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Ok, what are some good ways of showing what you want without being so direct?
This kind of thinking will never get you laid. You WANT to be direct. Show her that you're sexually interested in her. It has to be done sooner or later, or you will very rarely score.
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Where would you go from the point where you're lying in bed together but are making no physical contact yet, maybe put an arm around her? Is that too sudden and direct?
You never want to be in this situation. If she's comfortable lying in bed with you and there has been ZERO sexual vibing from the moment you met up until now - you have a big problem. The sexual touching and the whole 'direct' part (which you are clearly trying to avoid) should be shown MUCH before you end up in this situation.
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Open to swift rejection without a smoother build up? Or if you're lying there "spooning" but nothing is going on, what would you do next?
Same applies here as ^above . . . But since you're already in this situation, I can only try helping you from this angle. IF you're in a situation where you are lying in bed with a girl and you're 'spooning' or whatever - and you haven't shown any sexual interest, you obviously have no choice but to try doing it NOW. It might already be too late at this point, so you're gonna have to take a risk.
If she's a good friend that you don't want to risk losing - then don't do anything. Keep her as a friend.
If you're OK with the risk of losing her to get laid or have her as a girlfriend - read on.
You're lying in bed with her and nothing is going on. What I would do is start caressing her hand for starters. Just to see if she will reciprocate to that. If she does, it's a HUGE signal. But since you most definitely have been friendzoned, this can also be a friendly hand caress that means nothing at all.
Meaning that things need to spice up even more from this point.
What I would do next is start playing with her hair and telling her she smells good. If she's still OK with this, I would move on and gently kiss her neck.
Friendzone or no friendzone - if she's OK with ^that last part, you can DEFINITELY just go ahead and kiss her on the lips and start making out with her.
How you pursue things from now is up to you.
Nevertheless, quit trying to avoid being 'direct' all the time. Sooner or later, you need to start showing sexual interest. And in my opinion, doing it sooner saves you time and gives you results faster.