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You're not a mind reader, how do you know what's going on in her mind?
I generally need 2 solid weeks of fucking to figure out that a woman is stark raving mad. Having said that, I think we have powerful instincts about people even when we first meet them. I believe we acquired these abilities as a matter of Evolutionary advantage. The problem is, a lot of people think it's "not ok" to think bad things about other people, because society has told them they're supposed to be nice or PC or whatnot. Or they simply want to lie to themselves about what's in front of them for their own reasons. Some people want to live in fantasy. I live pretty close to reality most of the time, and I don't lie to myself, so that makes it a lot easier to spot other people's bullshit. Thus, I'll see the light after 2 weeks of hard fucking and if she's crazy, I bail.
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Typically, people with real problems have trouble disclosing their issues even with their therapists.
Explicitly. Verbally. People communicate all kinds of stuff through their actions and body language. The eyes are especially revealing of the psyche.
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fixing crazy chicks, not just being more effective at avoiding them. You can't fix them. You can't change people. What you can do, is plant seeds. If 10,000 other people plant the same seed, it may grow someday. People do not change on your schedule. You want her to change in hours, or days, maybe even a week. You might put up with the inconvenience of a month. She, however, will change on the order of years or even decades. Totally foolish to think people are going to change on your schedule. The older you get, the more you've been around the block, the more you'll decide that time is precious and cut your losses. Even after 30 years of marriage you can end up cutting your losses.
Don't try to fix people. Find someone who's self-repairing and isn't too broken to begin with.