't waste your time . . .
Alright well we broke up a week ago, and I've had absolutely no trouble finding more hot girls. They all like me but, no matter how many hot girls I have all over me, it doesn't help. They're certainly very attractive, but it just doesn't compare to when I was with my ex. We weren't just having a fling; we were truly compatible, and were alike in too many ways to list. This isn't scarcity. This is love.

When I last talked to my ex a couple days ago, it was following a freeze-out I was giving her. She told me how much she loved me, and that she's sorry because she knows she really fucked up. And that she promised she would explain everything... "just not right now." I'm not sure what her reasoning behind this was, but all I could get out of her was, "I hadn't been happy for a long time. And in the last couple weeks when things WERE good, it was because I was killing myself trying." In addition, her cousin (that was with her the entire time after the breakup) was saying that my ex cried and talked about me nonstop. SO MUCH that the cousin felt like she knew everything about me now lol.

I probably sound like a broken record by now, but I need help. By the way, she's no longer talking to the guy she flirted with. She found out about his plan to play ("Bang and hang") her, and cut off contact with him. This girl just can't get out of my mind. No matter how many other girls I'm surrounded with.


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maybe it is "love".

even so, you need time apart...

plenty of it.

you know the old saying.....

if you love something, set it free, it comes back to you, it is yours, if it doesn't, it was never meant to be. (i believe that)

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maybe it is "love".

even so, you need time apart...

plenty of it.

you know the old saying.....

if you love something, set it free, it comes back to you, it is yours, if it doesn't, it was never meant to be. (i believe that)
Wow holy crap! I basically tried to end my association with her last night, with a super pissed letter. Telling her that I'm tired of putting up with her shit. And suddenly I become her #1 person to talk to. She's been relentless sending me messages ever since! I've never gotten these kinds of results out of her before! I've pasted two below, so you can give your interpretation of them and what my response/reaction should be:

SUBJECT: I'm sorry
OK, I know I'm by far the last person you wanna talk to right now, but I wanna try and explain some things. First off, I always have been in love with you, so don't think otherwise. And I know I fucked up everything, as always. I don't know why I do the stupid shit I do, I just get scared. And I've never thought that you were 100% mine forever. You go out of town so much and you're so amazing, so I've always been paranoid and thought that you could leave me at any second. And I'm not using that as an excuse, it's jus a small part of why I think I'm the way I am. And I know that I hurt you over and over again when I flirt with other guys. And I wish I didn't do that, but it just doesn't click in my head that we're perfect and we'll last forever. And since Missouri (my month-long vacation) it's gotten worse. I was paranoid everyday thinking you were aound beautiful girls who you could easily leave me for. I know you hate me by now for messing up so bad, but I really am sorry. I thought that going on vacation for a while would be good for me and that I could figure out what I want, but I was so wrong. I spent a little bit of each day crying and wishing I could have been a good girlfriend. I hate myself for being so hateful to you. And now I should jus stop talkig. Anyway, I'm sorry. I hope you some day can forget about everything I put you through. Bye, so sorry.

SUBJECT: Please
Please talk to me. I know that I don't deserve even a second of your time after what I've done to you, but I really want to talk to you. I understand that you can't stand me and that you never will be able to again, but please. You were always the one who was willing to wait for me, and talk to me, and to never give up. And now it's my turn, so please, just say something. I know you hate me, I get it and don't blame you. But I wanna know that you're OK. And I wanna know that you can still be happy. I finally realize that I had the worlds most amazing gift and I just didn't care for it enough. I don't know if I did the things I did because of jealousy, or fear, or just pure hate. But I do know hat since we've been apart nothing's the same. I can't sleep, I can't eat, it's like I forgot how to live. I know that you do not wanna be with me, but I need to know that you aren't feeling the pain I am. The last thing I ever want is for you to be in pain. Just please say something, just let me know you got my messages at least. Please.


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don't fall for it.

play nonchalant, say "it's cool baby"

then freeze her out, until she learns to value you

it's too quick.

time is key here.

plenty of time.

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OK so... who was right? Lets hear it.....

Now what you do is this : you meet up, you have sex and you cum..... on her FACE. Very important .... face.

Then you don't call her for a week.

Then you start the relationship all over but you make sure she sees you with other girls, that you take two hours to answer her texts, and that every once in a while you don't answer your phone for 5 or 10 hours.

Once every few days you cum on her face again, or tie her up... the point is - you must keep the drama and the upper hand. With this type of women you must be THE MAN or they lose interest.

Report back...


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OK so... who was right? Lets hear it.....

Now what you do is this : you meet up, you have sex and you cum..... on her FACE. Very important .... face.

Then you don't call her for a week.

Then you start the relationship all over but you make sure she sees you with other girls, that you take two hours to answer her texts, and that every once in a while you don't answer your phone for 5 or 10 hours.

Once every few days you cum on her face again, or tie her up... the point is - you must keep the drama and the upper hand. With this type of women you must be THE MAN or they lose interest.

Report back...
Ok so I just received 2 different pieces of advice. You advised meeting up with her right away, to fuck her, followed by a week-long freeze out. And Mack recommended a short, nonchalant reply with an immediate freeze out and no meet up. Which route should I go? Haha


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That is very disrespectful. She does not like you anymore. She is probably sexing another guy. Dude find yourself a new girl. Women that are into you volunteer sex any time.

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Well guys, the title says it all. Lately my girlfriend has been avoiding sex. We've been together 8 months and have a very strong relationship. But she said "It feels like sex is the main part of our relationship to you. You seem to want it 24/7." Of course this is an exaggeration, but I definitely get horny around a girl as sexy as her. I feel like I always have to push for it, because it's less important to her than it is to me.

Her exact words were "Sex seems like 80% of the relationship to you, and 20% to me."

I'm also the best lover she's ever had. So it's not like I can't satisfy her. I MORE than satisfy her, so I'm really stumped. Any suggestions/explanations? I need help guys.
Mate, its not you its her,
She is so much more complex and emotional than you think dude, she told me herself (just kidding dude). But please know that women dont know what they want or what is good for them, they dont know they are ignorant and those who know they r ignorant do not know how to educate themself!

Its not u brother, if u dont fuck enough ur in trouble, if u fuck enough u r just a horny bastard!

I have dated and lost some amazing women and I learned, they dont have to make sense all the times, and they dont make sense. That is a huge head fuck of having a hot girl, cause the hotter they are, the more they are addicted to drama.

Female in general: Give her ur heart, she wants ur eyes too, giver her ur eyes she will ask for ur kidney.

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if you love something, set it free, it comes back to you, it is yours, if it doesn't, it was never meant to be. (i believe that)
Mack;

You have great posts on this forum but mate I have to disagree with you on this one.

When I love someone, I dont for 1 second want to leave them. How could you get sick of someone you love? I was with Carol for 2.5 years, lived in the same place, or before her Honey, 1 year,,, not 1 day i wanted them out.

This is just emotional rollocoaster, typical female headfuck!

Cheers dude


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I would wait no more than two days... she might come around and decide its better to end it.

The point is this - no more Mr nice guy. From now on just 70% nice guy and 30% JERK. Be the alpha male that doesn't give a fuck.... and the sweet guy, in the same time. Make sweet gentle love to her then all of a sudden grab her hair and pull it strong, then cum on her face and call her your bitch.

She is a drama seeker - give it to her. She will stay with you forever.


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make sure she sees you with other girls, that you take two hours to answer her texts, and that every once in a while you don't answer your phone for 5 or 10 hours.

this is very important. just stop being so available. hot chicks can get any guy they want any time they want. if you're just available to her all the time by insta-answering her calls and texts then there's no challenge for her. once she knows she has you wrapped around her finger, she's going to lose interest. cat-string theory.

just make it seem that she messed things up with you and now youre exploring other options. but dont outright say it. make it apparent through your actions. giving her a facial and calling her your bitch is optional, though.


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