| I suggest reading The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle.
Tolle basically talks about living in the NOW, and when you encounter AA you're not living in the NOW, but thinking about the PAST or the FUTURE.
When you encounter AA, your mind wanders off and you start thinking about painful PAST experiences or thinking about that she might reject you, thinking about the FUTURE. He talks about this more in depth in The Power of Now.
The next time you have AA, I will guarantee you will start thinking about your past or about the future, and if you do, examine your thoughts and watch them.
If its a past experience with a girl, examine your thoughts about what you did wrong, understand why it was wrong, and then don't do that. The girl rejecting you is an example of the future, but that is just an illusion that you just made up. You don't know if that illusion becomes a reality.
Don't think about it, just do, especially when it comes to talking to girls. What's the worst thing that could happen? Get rejected? Yup, that's the worst thing that could happen. But so fucking what? Move on. Shrug your shoulders, say "it was nice meeting you" and approach another girl.
Now, if you don't approach because you don't know what to say to open her, from the words of Nikki played by Ashton Kutcher in the movie Spread "...there's only one pick-up line. Everything else is cheese." He approaches a girl, maintains eye contact and says:
"Hi! What's your name?"
That's it! Spot a girl, if she sees you then maintain eye contact, walk up to her and ask her name. She will then tell you her name, you introduce yourself and, from there, you can say whatever the fuck you want.
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