I've got it actually I just dunno what to do with since I don't think I've build enough to ask her out... Plus it's social game, if I mess the things up... everyone will know I think!

Daniel has just added me on Facebook. I think he's natural. Nothing to do with the Game.

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Meditation isn't fight. Let it go. if your mind wanders, accept it, follow it, and be aware of it.

Daniel, In regards to chats at a party:

You're still stuck believing that pointless chatter + touching her a bit = triggering enough attraction for her to jump you. You're a pua. If you want her number, you're going to have to ask for it one way or another . . . sooner or later. If you want to kiss her, you're going to have to kiss her, one way or another . . .sooner or later. If you want to have fun with her, you're going to have to have fun with her, one way or another . . . sooner or later.

You just got to Brazil but you're going to have to research for some FUN ACTIVITIES that you can do with YOU and a GIRL. These are the topics you'll want to chat about with your girls. You don't just want to F them do you? You want to go out and and have fun with them don't you? Even if the goal is a ons, you'll want to always plant possibilities of fun and adventure. Anytime a girl says, "Wow, that sounds like fun." You go, "Great, let's do it. . . ." - and get her number. This is really as simple as asking for a business card from potential business associates.
Well . . . the idea is to roll out the carpet and carve out a smooth path for her to demonstrate her "like" for you and continue to add fuel to the fire. How will she demonstrate her interest for you through chats about reggae and the Spanish language? Get in the habit of bringing up EVENTS where you and her will hang out. Combining this with kino is a good first step. It shows intent and interest.
Relax. Focus on improving your one on one chats with chicks.
Good. You identified a problem, now do something about it. It's all a balance act. If you're too judgmental and arrogant, you'll repel others. If you're too compliant and giving, others will take advantage of you. (Remember the thumb?) Don't worry. You're in NO DANGER of allowing others to take advantage of you socially. Relax. Push yourself in the other direction as far as you can take it. . . even then, I'm not sure if you'll even get close to middle ground. Seriously, try the funny clown act. . . for you, this might be a good thing.
Should have explained this little game to you more. Don't fear the routine. Routines get a bad rap because most suck.

1. This is super fun and super funny. If you do it once isolated, you will eventually make out. If you do it in a small group, you will get high fives and laughs. . . .then you'll eventually make out with the girl later.

2. It shows: A sense of humor. Some balls. And a sense that "we already kissed" and drops her fear for the first kiss and all the while grows her anticipation for the next one. After the first one, you don't immediately dig back in. You let her think about it. You can chat about other things. You can bring it back up . . . but if she's sitting there through all this, you can bet 100% that she's waiting for the next one. In over 10 years, I have never had a girl walk away from this one.

Take the plunge and go for it.

That's quite unusual advice here. I mean, the most important is to be aware of it, but shouldn't I try to stop the compulsive thinking? I've been trying to apply the spot and stop strategy when it comes to my thoughts.
Now I am the one impressed. That's exactly what I've been thinking about. If you ask me where I would take a girl, I would not be able to answer! I mean, in France that would have been easy. But here, I don't know any places and logistics are so complicated... I just know some malls but it seems that people do not hang out in malls here. But sure, speaking about a place and rising interest about it is the best way to #-close.

I don't believe that having a chat and applying KINO brings attraction at all... but I just don't know what else to do!
Good one, it has to become an habbit.
Sure.
I've been a bit hard on myself but as small as this tendency is, I need to get rid of it. Let's act like a funny clown.
Thanks. Every pieces are coming together now, I feel it. At the beginning I did not understand openers, now I understand them. Same for meditation and many other things. Now, I understand why routines are useful. It makes you funny, it makes you get the result you're looking for, it creates a conversation. Openers, routine, KINO... all this is gold when practiced. I'm gonna take my notepad and write some of them.

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Quick Update.

I was supposed to go to a night club yesterday night. Armin Van Buuren was playing. I did not go though. It was expensive and logistics sucked. I had to go there by myself to meet friends that did not know when they would be there... I stayed home and read some material:

About me.
I've read this and realized something about myself:

- It all starts with you (on ego and giving value) - it-all-starts-with-you-on-ego-and-givin ... 27019.html

I don't think I'm a bad person... but I might be too negative on humanity. I'm not the loving person Chief describe in his thread. When a guy comes to me, if he is stupid to me, I just don't want to speak to him. Same if he's boring or drunk... I just don't give value to these guys... I am judgmental.

Let's script the hell out of me!
For now, in the best cases, I'm friendly, a bit funny and make some KINO. Not enough obviously. If I want to generate attraction, I need to tease. I realized that scripted routines could really help me on this one.

- 5-Lies Game by Style: 5-lies-game-by-style-vt6090.html

- Easy but effective ESP trick: easy-but-effective-esp-trick-vt63729.html

Palm Reading: ? (Any good thread on this?)

... (and another secret one, but harder to execute for now)

I'm gonna learn that and do it in field as much as I can.

I've also read a post about teasing routines:

- The Best Tease Routines (by Jay Wa): the-best-tease-routines-by-jay-wa-vt18584.html

Leaving to a Carnaval event. Cheers.

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Just tell here "Hey I'm starving, going to lunch at "____", join me.

All you need to do man, if she comes great if she doesnt don't think bout it too hard.

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Trying to stop the compulsive thinking IS compulsive. Trying to stop thinking IS thinking. Don't make an enemy of your thoughts. Observe and befriend your thoughts. (This is kind of like confronting wild skunk. You can throw rocks, scream, and yell, or you can quietly stand there, observe, and continue your path when the skunk gets out of your way.)

In regards to routines and comedy acts: I like your idea. Just keep in mind the purpose behind every routine. The 5 question thing is just a party game . . . nothing more. Some people might have heard of it due to its association with "PU". If you want to use it, begin with something like, "here's a funny game I read about in the Internet . . ." - So many people, both men and women, get the wrong idea that this little game has something to do with 'magically seducing' women; it's really just a funny game and that's it.

So go back to the "Vitriuvian Woman". The 5 question routine would help you get to the outer rings. A tap on the shoulder. . . .smiles . . .laughs. . . high fives.

The 'secret routine' on the other hand serves a very different purpose right? There are routines you can use to get to her center of gravity and there are routines you can use to get better access to her outer rings. The routines that help you get to her center of gravity are much easier to accomplish once you accomplish the routines that get you to the outer rings. Get it? Everything is related.

Also . . . start combining number closes with the act of 'asking her out' once you figure out some 'fun events'.

Indeed but logistics make things complicated... We don't live in the same area at all... but I would like to be with her alone

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I don't try to "not think". That would be silly. But allowing compulsive thinking is not a good thing either. Negative thoughts kill my game and even positive ones prevent me from taking action. In general, I would say that I'm too much in my mind. Yet, observing my thoughs is a key element on disarming these compulsive thinking patterns.
These routines will mostly help me when I'm stuck: when I don't know what to say, or how to push the interaction further. Five questions is just a silly game that can help me to get a kiss, a drink or even isolate the target. The ESP trick is silly, but it can be playful and funny. Here, I can neg the target on math, make her laugh and since the number she will always find is 4, I can say something like: "this number equals to a letter (D like Daniel!), now think about someone around you that has a name beginning with that letter, focus on him while I read in your mind, I'll guess the letter." (opportunity to eye-fuck) "If I'm right, you give me a kiss, if I'm wrong..." "wow, is he sexy? there's a sexual tension in you" bla bla... "I got it, the letter is D"... Need to calibrate a bit, but it would be nice. Palm read will be for KINO too, but again, I need to be careful... It is linked to PU too.
Indeed, each routines is for a specific circle. Can't wait to test the secret one, but I need some dates to practice it. I think it would work great on a date with a girl.
Sure! Got something from the carnaval.

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DAY 45: number closing during carnaval.
Loving the carnaval.

Context.
I was supposed to meet some exchange students for a small carnaval in São Paulo. It took 45min to be get there in bus.

Addressed issues.
- Difficulty to let myself go, to be funny.
- Difficulty to number close.
- Poor dancing game.

Strategy.
Have fun, dance, enjoy... let myself go!

Goals.
- Enjoy the carnaval.
- Meet new people.
- Strenghten circle of friend.
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I got off the bus but was a bit lost so I asked two girls for direction.

Meeting the Carnaval girls.
HB5 and HB8, they were really nice and were on their way to carnaval too! We started to chat a bit. HB8 was a bit shy but had an amazing smile. Key elements:
- They asked me where I come from, I say: "Je suis français" Work well.
- I introduce myself, I shook hands with both of them.
- HB5 told me I have a good Portuguese... I hugged her.
- Asked their age, HB5 was 28! I did not hear HB8 answer, but I think she was 25 or older. I negged them on that: you look like you're twenty (it was true actually)
- Ask them if they have been to Europe, HB8 did not: "what? what are you waiting for" with huge smile... "money! I've just bought an appartment"... "Oh I see, you're married and all"... they laugh "No! Not at all, I'm single and I love it".
- HB8 would like to go to Germany.

At the Carnaval.
I saw none of my friends, so I stayed with them. I called the HB Colombian from the other day (# close for the party in DAY 44) to see if she was coming. She told me that she will call me when she'll be there.

The carnaval girls and I chatted about a lot of things. I tried not to be to available. At some point I saw a French girl in the same university (exchange student). I went to say hello and brought them to the Carnaval girls. "Here are two French girls" bla bla... A French guy came to join us. I first thought he would mess it up since he was clearly interested in HB8. Once introduced, I turned my back to him and spoke with the HBs. In the end, the guy was really nice, he turned out to be a good DHV/friend for me. We started to take some pictures... I did the claw on HB8 obviously, and even played the French girls too. One of them was shit testing the hell out of me. I think she likes me too.

At some point, I started to speak about food. I asked HB8 about where I could eat well for cheap... We spoke about the "churrasco" (like barbecue but saying that is insulting churrasco). I play the "passion card"... "Damn, I love meat, I have to try it, you know what let's go together!" Yeah baby, projection. HB5 said: "take my number, we'll go" I took my phone off and got the number of HB5... HB8 was not paying attention but I wanted her phone number...
More students were coming. We were almost 10. Since two of them were German, I said to HB8 that I could introduce her to them. She did not want. "She is shy" HB5 said. "Shy? You're Brazilian, you can't be shy" bla bla. At some point, she told me: "you know everybody!" Later, me and HB8 had a chat on music: samba, ... I told her that I'll bring French music to the restaurant: "La vie en Rose". I wanted her to project herself with me.

I loved the carnaval, it was amazing... I started to dance and enjoy myself. Rain was pouring, but I did not care, neither did HB8. I love this country.

The carnaval started to leave the square to go to the streets. I followed the girls (French and Brazilians) but at some point, I lost the two Brazilian girls... Later, I lost the French ones... No worries... Some minutes later I found a Portuguese HB7 friend of mine. Kiss, hug... yeah!

I had to leave the carnaval. It was raining like hell, I've never been so wet. So I left to take the bus home. I could not say goodbye to the carnaval girls though.

Results: a number close (friend of the target) and maybe a restaurant!
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On the strategy.
I just had fun and people saw it. I was smiling, kidding... dancing.

On the Game.
- Projecting yourself in the future with the target is really helpful.
- Making them speak about cool places/stuff to eat allowed me to make a transition for the #-close and get an eventual restaurant.
- Beeing the center of social dynamics was coooool.

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Quick Update.

A call from Colombian HB.
HB Colombian has just called me back. She wanted to know where I was. Told her I had to get back home because of the storm. Told me: "See you tomorrow then!"

I'm actually happily surprised that she called me back. IOI? Maybe not.

Last chance for Little Miss Sunshine.
I think I'm gonna write to LMS to ask some question about a cool place I've heard about (lie obviously). "A friend told me about it, it's really nice, he told me I had to go there bla bla, do you know the place?" "It's cool? Let's go together!" If I have no positive answer to that, I'll consider LMS as a flake.

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DAY 46: asing Little Miss Sunshine out and meeting a new eventual target.
Falling into my frame.

Context.
I wanted to give a last chance to Little Miss Sunshine, so I planned to ask her out. I also went to university this morning.

Addressed issues.
- Difficulty to get a date.
- Difficulty to frame an interaction.
- Inability to be sexual in conversation.
- Poor teasing game.

Strategy.
LMS: tell her about a cool place and ask her to come with me.
GAME: be sexual and flirty with a girl, bring a sexual charge to the conversation.

Goals.
- Have a flirty and sexual interaction with a girl.
- Get a date with LMS.
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Targets.
First of all, here's a quick update on my targets.
- Little Miss Sunshine: she likes me and things are getting better (update right after).
- Bus Girl: FLAKE.
- Miss Sunset: FLAKE (damn, that hurts... I was already picturing myself with her on our sunset date )

Little Miss Sunshine on a date?
I spoke to LMS about this "place" that was awesome.
ME - a friend told me about *the ice cream place*. Do you know the place? He told me it was really good.
LMS - Yeeeeeeees, it's delicious.
ME - He told me I needed to go there!
LMS - It's yougurt ice cream
ME - Soudns like an orgasm to me
ME - I love ice cream [Passion card]
ME - (but don't tell my Italian friends) [Being funny]
ME - Do you know where there's one?
LMS - Yeeeessss.
LMS - I'll take you. [BINGO]
ME - sounds good!
We planned to go there next weekend since she's busy during the week. I told her I had to go. Just before leaving, she realized it was carnaval next weekend so she told me "we'll keep in touch". Hope we'll make it.

Meeting Japanese Dory.
I've had a nice teasing interaction with a Japanese/Brazilian HB8,5 (São Paulo gathers the most important Japanese community outside Japan). She is 21. Imagine a cute Japanese girl with the body of a Brazilian. That's her. I already knew her but she seemed to be out of my league (don't ask why, I dunno, she was beautiful but thought she could not be a target). I was with some friends of mine, she came and say hello:
RANDOM GUY - How come you know each other?
ME - Well, she's in love with me... [=>setting up a frame]
HER - !!
HER - That's not true... [can't remember well]
She was a bit surprised but that was okay since I was smiling and obviously joking.

The interaction lasted 20 to 30 minutes. Key elements:
- She started to forget some random stuff. I negged her on that and gave her a nickname: Dory (the fish that forgets everything in Finding Nemo) [=> FUNNY + NEG]
- I told her I was impressed by people here: they work during the day, study at night and get home after one hour of transportation. "Most of the French girls of 20yo just think about going out and getting laid". [=> SEXUAL, went smoothly.]
- She spoke about a Brazilian movie involving a prostitute: "you'll learn some dirty vocabulary" "no need for movies, I can learn from you" "!!".
- At some point I said something. She said "what?". I repeated. She told me "You know what I thought you said? Do you like me?"... I laughed. "I already know you like me". Here comes the claw and hug. "I like you too". [=> KINO, falling into my frame?]
- In general, I applied KINO and EC as much as I could.

I did not number close since I already have her number but I should have planned a date with her... like... "let's go to the cinema together".

Results: I got a date to confirm with Little Miss Sunshine and successfully managed to be sexual today.
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About the strategy.
The stategy to get a date with LMS went well. I only had to speak about a cool place, play the passion card and ask her to take me there. Actually that was even to easy... I wish I had more resistance to practice.
I was really inspired by Chief's guide to outer game, especially by the sexual frame part. I brought sex into the conversation and it was smoother than I expected. I'll do it more from now on.

About the Game.
- Setting up a right frame is gold: the attraction frame I managed to set up early in the conversation worked so well that she actually heard me say stuff like "Do you like me?".
- Bringing sex to a conversation is not so hard/weird.
- Asking somebody out is all about knowing the right places and showing some passion for it.
- I need to get out of my comfort zone more often and be more sexual.

Questions to move on.
- First classes with Brazilians tomorrow. What strategy can I apply in this kind of context? Should I focus on befriending guys before?
- Brazilians HB students are busy, really busy... How can I deal with that?

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I'm glad to see you've been succeeding towards becoming a PUA in Brazil!
Good job at creating sexual tension - I have to learn that as well.

You don't necessarily need to befriend guys before, but It would be a good idea to befriend some of them before just show the HB that you're good at meeting people and at being social. Or you could go directly to the girls. It depends on what image you want to portray. The guy who hangs out with the chicks, the social guy who talks to everyone...etc...

Ahh if you talk to them about soccer. just tell them Zidanne was and still is best ! hahaha he is, isn't it ?


Brazilians HB students are indeed pretty busy! I used to be as busy as them over there.
The only time I'd go to dates and meet women was on the weekends actually. Just make plans with them on the weekends dude.

If you're comfortable with nightgame, just go to some clubs and you'll find plenty of HB that have graduated - those are mostly from 25 to 30 years. I love it! They dont play games.

Thanks GringoZ!

I have to be even better on the sexual tension. I'll work on that.
Thanks for the advice for the classes, I'll figure it out tomorrow.

Only weekends? Damn... That's sad. I have so much time during the week. I have to get comfortable in night game but it will take some time unfortunately.

I love Brazilian girls.

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There must a fair amount of HB at the university you attend. Have you tried meeting women at the university ? The university I used to attend in Porto Alegre (south of brazil) had lots of benches and parks within the campus, so I just took them there.

I'm the opposite. I gotta get comfortable with day game.
who doesn't haha

Woh . . . nice job. Set something up with the Japanese girl soon . . . and if you haven't yet, you should probably keep some condoms in your dresser, medicine cabinet, coffee table, kitchen drawer, etc . . .