I like the strategy angle. . . "Tell her this or that or omit this or that" as a part of a PU strategy: This is high level thinking. However, this topic is so immature. LOL . . .Why haven't any of you spoken up, "ARE YOU A 5 YEAR OLD RETARD?!?!?" Because this is what developmentally arrested 5 year olds do isn't it?

"Hey ma! Look no hands!" . . . "I am a space shuttle captain" . . . and go on, and on about topics nobody gives a fuck about for hours on end. And here's the job of a loving mother. The loving mother should smile, support the kid's immaturity(because he's a 5 year old after all) and enjoy the moment. The next day she should come back and do the same. Why?

1. Strangers will not do this for a strange child. Sure, you might smile in amusement but you're not going to stand there and wave at the kid for an hour as he goes round and round for an hour nor will you humor him for an hour chatting about total, utter bullshit. No, this is the job of the loving mother/father.

2. A child who does not receive this type of support as a 5 year old will pull the same bullshit to INNOCENT BYSTANDERS as a grown up receiving humiliation and mockery from others.

Let's be serious. Telling chick that you're a pua is like a 35 year old telling a 10 year old that he's a hopscotch coach, being serious about it . . . and being proud of it. And to top it off, anybody who goes around telling others that he's a pua is typically a person with an innate ability repel others as opposed to attracting them. So you're seriously showing off about being a pua . . .but most likely, you suck at it and you're SUCKING AT IT with the person who is standing right in front of you.

Would you like to be in the company of others who like to 'show off' about total utter bullshit? "The the county whack a mole runner-up 2008 . . . 5th place finish at the pimple squeezing contest 2007." - And being serious about it. This is sad . . . almost to the point of being funny.

AS i said if you get a girl, and the girl likes you or digs you, you can tell her i am a pua, i am a player, i have 10 arrest, i did my sister, and she WILL NOT GO ANYWHERE, omg! Sometimes you guys over analyse stuff...Now going around bragging about being a pua is child like behavior, but this guy did not do that, you have some type of oneitis...

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I wouldn't advise advertising that you're a PUA, but don't hide it either. Hiding it is like hiding who you really are. You are who you are, admit it, be honest. My current girlfriend knows. What's the big deal?

Also, kasabi, after reading some of your posts I get the impression that you're a very negative person who I would not like to have around.

Uhoh, now look what you've done: you've woken up kasabi!

I think you make an excellent point. You shouldn't bother bringing it up.

But that isn't always your choice. In my case, I was with another guy and both of our dates, and he started blabbing about me seducing women, because he was an idiot. And he presented it distastefully. Telling the girl I was a "dating coach" actually helped me out some, got me out of that hole, and in some odd way scored me points with that girl.

That being said, though, you're right and I wouldn't bring up that topic on my own. Then I'd be no better than my idiot buddy. I do, however think it is good to know how to deal with this situation in case it ever occurs like it did to me.

You're assuming the spirit of this post refers to bragging. It's not. Maybe you've never been in love. But people who are in love with each other share intimate things about themselves. Telling her about my, 'interest' just felt natural. Pick-up is a large part of my life and I felt compelled to share that part of my life with her. So she could know the real me more fully and to understand her special place in my life.

This post is not referring to a guy who might wear a, 'pussy slayer' t-shirt, in order to brag about his PUAness. Sure it could be, but from what I've said, in the spirit of this post it's quite clear that's not the issue, nor what I'm about.

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Again I have to disagree. Guys talk to each other about pickup all the time, even non PUA guys. They share stories, conquests, highlights and near misses.

This means that naturally, in an everyday conversation about pick-up, the community, PUA and The Game could easily be raised as topics of discussion. This does not make you a social retard. I'm sure we've all shared it with friends at some stage. This is natural.

The only time what you're saying could be true is if a guy wearing his, 'pussy slayer' tshirt moves around a bar whispering in girls ears that he's PUA. Then your point would be correct, because this is creepy and unnatural. But I don't think anyone here is like that or talking about that when we discuss, "telling a girl you're pua".

Why do you feel the need to say it. When a girl sees me taking calls and texting other chicks when im on a date with her, thats is pretty much implied.

The best way is to also mention it in conversations with her. "what you doing after this? Thats sound bla bla. I get hungry really fast good thing i get free food at audrey's place." if she ask whos audrey, say "oh shes a really good friend."

At that point some chicks tend to drift away if they start to get that you are a player, but you pull them back with fun and excitement.

In my expereince a lot of problems arise after the f-close where they start thinking about monogamy, which is the point where i give them my "speech." which basically is my way of telling them that they are "special" in a certain way and that is what captivates me. But bla bla bla this is me, i do thing such and suh becuase of such and such, and so i would understand if you dont want to deal with me. Its like a "bluff," and i love these powerplays in pick up where everything is on the line, the weaker player folds and agrees to the stronger one. If the power is not at your side she will turn the bluff unto you. Perhaps that is what happened here.

I have never stated im a PUA, not saying you shouldnt but youd need to be pretty damn smooth to reframe it in a way that wont make you look bad.

Lol the only timei stated im a pua was a time that i sarged a girl at a supermarket asking a question the setfailed (shes was boring and non responsive) and then i run across her AGAIN at a different supermarket asking her tye same quesrion xD. At that point i felt like a stalker so i said "im a pua, i try to pick up girls" just so she wont start panicking and call call the police. And then i ran away with my tail between my legs.

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I haven't even read the topic, ill just say, why bite the hand that feeds you?

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Why would you tell that? She should smell it all over the place that you are the greatest Cassanova of this time. Pleasuring girls is what you do, she knows it so she will work harder on you beeing hers.

PUA is not so much about saying stuff, it's about doing it. Girls I have slept with know I have other woman by the way I act.

Riqueza.

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I agree with Zappo & Kasabi here.

It comes down to context and delivery.

I've told girls I do pick-up.

But I dont relay it in a cheese-ball manner.

In fact,I've never had a girl lose interest or reject me because she fount out I seduce.

So it comes down to ulterior motives.

If you're telling her you're a PUA,hoping this would make her want you more,is the wrong frame.

Telling her you're a PUA to somewhat challenge her to try resist you is a better frame.

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Well this is what happened to me tonight:

My friend told this chick that we were talking to, that I'm gamer and at first she had a reaction like "You're not fair.", so I threw neg at her about being judgemental about people and then just chilled like it never even happened, talking forward normally, acting normally and she accepted this reality in about 30 seconds or less, she new I was gaming her, she knew what I was doing and guess what she let me do that, cause I didn't care and by that she didn't care.

But maybe this doesn't counts CAUSE WE WERE SO WASTED THAT WE DON'T EVEN REMEMBER WHERE WE WERE LAST NIGHT.

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Haha, good result!

Yeah if it worked for you that's great. I don't meet girls in clubs/bars/shopping centers and tell them I'm PUA, if that's what everyone's thinking. I more meant when you're in a relationship with a girl.

Delivery is very important.

Once she is totally in love with you, you first tell her that you were a lot out meeting new people for the last few years.

Few days later (good occasion is when she tells you something bad about her and is scared that YOU will not like her for it) you should use the sentence that Style used in "The Game" (last chapter, one section before the last one).

I've spent three years clubbing, partying and meeting every girl in [your city/country] but out of them all I chose YOU.

I told this to one of the girls I picked up and she totally liked it. It's a little not-PUA-sentence, but it works. It worked with Style and also with me.

Yeah well if you're in a relationship with a girl I think that she deserves to know. I mean don't brag about it, like saying things: "My score 135... I banged 3 strippers last Friday... With my GAME I can seduce any girl..."
More important then telling her how you do it, is why you do it. How did you began your journey, why did you decided to get into this, what drived you on...
If she's in a relationship with you, she'll understand.

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Thankyou! You have nailed the essence of what I'm saying here. I'm glad someone understands it's not about, 'bragging' or, 'showing off' but sharing a part of yourself with someone you care about. In the future I will probably avoid it, only because there's a risk she will not understand and it's not worth the headache.

On the same note, different girls will take it differently. If it's going to be shared with a serious partner, it would be worth calibrating whether or what you say, depending on the type of girl you're dealing with.

If you are in a relationship(me 4 years going to 5) the girl will appreciate honesty, isn't being a pua part of who you are, she will appreciate more that you been with some many girls that you got that out of the system, and now you are with her, for me that works for my advantage... for the 100Th time you can tell a girl anything if she really likes you, she ain't going anywhere, you guys over analyse everything, this guy had some mild case of onitis, period end of story..

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