Recently a girl said to me: "I can notice your suuuch a player" and I responded C&F on this, while later on the convo she pushed out the awnser out of the question "Do you flirt with different women too?" and I just can't lie, out of self-respect, and respect to the other, which I awnsered "yes"

For so far, this girl KNOWS I'm not looking for a relationship even before we shared the bed and I don't know for sure, but I think this girl isn't out for a relationship either. But suddenly she got less happy when I awnsered with a "yes"

She got upset because I'm a 'player' and I flirt with different women, while we both aren't looking for an LTR. Actually idc much what happens next, but I can't stop but wonder:

- Am I actually a player, if I dont lie to women
- What made this girl upset and less happy since were both not out for a relationship.

I'd like to hear your opinions on this

Maybe it made the interaction seem less genuine for her, personally that is. If shes your age she may have had less experience, you know at 16 girls are used to either seeing each other or 'going steady'. Or maybe she liked you and got hurt a little, doesn't mean she's lost attraction though.

You could always frame it so it seems normal and she may end up agreeing.

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Looks like a shittest to me. If you say yes-fail. If you say no-fail. If you say yes, but amplify it many times you win.

e.g. "Hell yeah-but I'm retiring-so many girls is waaay to much-even for me." and smile.

Agreed. But I usually use the response:
"You know your the only girl for me"
or
"I'm just a lover."

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almost forgot.

You can also just shut-up and look at her seductively. Then smile, look away, look back in her eyes. Basically ignore the shittest. (60yoc)

Tested-works great. Especially at night. In day time might be a bit weird, so you can do this and then say yes and amplify.

To me it IS actually normal, since I'm not out for a relationship. I ain't gonna stay with her forever, so I flirt with different girls. I assume were both looking for just a good time, with no strings attached, but still she got upset.

I do know she didin't lose attraction, and I think maybe she liked me more then just 'having a good time together.' Altough, I wouldn't want to hurt anyone's feelings tho. I always TELL them I'm not out for a relationship before we actually do something, So the choice is to her if she wants to JUST have a good time or not.

yes but if you don't frame it like its normal it doesn't matter what you think.

you could do it by talking about how pointless relationships are and how its cool when 2 people just hang out and have fun, that way you haven't explicitly said "hey im just using you as my next fuck".

remember asd. Just IMO though, you obviously know the situation better though.

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This is one of the most classical shit-tests. She was possibly attracted to you, otherwise she wouldn't ask. A "yes" is lame, because, from the girl's point of view, you are validating yourself, which makes you look like an idiot in her eyes. Being a player is one of the things you are but you never say you are or talk about it.

My top 3 ways to handle:

#1: Like already mentioned, use 60yoc way of looking seductivly at her without saying anything, and then look away
#2: if you're more of the person who handles this verbaly, turn the roles around: "Me? ... No no no! You are the player missy! Who is the one who can't keep her hands of me ?" (especialy great if she realy is touching you)
#3: Baby, you know you're the one for me! (tongue&cheeck)

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lol at all of you giving this the kid the attention he's seeking. Shame on me for buying into it aswell.

Is this really something worth discussing?
or
Is this another kid on the forum getting all psyched about getting some shittest and his ego getting in the way of it?

OMFG THIS GIRL CALLED ME A PLAYER, IM SO AWESOME.

Same reason why some girls fight fiercly for that pagant title.

more on topic:

She called you out on your little charade of being a 'ladies man' and you bought into it by saying "yes, I'm delusional"


The 'flirting' you mentioned, might not be flirting at all.

^THANK you

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I was actually waiting for you to enter the topic, because I fucking love your critics.
Obviously, I wasn't asking for 'ways' to handle the situation.

Which are replies like this I do appreciate you posted tho, but that wasn't the question.

I get this one every once in a while.

I just always answer with *Gasp* "But I'm so innocent" girls eat it up for some reason.

Some of my favourites would be:

"Yes, but so far you're the only one who falls for it" *wink at them

"Nah, i'm not a player - I'm the coach" *cheeky grin

"What? I take that as an insult, girl - I'm a mothaf*in pimp!" in a pimp voice

"What!? (sarcastically astonished) - well, I just thought it was only appropriate to return the favour" wink at that

Or turning it around and blaming them for being a player:
"Whoa whoa whoa - who said anything about being a player -- Wait a minute... you aren't one are you? Is this all part of your plan just to get in my pants? Well I'm not that easy alright" with c/f

*sigh

I haven't asked ya'll what to say to the girl, because I can figure that out myself. I asked something totally different. -___-

I love being called a player, I am on a 100% close rate once a girl calls me a player.

My response is simple, "Yes, and?" then just smile and move on. Do it with confidence.