You guys would make a good couple...

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no we wouldnt...i am fat and ugly and he is a pua hunk!

The easiest way to revive a flagging relationship is to cut off all contact.

Everything has already been said, just giving my quick opinion.

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But in all fairness, kasabi did say:
It's really a shame he undermined himself by making a pointless personal attack. On the other hand, I'm sick to death of how Cindy1980 came here asking for advice and literally argued with EVERY SINGLE poster that came to her aid. Sorry to be off-topic. It just frustrates me how much attention is lavished on female posters (who commonly reject our viewpoints anyway) when guys who are listening with open ears go completely unresponded to.

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People tend to listen more closely and repeat their thoughts over a certain point, after several people point at the same direction and emphasize that exact point.

That being said, Cindy, I will emphasize the right direction for you: Read kasabi's replies again - and carefully this time. Those replies are just what you need to read and consider. Really.

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@little panda - the problem is that people tend not to read carefully. its ok, advice offered here is free and we all are humans and are make mistakes. but i did very clearly point out to an older thread. any many didnt bother to read it. would they have read it, including kasabi, then they wouldnt have started the "he is using you" nonesense.

as mentioned before: after he "came out" to me himself on the depression issue things have changed to the positive.

Any diesel mechanics out there? The marine version of the CAT 3208's are both legendary and a pain in the ass. With over 30 years of reliable service, this line has finally been discontinued but chat with any old salt and he'll tell you that these motors were the best ever. What began as 170 hp mules plateaued off at 435hp turbo assisted iron of throttle teasing pleasure. Sweet memories of replacing belts 101:

Strangely enough, the 3208's are fitted out with 2 alternator belts and 1 water pump belt. Here's what's fucked up. the 1 water pump belt is situated between the 2 alternator belts. So if you need to replace ANY belt (if you're replacing 1 alternator belt, you have to replace both), you're going to have to yank out ALL belts. You'd think they'd make some special tool to tighten these belts but all a mechanic usually has is a tray full of tools and some old man muscle. The problem rises when the newbie under tightens the first belt and continues on with the next.

My first reaction is usually a sincere, "Pleeeaaseee. . . Please tighten up. I tried my best. My tools suck. Please do it."

#2. (After enough beggary) OK belt! Fuck you! FUCK you and the rubber tree from which you oozed out of!! I'm going to pull the fuck out of you!

#3. I'm sorry! Please, I didn't mean to hurt you belt. I just want you to get tight but you just won't do it. Just tighten up please!

#4. If you're going to be a lame ass, then fuck you! I'm going to pull you so tight, I'm going to break you mother fucker!

(Oops, I put the alternator belt on the pump pulleys)

#1. Fuck you manual! I ought to cut you up with my scissors and confetti your ass on the next thanksgiving day parade!

*Hoping that Cindy's dad was a diesel mechanic.

I'm going to tune in one last time here.

OK, human beings are complex. No doubt about it. It's entirely possible *THIS* guy is the exception to the norm. Depression -> issues with intimacy.

He might be self sabotaging stuff because he has problems with this.

I know because I've been there. HOWEVER, even though I have these issues, and a girl I adored was offering sex, I would do EVERYTHING in my power to keep it going and solidify the relationship into something MORE. Why isn't he doing the same? Why is he doing the online dating thing even though he knows you like him?

With girls I DO NOT like I simply ignore or next them. It's not choice. Girls I desire, well they send me to cloud clucko land - despite all the emotional baggage I have.

This guy could be the exception to the norm. Who really knows? Cindy might be spot on here. The only thing I would say, is reading the OP's prose, a lot of what she writes is an attempt to protect her EGO. Kasabi is a master at spotting and pin-pointing this out. I'm sure he could dissect her post and pick out words that validate this.
Love to know EXACTLY what the OP defines as positive? Is he coming over to her place all hot and bothered? Or is she just engaging in a cerebral war of words, 'Why don't you like me? How can I help you with your depression? Where is the relationship going? I'll wait for you.'

I'm not a betting man by nature... but I reckon I know the answer to this one.

Good luck.

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Annnnnnd, cue passive aggressive rebuttal!

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