| i see what you are saying now.
things are going good, but you also realize you might be making some mistakes, such as:
- always being the one to initiate contact
- talking / seeing eachother too much
ok. well, yeah. but you need to be careful as things are going pretty good, you don't want to hurt her by "changing" all of a sudden, especially if you've got a really good girl there. i mean, it sounds like you really like her more than just a piece of ass. so, she's your GF, not just a lay. there is a difference.
i would slowly start setting some ground rules for yourself, but be prepared to explain yourself in a nice and truthful way.
if you want to start initiating time apart from her, then you need to find things to fill your time with, so that when she says "hey, where are you?" you can be like "oh, hey baby, it's wednesday night. you know i go to the gym on wednesday night" (an example)
use these things to actually develop time away from her. maybe studying on one particular night for school/college/whatever, going to the gym (or even working out at home) another night. needing to visit with your family another night. so she knows that you are not always available, and that you have a life outside of her, and that you don't spend every minute thinking of her.
about the initiating contact thing, that can be a little bit trickier as you have already established a pattern that you are always going to be the one doing it, so if you "take that away" her feline senses will tell her that you are powertripping and she will freak out.
maybe some of the other guys will have advice on that part.
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