ok so I come here for advice. But I already know the answer? maybe not

After a LTR girlfriend broke it off. it was a mutual decision, but she did have the control. You know when you can tell they just care less than you do? longer to reply to txts etc.. ?

it took her 2 weeks to date someone else. ouch i know. and she is still dating them.

it has since been 2 months on, and now she tells me she misses me, after I had done a good job of ignoring her and moving on, telling her shes not worth it anymore.

can that really mean anything? i dont even know if thats a shit test, mindfuck, emotional stabbing of the chest. but what the fuck do you even say to that.

she was alot younger so i feel there was a bit of a maturity difference. hence why i think she didnt give a fuck about dating again so soon etc...

the bad thing is she knows i miss her too.

what cards do i even play here. its so stupid. yep play its all a fucking mindgame sometimes.

hmmpppphhhhhhhhhhhhh

Probably an ego thing, especially if she's young like you say.

Since you still care, I would say you should avoid it, even if there's a tiny chance you could get laid out of it. Once she's again sick of you, you'll go back to being miserable.

There are so many women on the planet, it's just not worth it.

Keep on getting on with your own life and forget about her.

ty mate.

i know thats the answer, buttttttttttt you know how it is sometime.

i do think i could get laid out of it.. but in the long run it wouldnt be worth it for my sake, since i still have feelings attached and itd just kick up a shitstorm...

"I miss you" in your situation translates into "I need my ego to know that you still care"

Don't pay attention to it.

Even if you come back to her, she'll leave shortly after again because you've already validated that you in fact do care and she doesn't need you anymore.

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"Do you miss me? Shame, because I don't really miss you"

Gets her thinking about do you/don't you.

You still care, avoid the situation, or avoid going back to square one. She isn't worth it man. Her Ego's been hit big time, because you've just let her get on with it.

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Haha oh wow man, same thing is going on with me, except me and my ex, have been broken up for almost a year already, but me and her best friend work together. Now she says she misses me and wants to talk to me and stuff, but I refuse even though I probably could get laid off of it. I figure I'll probably get hurt again, and its just not worth it.

Your soo right man.

Is it worth going back through broken emotions? I think not, most of us have been there.

Move on, and let her regret what's what, it isn't your problem, and you shouldn't have to be hurt by her again.

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You can go back,but I bet you'll be having a lot of posts in this section of the forum... No matter what you say comes from reaction probably,I suggest you say nothing and ignore 100% And now she's grown up or what ? Why is that a bad thing ? I mean that's a natural thing. Let her know...what is she gonna do with that information ?

[ I guess she now sees how immature she acted yes, but grown up.. im not sure. I still havent got any "i regret how i acted" so id say no.
I think for me its a bad thing because it hurts. and with that information.. she would probably use it to boost her ego and get control over me knowing that i still have emotional investment.

Its a lovely thing to say "I miss you" but i dont think in these circumstances it is, when it becomes a bit of a battle of power and almost a game of who can move on first.

In this situation is it better to text something back or ignore it?

If you text that back you sound hurt and sour. But if you dont text back, you dont care.

Consider this...how hard was it for you to get over her?

Well, think about that...draw a mental scale from -10 to +10...where are you now in terms of over with her...then subtract from where you are at by 10.

Now...this is not a scientific method...but for me, it's how it made me feel, getting back with her set me back further with regards to being over her, I have been where you are and I got back with my ex...remember, you two broke up for a reason...not to say it could never work but that odds are truly against you and if it so happens it does not work out again, you are putting yourself back further because you will torment yourself with why you even tried again and that you were better off not trying...the girls you could have met and the time that was lost.

Honestly, it's up to you...no matter what we say...you have to do what makes you feel better and if it means getting back with her so you could know it's over without any regret then go for it...as much as I regret trying with my last LTR, I know it's over and I can honestly say now...I can move on but if I knew what I know now...I would not have wasted my time.

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New2game, your right yep, would suit text better. I saw it as more blunt, than hurt and sour, especially if I had no intention of making a mend with her, because she starts to think "shit" if she really cares.


Cedius, more great advice. Liking your posts on the forum. Stick around bro!

Your theory is a good one, and we all have ways of working things, whether they're with people helping us, or our own thoughts.

In my opinion, if you split with someone, 90% of times it wont work again, especially if someone has been hurt, and chances are, they have, that's why it finished, problems from the past will always be in the back of one's mind, no matter how much they try to block it out, kind of like walking on egg shell's.

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Please to the guys who replied in this thread. seems like you know what youre talking about.

Continued on from the situation. She texted me today saying "I broke up with him, I hope youre happy"

How do i play it from here.. ill admit i dont really want her back but i want to score some ex sex out of this, but ive never been in a situation like this before.

how do i go about it, without being a sleeze to take advantage of her straight away, although without being her shoulder to cry on and just listen to her problems.

How do i go about this? do i amp up the sexual tension to get her back????

please some advice would be nice.

I have been away from the forum for a while...doing the relationship thing...I post what I have from experience and as much as it hurt...there is so much I can relate to and trust me, I have learned alot from that but also from this part of the forum since returning.

I just feel that I should share what I went through with those that may be where I was.

Thank you Chelios!

Ok, back to Jando...
You are thinking with your dick bro, not your head. I know that is harsh but look at what she is telling you...She broke up with her Bf and wants you know that "hope you are happy"...hopefully get you running back to her...

OK...so you bang her and with what you are describing....you are really going to bang the shit out of her and then what...do you honestly feel that she will be ok with just letting you go? Think about it in reverse...wouldn't you want more from her if she turned you out?

It's what you would be doing to her...if you want to hurt her...go for it...it's trully your choice but not a good one. Some girls can't distinguish the term"meaningless sex" like most of us men. If you don't want her back ...why enter into this...its a bad idea all around and if she becomes scorned from you using and abusing her and then dropping her like the used condom on the floor she has now become to you...you are in for trouble.

There are other girls out there...dont do this...but really, it's again, up to you.

I won't go into what to do because there is nothing to do...she is open, ready and will pretty much eat up whatever you say to her, she is vulnerable and wants you unless she is just playing games...either way, it's trouble for you!

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well i think shes playin fucking games. thats why i want this sex, lol it will make me feel like i got the power back. its just been a bit of a power battle. if she comes back to me for sex, i win! she put me through alot of shit so SPAM i wouldnt mind if she got a taste of her own medicine.

shit is nasty ill admit.

how do i go about getting it lol