I met this girl in a bar and we texted a bit and we just had like a date. She wasn't your typical hotty, but I thought she was pretty sexy (I wasn't drunk at all). But now that I saw her the 2nd time I didn't find her attractive and felt a bit emberassed to be seen with her. She shows interest and I have been giving clear indicators of wanting to be together..

I feel really shallow now, but I'm thinking of rejecting her solely based on the fact that I think she's not pretty enough and people are going to say shit about it behind my back.

Obv this will be my own call, but what do you guys think?

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smack-in-the-faceclose

Shallow or not, if you aren't physically attracted to a girl, there's nothing there. And even worse, if you feel embarrassed to be seen with her, don't bother pursuing that.
Yes, it's shallow. But no matter the case, you two are both wasting your time if you have no intentions of doing anything with her.

uhu, but I'm thinking maybe I'll get that feeling from before back..

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smack-in-the-faceclose

been there, done that.

waste of time if you don't ever want to have sex with her. If you still do want to have sex with her, could be a fuck buddy.

I would say that the whole "embarrassed to be seen with her" thing is sort of an extreme reaction considering that you didn't feel that way on the first date. Were you actually drunk ? Were you just really horny ?

No, that's the strange part. I was drinking coca cola the whole night. I even took the time to look at her face to see there were any strange things that I missed (which is pretty bizzar in the first place) so I wouldn't regret anythin in the morning. Yesterday was the 'first date' The first encounter was in the club.
I met her in the club and I bounced her ouside for a moment there.

Maybe she just had a badhairday or something. I know I don't look the same every day either. But then again if I meet her again and decide to not get involved she's gonna think i'm a total jerk.

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smack-in-the-faceclose

I have been on this situation before, once it happened when I met a girl through Myspace, she looked like a hot body and all, and when I met her on real, she was skinny, she still had a nice body, but it didn't looked as "full" as in the pictures, I still liked her.
When girls go out they dress to impress, a girl friend once told me "We girls dress for other girls" .. you know how girls are always saying "oh she looks ______" ... so thats when you meet a girl at a club you almost see her at her best day, mini skirt with legs just shaved, 1 hour getting the make up done and another hour getting the hair done.
Ive been on this situation as well, met one at her best day, the second day was still good, and then she just went downhill from there, she wasn't ugly, she just didn't looked as sexy as the other days.
Same with my current GF some days she looks tired and weak, while other days she looks really sexy and hot.
Now, to the part where youre afraid people will talk about you behind your back about her, well, who cares?? If you're happy thats all that matters man, what if she isn't Liv Tyler.
If you're happy go for it, thats all that matters in the end, and you only have to listen to one person: YOU!

Well you can either lead her on or cut things short before its too late.

find out about her as much as you can. make a list of qualities you are looking for in a perfect girl: looks, humor, honesty, opennes, etc. and rate her from zero to five on each. this girl, just give her like a one or a zero in the looks scale, but investigate the other areas. Look for things you can enjoy about her. give her a chance, and then if you still dont like her, well hey, you just got to know another woman, and that is one step closer to your goal - understanding women in general. nobody says you should date her or do anything physical. in fact even if she was attractive, you might not want to date the first woman that comes around, but shop around first before you settle for a gf. lonely people go around finding fault in others and dismissing women becaue they are not good looking or for some other reason. instead focus on what you enjoy about this woman. but dont feel guilty like you have to pretend you like her - she wont appreciate fakeness.
i have several friends who have fat gf's and nobody talks about them. my teenage cousin rolled his eyes about his gf and said omg i cant believe he is dating her, but he does not care. people dont care about you as much as you wish they did, they dont care who you are dating, sorry, people are too self centered to care. i personally dont care how gf looks, although i think you prob care about how my gf looks, but of course you dont, that's just social anxiety making me think these distorted thoughts!

It's okay, you find her ugly and don't want to be judged hanging out with her, then DON'T. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

If your not attracted to her, then your not attracted to her.

But I have to tell you, stop caring what others thinks.

Anyone who says looks dont matter's a fucking liar. Let me put it in it's lowest common denominator - you dont jerk off to a girls personality. Men are visual creatures, emotional 2nd, women are the other way around.

The reason why she looked sexy in a bar and not in a daytime is lights+make up. That happens quite often. That's why I like daygame more.

Concerning looks.

One night stand-looks are most important. But not too slutty. (if she's hot + slutty, I'd be worried about STDs)

FB-the same

FWB- looks + fun personality

LTR-looks matter + interesting personality + intellect( I simply love educated and wise girls-can't stand stupiduty.)