| Hey guys,
I've been single and "at it" for some time now, having sporadic success.
So I met this girl on New Years who I've been seeing since. We're both interested in a little longer-term dating, not just game-screwing-around & one-night stands. She's interested in me and goes well out of her way to contact me and reach out to me just to say hi or see how I'm doing.
I've gotten a little push-back from people who know me well, who insist I can bring in a higher quality girl if I'm interested in an LTR.
So she's hispanic, came to the US about 10 years ago and didn't go to college; she has a solid career though and is definitely work-focused. She's also about an '8.' and 23.
I got my masters, have steadily worked at my career and busted my ass to prove myself and up my "station in life." I'm 28.
The race part I don't really care about. I think people should be able to just do what they want. As a white guy, the only race I'll say I'm generally not attracted to are dark-skinned black girls, but that's just more a matter of personal preference rather than "racism."
People have asked me about this girl: "Whaaaaat? You think you can up the bar a little?"
I respond, as I've seen from experience, "Guys, I hate to break it to you, but the 27-28 year old tall, thin blonde girls who also have masters degrees are not giving me a second look, because they already have an idea of "what they can get." I've been doing this, I've seen it.
The ones who make it to 28 or so without finding "it" and giving the right guy a chance are, you know where? On match.com going through guys with a fine-toothed comb, looking at salaries, height, and photos, and knocking them all out one-by-one. Read my experiment on dating sites post for details. They are west-end-bound. (the rich suburb in my town.)
My brother applauds this and says this is the way things should be. He claims that girls who have all that going for them should be able to be that picky.
He also comments that if he were single today, he'd have a fuckin field day because he'd be telling people to go fuck themselves left and right, what with all the petty reasons guys get turned down for.
Those who argue "guys just do it all the time too" don't have a fuckin leg to stand on because I've never done that and don't know a single guy who's ever been in a position to do this with girls.
Should I just throw in the towel and rest on my laurels, being glad I got *this* much, or keep gaming?
Honestly, I can't remember the last time I met a girl this high of quality who was actually SINGLE or didn't have concealed ex-drama. From high school, single girls became spoken-for, starting with the most attractive.
By 25 or so the single ones in my town had dwindled to basically nothing.
I've just got to say, if you don't have money, looks, or good genes working for you, it's gonna be a fuckin TOUGH road. That's a plain fact. I've seen it from years in the game. Oh, it's *possible* but the only thing you can do really is just put yourself out there enough to have strength of numbers working for you.
You've gotta meet lotsa girls to find the non-superficial one who can notice your great personality (if you have one) and likes you for you.
So should I "settle?" Is this even settling? Would you at 28, without a harem of hotties to fall back on?
I suppose a decade or so of rejection would piss any guy off enough where he'd just be to angry and cynical to be an ideal mate.
|
CHAT
