Got this girl’s number, went out for a date, we’ve been texting a bit since. We had provisionally made arrangements for a drink this week and I text her today the following:

Me: Hiya, how was ur run today? (she did a charity run) I’ve had 2nd thoughts about our drink next week if ur a …. Fan (the sports club she supports). I’ll make u a deal, if u say u don’t support them that much we can go for that drink next Wed or Thurs ?

HB: It was great! Did it in 31 min. What a shame, was looking forward to that drink. Never mind. Always a ……. fan

Me: Wow, that was quick, u must be tired after that. Yeah ur too stubborn for me, I don’t think this will work out

Not had a reply yet.

I’ve got myself in it here lol. Didn’t think she would respond like that. Was my response ok?

And how would you get out of this one if you were me?

You negged her when you didn't need to. She was looking forward to going for a drink at least. To recover you're going to have to DHV some way. Don't text her for a day or two and forget that you fucked up here and go back to being the real you.

Imo it's possible she could be just using you as someone to go and have a drink with since you said you weren't expecting her to respond like that. Step up your inner game and assume always that of course the girl will accept your invitation. It would be rude of any girl not to. You're the man. Step it up.

Thanks. I didn’t think she would respond like that but from her response I’m pretty sure she’s joking and calling me at my own bluff. I’m sure she’ll still go out for a drink with me but I’m wondering how I get out of this one without lowering my value. If I say I’m only joking for example, I’ll have gone back on what I said and it will lower my value etc.

Hopefully this wasn’t a massive fuck up lol

yeah, i dont really see why you had to make her work for the date in that way. its so random and i'm sure most girls would reply in that way, unless you had developed a lot of attraction that she was still feeling.

she probably knows you were joking, even if she doesnt its fine.

i think you gave her too much value when you said i think you should have made it more of a thing that you were doing anyway and that you were giving her the opportunity to join. it should have been something like:
I want (i am) to go out for drinks on thursday. do you know any good places? ...hmm.. i suppose you could come along, if you promise to behave.

if she says she wont behave, then she's just paying and she's coming, if she does promise to behave you can tease her most of the night on maintaining her good behaviour or she wont go out with you again. she might say she's busy, this could be genuine, or you didnt build up enough attraction during your meeting with her.

to salvage your situation, i think you should just text after two days, unless she has replied, in which case you adapt to that reply.
Respect, loyalty to your team, well done. so thursday or friday? . . . ps. team name sucks

kuja is right, assume she wants you and its always on. i'm not sure about giving her the option to choose which day. women like decisive men. however you could always just change it around and if she says thursday, reply with friday it is ...

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really? did you have to ask her about your next date way a head of time?

If after 1 or 2 dates I got a txt like that from even a perfect 10, My thoughts would be, "have a nice life bitch."

you only had one date with her so she doesn't know anything about your sense of humor or can tell if you are joking or serious or just being an asshole.

Women have their own set of insecurities and hangups and while some good natured teasing may help show that you aren't intimidated, being a jerk is just...well..being a jerk.

IMHO that was too much and wasn't necessary.

It also highlights the danger of txting. txting is flat and emotionless and it's hard sometimes for people to take things in the context it was meant. You may have been able to say that face to face and it would have been taken OK because she would be able to see your facial expressions, hear your voice tonality and would have been able to have put it in the context of the larger conversation but in a txt it is just you sounding like a overbearing jerk.

A face to face explaination might clear this up or it might not.

lol

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Thanks for your reply.
It wasn't actually too random because we had already made a joke out of her sports team in previous texts, but it was very stupid of me nonetheless lol.
Actually I was using this as a way to try and balance the neg, though probably unsuccessfully.
Thankfully, I have managed to salvage the situation. I text her today something along the lines you mentioned, and we're going for drinks this Wednesday. A lesson learned. Thanks for this!
Believe it or not, I offered her 2 days as I wanted to show I was busy for the other days, rather than suggest a day and she says she can't make it, and so on... What would you recommend?

I certainly see what you're saying. I guess I was trying to still be challenging to her and make a joke out of it. I didn’t want to confirm the date in an AFC kind of way.

Thankfully, as you can see from my previous post, no harm done. I think I'm fortunate in the sense that - as I could tell from the first time we met, our 1st date and our texts - she really did/does quite like me. Hopefully I won’t mess up the 2nd date!

A neg has to contrive other feelings, such as humour, awe or amazement. You can't just bring it up out of the blue. I think you should go on and pretend this never happened. Try calling her and tell her "anyway so let's go to x,y,z and have a drink". If you really care, that is. Don't wait for it or otherwise you'd lose your window of opportunity.

everything is cool now. you got your date, just learn from your mistakes and you'l get awesomer at PU. btw i made a post on phone game, dont know if its of any use so you guys can check it out and add to it.

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