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she'd ask about the girl I'd ignore her and she say something like "I'm sorry none of my business I shouldn't be asking that, blah blah."
ok dude - so this ^ was ur first cue that she is immature (19) and the jealous type. You are a 26 yr old mature guy that picked her up drunk at a party. There's going to be underlying shit here - ur an older guy picking up a younger girl - she saw u hitting on other girls. Girls this age arent as comfy with this behavior. So u had to put some work in.
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I invited her over and she drove down to my Apt. We walked down to the store to get some drinks, came back put a movie on, I was trying to build comfort the whole time.
this ^ was great. Movie is classic hook-up move, works every time. And the comfort building is def what u needed to work on. From the rest of the post it appears u DIDNT build enough comfort for her - but ill get to that.
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Eventually i had her come close to me and she snuggled up against me... I started making out with her about 10-15 minutes later....Everything was going good and i started feeling her boobs taking off her shirt and so on..she took my hand kept moving it down.. So i started fingering her...but she wouldn't let me take off her pants. I told her lets go to my room but she refused. She was in the moment and asked for a condom..
So you know the attraction is there. SHE TOLD U TO GET A CONDDOM. You're mistake is that u gave her time to think about it - like u said - she was "in the moment".... KEEP HER THERE - dont talk! when she said that - i would have givin her a quick passionate kiss, grabbd her by the hand and LED her to ur room. IF she said why in ur room - u say ur bed is more comfy - NOT THAT UR ROOMMATE IS COMING HOME!!! u already know shes worried about being a slut - she's not going to like the idea of some other dude possibly being there or even walking in or hearing etc etc etc. So it was kinda ur fault dude - u had her! and she wanted it.
so u made 2 mistakes
1. talking/giving her time to back out
2. mentioning the roommate when talking
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She said no again and then she was getting second thoughts about sex...she obviously didn't want to be thought of as a slut....she mentioned being a slut a few times.. i tried going around it..and eventually tried the freeze out by watching TV and that sort..but it didn't work..
the freeze out didnt work ^ because she was worried about ur roommate - the hook-up was over at that point
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my roomate ended up coming in
nail in the coffin - prior to hooking up with her i would have texted him and told him 2 give u some time
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I sent her a text saying i knew she was too young for me...im 26 she is 19..
Ah man u shouldnt have done that. What was the purpose of that? did u decide u didnt want to hook up with her? or were u trying to neg her? If u were trying to neg her .... WHY. u were already in her pants dude.
for damage control i woulda been like - next time we can hang out at ur place where ull be more comfy etc etc
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she responded with "yeah you weren't my type". i said "cool" and thats that.
bullsht dude - she wanted a condom - u were her type, but unfortunately u blew it. saying u werent my type is saying - yeah u gave me time to realize that ur a 26 yr old player picking up 19 yr old girls for sex after a day
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and is this one still salvageable or should i save face and just forget her?
im really not sure. that text was a bad idea. i mean this was just some girl at a party right? so no harm in trying - not like shes a friend or u work with her etc
try texting her and playing it cool start over kinda - u need to rebuild comfort
try and get her to go to a party ur going to
"hey party @ ___ @___pm, it's going to be awesome" etc etc
it was a great pick-up - just a few details f'd u up with an easily freakd out lil girl thats all
you sarge and you learn
any other questions let me know man
cheers