I havent seen my girlfriend for a week, and I miss her.
Is it OK to send her a text just saying "I effing miss you"?

Or is that a DLV?

This is actually a really good question.

I would like to hear some of the forum wisemen's opinions on this......

I'm interested to hear what people have to say, however whenever I receive the "I miss you" text from a HB I always reply with "I kinda sorta miss you too". I like using this because it leaves a little doubt for her to dwell on, makes her think.

You could initiate it with a "I kinda sorta miss you" text.

If she questions "kinda sorta?" then I'll usually reply "yeah, things have just been so crazy lately," (you can supplement this with: how busy you are, that your friends want to go out all the time, etc). "but I had a moment to think of you "

Or is you want a cocky funny "I'd miss you more but I'm beginning to forget what you look like " this will occassionally get you a pic message, which is always pleasant.


Saroza

I don't see the problem in telling her you miss her.

You could twist it in whatever way you want, like "I don't know what you've done to me, but for some reason you're on my mind when you're not around!"

Point is, she's your girlfriend and it's cute when she hears that you miss her.



Obviously, there's no need to tell you not to overdo it though . . . don't let the neediness take over. But yeah, once in a while should be OK.

Also, if she texts YOU with "I miss you", I tend to sometimes just write

"Thank you."

and then follow up with a new text

"Just kidding. I actually miss you too"

But that's just my way of doing it . . .

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Guys,

Sorry to say but I say the nicer stuff too. As long as you have been keeping up your dominant frame and showed her that you will not take her crap you can say whatever she wants. Nobody wants to always chase, at some point an HB wants to know that she is winning your affection. She is working her ass off to qualify herself to you... Imagine a dog running after a car, it is fun for the dog but at some point he grows tired and gives up. But do not fall for a shit test... That is the big thing here. If you feel it's a shit test, bust her balls... And dont only tell her you miss her when she has already told you. This looks needy, she has given you an IOI and now you are running after her.

I have texted chicks telling them "I have been thinking about you the whole day... I don't know why but I have... Ok, ciao" or a simple "I don't know why but I miss you today". Not word for word but something to that effect. If she has been the one chasing, at some point you have to reward her for it or you will lose her. But try and maintain that push-pull dynamic

i think that theres another huge factor here that you have to figure out for yourself.

what do you mean by "girlfriend"? is she one of your "gfs" and you just miss her body or shes the only girl youre with right now, not cheating on her and you just miss her being around you. like her personality more than her looks, you miss her hugging you more than just doing her.

you know what i mean?

if shes the one then i think its totally fine to send her a text sayin "i miss you" or some of the ones others have mentioned above. because it shows her that you care about her and people need to feel that they are wanted and loved in order to care about you, your relationship and love you back.

if shes just another one then i probably wouldnt text her that. maybe something more cocky-funny or just simply somthing like "i wana f you so bad right now" or somewhere along those lines since you have virtually zero emotional bond with her, shes only just a friend with benefits.

so in my opinion thats the first thing you have to figure out and when you have your answer then you can start worrying about what the text should exactly say if you still wana send her one....

cheers

In my opinion, you should be putting in about 2/3rds of her effort into the relationship. A consequence of this rule of thumb is that you don't tell her that you miss her, (or love her), until she first does so. Like I said, IN MY OPINION, you can then reciprocate on occasion. Don't feel the need to return every single sentiment.

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