this is more me whining than actually asking advice but anyway, here goes...

so two days from now, my one-itis, my first and only serious LTR girl, the only girl who i ever loved, is going to step through my door and attend my roomies graduation party.

And it scares the living crap out of me!

the background is that we dated, first for 9 months, then she cheated and broke up with me, then we went on to what i like to call my maniodepressive era, basicly a time i spent not sleeping at night except with every girl i could get within 5 feet of somewhere relatively private, which was...

...quite a lot of girls, basicly I felt like crap, i can imagine most if not everyone has tried this, then after one and a half year of this, i was finally getting over her.
She shows up again (after 2 years), but this time around i've been gaming for eighteen months, so I figure, I'll be damn if i'm loosing this break up!

Well, basicly we end up dating, though it isn't in any way what i expected, since i still had all that shit from the last breakup making me feel rotten, and sure enough after a couple of months, i cheat on her and break up.

now, i hate myself for doing that almost as much as i hate her for doing it the first time, but i still have feelings for this girl, and the thought of her bringing or hitting on some dude, at this party just makes me want to rip off cocks and sodomize their owners with them...

...now i am not a violent dude, nor am i in any way the jealous type, but something about this girl just pushes all my paranoid monogami buttons.

So, should i game her for a lay, game other girls for the win (and jealousy) or just play it cool?
and any pointers on selfcontrol, and frame of mind will be greatly appreciated and help keep me out of the slammer

ty guys!

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"seduction isn’t making someone do what they don’t want to do. Seduction is enticing someone into doing what they secretly want to do already".
-Waiter Rant

I think you guys have done enough damage to each other from what i can read. I wouldn't game her because you'll both bring up bad memories and feelings which can escalate.

That leaves you two options, which in my opinion are the better ones. Good luck and have fun!

i agree with Wasted.

Besides, always stay unaffected and be the better person

I think that you should come up with a story that your Aunt Petunia in Montana died and that you need to leave town for week.

You're a trainwreck waiting to happen.

And I'm serious and not kidding around.

And you are not wrong either, man this thing is the most dangerous thing I ever emotionally attented and it sucks, but still, I'm going to try and get something out of it...

...I'm not going to intentionally game her, so much of this stuff is already integrated in my habits and everyday behaviour that i cant "not game her" but I think there will be a lot of alcohol, a little heart to heart and hopefully some hot resolving of issues, if not...

...more alcohol, besides my mates will be there and they know it's a big deal for me so hopefully they'll keep my ass in check.

I'll tell them to slap me repeatedly if i even intent on doing something dumb.

great advice all around guys, thank you

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"seduction isn’t making someone do what they don’t want to do. Seduction is enticing someone into doing what they secretly want to do already".
-Waiter Rant

This is going to end badly for you. You are a lose cannon and you have not healed and recovered from all your emotional baggage from when you split up. You are not in an emotional state to conduct yourself in a rational or appropriate manner.

Throw in all the alcohol and all of your hostile feelings towards her and the people she hooks up with and this is a perfect storm and you are going to be the one coming out looking like the psycho butthole.

Trust me, Montana is really nice this time of year.

Never drink when you're angry/sad. It may help for a little while, but that's an hour at best, then its a night of being even angrier or sadder.

By coming to a forum to ask a question, you gotta admit that other people that aren't as emotionally invested may be able to think more clearly about your situation. That being said, people aren't telling you to leave her alone because they are mean. They are doing it because countless experiences we have all had or seen our friends endure imply the odds are miniscule of you accomplishing anything. Even you're original statement "I'm not gonna lose this breakup" shows that you aren't fully healed fron the original hurt. In the end a breakup has no winners and losers. If one person is hurt at first, it fades because the relationship was bound to end at some point.

Leave it alone, leave her alone, and focus on your own happiness. Just be civil if she talks to you.

I know, thats why i complimented them and thanked them for their comments.
My original statement from the first breakup
pps: I'll check in once this night is over
What fades?
seriously I think you misunderstood a little bit of everything, I am in no way saying that the advice I've gotten tonight is because anyone is being mean, i actually think all of the advice so far has been great.

@Wasted and Anthonypham gave great advice, and I probably would have gone with: "game her, game her ever so much after a bottle of vodka" if not for them, because I am too emotionally invested.

though I still think @here2play's advice is the best, had i been able to ditch this I would.
everything that guy has said so far has been ever so true and yet it made me laugh a little.

So night saved boys, and thank you very much!

ps: This i can get behind too

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"seduction isn’t making someone do what they don’t want to do. Seduction is enticing someone into doing what they secretly want to do already".
-Waiter Rant

I hope it turns out well for you mate, good luck!

In on potential shiit storm.. OP you are very much going to regret this.. I know it's tough but you need to remain completely unaffected by it however your strong emotions for this girl is going to completely take over.. I suggest not being around..

the resulting situation will be loss of self respect, respect from her.

When I got one-itus I was mature enough to know that I was unstable so i distanced myself completely.. and I mean completely!. I never made a fool of myself, the girls gone anyway man.. you just haven't accepted it yet.




Anyway, she cheated on you.. why do you even want her? One-itus never happened to me with a cheating whore..

Yea, it's not clear why you want her. But if you DO want her, I would come to the party with ANOTHER GIRL. But maybe it's too late already... so let us know how it went.