i don't claim to be an expert in phone/text game, but i feel it is a common sticking point that many people have encountered. i am writing this post to try and advise guys on what they could do.
i do not claim it works, but from my experience it is effective, all it is, is
a set of principles i keep to regarding phone game. i know there are more experienced guys out there so if you disagree entirely with my views, throw your stones, say what you need to, but
PLEASE contribute to this post so guys can actually benefit from it and get over this sticking point.
Quite a large amount of guys choose to play the numbers game. this is kind of what i do as well. this is only because my logistics never work out for getting laid (have started considering bathroom sex, blowjobs and such).
In the next few sections i will discuss what options you have when you approach you phone game. The point is for you to take what suits you, apply it, and then master it.
DO NOT OVER THINK THINGS. Girls will not analyse a message or call as deeply as guys do, unless your tone forces them to.
1) Text or Phone call
Personally, i prefer phone calls.
Phone call
pros:
personal, immediate and decisive, thoughtful and sincere, higher likelihood of response (answer)
cons:
try hard, placing too much value on target
Texts
pros:
quick, precise, potential for fun, could convey that you are busy, potentially convey higher value
cons:
detatched, lower likelihood of response
Both can be argued for as the alpha choice to make. This is entirely up to the individual. You may want to follow the social convention in your region for this.
In South Africa, everyone has access to IM mobile applications: BBM, SPAM, MXit. The social convention would be to add the target on one of these platforms and then casually communicate with her.
The choice you choose to make is entirely personal style. You may realise that one type of response would work better with certain types of girls. The method with which you choose to initiate conversation will be something she will think about, but please do not over think this.
The most important part of initial contact is the content.
2) Timing
How long to wait before the first interaction (call/text)
How long to wait to reply to her reply
How long to wait to send another message if she hasn't replied to the first
This really gets to me, and i'm sure many targets as well. Guys choose to wait a set period of time before their first contact. For most people that amount of time is 3 days.
DO NOT FOLLOW THIS CONVENTION.
YOU: Why guesss? Why should i not follow this convention?
GUESSS: I'm glad you asked. Simply, because its stupid.
If you want to contact a chick, grow some balls and actually do it. People say that the 3 day rule or whatever time period the chose to tell you is effective because it is the ideal time where you don't seem too keen and don't seem to disinterested.
As a PUA and an alpha, you are not limited by these social conventions. If you're reading this you are probably educated in PUA techniques or are learning. You should understand by now that what got you her number was probably your uniqueness. You were NOT the same as everyone else, you were different and that is why you are there with her number.
Just think about it for a while. Unless you used some weird technique to extract her number,
she willingly gave it to you, which is permission to actually use it.
Phone/Text her at your convenience. You can contact her the following day, just as long as the reason for contact is valid.
The following is under the assumption that the text route has been taken...
If she contacts you first, take it as an IOI. Do not expect this to happen too often.
The key to replying and doing so at leisure is don't set time for your reply.
If you are pre-occupied, whatever you are doing at that time is more important. Once you have some free time you may reply.
Another important factor to consider when replying, is that
the person that ends the conversation or doesn't reply, has the power. I have read so many posts where guys are going crazy because a girl has not replied to their last message. They may have played a smooth game, but proceed to f*ck it up by sending many other messages after their last (or first) one, hoping that they'll get a reply. They seem totally mind screwed because they don't know why she hasn't replied and they keep pussying around and start doubting their game. If you manage to end the texting first, this will NOT occur.
This brings up an important mindset.
You cannot place so much value on a girl. By placing so much value that you so desperately require a reply to calm your nerves you are starting to develop one-itits,
she is not that important, even if she is, you cannot allow her the power. If for some reason you were having a text convo that just died out suddenly, DO NOT FREAK. She is missing out on texting with someone as awesome as you, it is HER loss. Now that you have read this, you will be prepared in the event that this happens, however if you end the conversation suddenly as i have described, then she will be left wondering. It will not phase here at all if she is awesome herself and knows that you're missing out on her, unlikely.
3) Content
This is another area guys tend to cock up.
Guys will send a text that has a funny comment so as to initiate conversation, usually together with a "how you doing" line, a nice sentiment and some comment on the last time time you have seen her as well as your desire to see her again. Not always in that order. i'm sure you have sent this message before and do not need an example.
Even though i am against such a message it may derive a response, which is fine, the text convo can continue as long as you remember the advice from 2).
YOU: What do i do after she has stopped replying or when i have stopped or ended the text?
GUESSS: I'm glad you asked, again. It's like your in my head with the aptness of your questions, mysterious 2nd person speaker.
When you reach this phase,
you should not re-initiate convo unless she replies or re-initiates it herself.
Just btw, you shouldn't be texting if you're not interested on her. So dont waste time replying msgs to fugly girls unless you intend to use them as a pivot for their hot friends.
So at this time you have either ended texting or have not initiated texting because like me, the above generic initial message does not suit your style. So what text do you send now?
Your next text will be an invitation to some event... dinner, drinks, lunch, going out.
The manner in which you word this invitation will determine whether she will accept or not, unless ofcourse she is genuinely busy, it would be ideal if you try and make sure that you know whether she is busy or not before you propose a time.
The invitation should imply that you were going to the place anyway, and you are simply offering her the opportunity to join you and experience your awesomeness once again. You should make the invitation something she has to work for, like you expect something in return (not sexual). The tone has to be playful and fun, like your attitude.
I am to going out for drinks on thursday. do you know any good places? ...hmm.. i suppose you could come along, if you promise to behave.
if she says she wont behave, then she's just playing and she's coming, if she does promise to behave you can tease her most of the night on maintaining her good behaviour or she won't be allowed to go out with you again. she might say she's busy, this could be genuine, or you didnt build up enough attraction during your meeting with her.
Another invitation text
Dear Green dress girl. i need your help. They're after me. You're not safe. meet me at place/pick you up at time. 
Ok, so i've just given you some guidelines to follow and created a thread people can refer to when experiencing sticking points with phone game. I focused on texting because that seems to be the more common game choice from the posts I have read.
i really hope this post is useful, firstly because it would mean the last hour or so of my life would not have been a waste. Follow my advice as guides and i hope your success will be similar as mine. That is why i have posted this. I do understand that game is usually international but phone game can be a bit more cultural depending where you're from so this might not work everywhere, i know it works in my region just fine. If you do have any criticism please comment and actually contribute to this post with some input to the subject matter.
thanks for reading
CHAT
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