So, I'm not really sure where I am going with this yet but I just am looking for some insight and maybe some help on where I am at/going with this girl. Just writing this up also helps me to analyze it myself.

I met this girl in class about 2 months ago and I eventually get her number and we have a few study sessions at her house before finals. I suggest we hang out and watch movies without the homework after finals and she seems super excited on the idea.

We hang out a couple times and I k-close and we have some more intimate "fun" but not a full close. We seemed to be transitioning into a relationship type thing. Super comfortable (pretty quickly), kiss eachother goodbye (in public and not), she cuddles and nibbles me etc. These nights happen about 4 times or so.

All is well and good and she wants to see me before she goes to Cuba with her family for winter vacation. I come over and we spend the night just relaxing together watching movies and cuddling like a typical couple (maybe too much comfort?) I suggested that we go to this christmas light show in the city but she said she'd rather hang out and watch movies. As I'm leaving her house for the night and won't see her for a week, she gives me a huge hug and big long kiss goodbye. Then the following day we text before she leaves and it's an almost couple like goodbye.

Near the end of the week she sends me a silly drunk text from cuba and seems stoked to see me when she gets back.

She gets back and doesn't text me and I text her a day after she is back and we just chat basic fluff talk. I let her know I am free from work till thursday (it's sunday) if she wants to hang out. No texts for a couple days so I text her again (wednesday) and just see whats up and she says she is sick etc. and I say hopefully she gets better so I can see her without being in a bubble. She says yes, sometime soon.

So here I am on Saturday and it has been me initiating contact so I am just wondering if anybody could give me an outsiders insight into my situation? I realize thI'll try and keep this as short as possible. is sounds a lot like one-itis, which in a way it is because I felt a good connection with this girl and would like to pursue a relationship eventually, but I am not letting it hold me back from other girls and friends. Am I simply overthinking it or did she somehow feel overly comfortable and want to back off and not get attached?

Any insight is greatly appreciated and sorry for the long read; but maybe this situation can help others who are in the same boat. I really appreciate the info everyone contributes on this site and it is all helpful.

Cliffs:
- meet girl and get comfortable and progress (in my eyes) towards a relationship of sorts
- she goes to cuba for vacay with her family and it seems things have changed a lot
- am I overthinking or did things move to fast?

Things moved too SLOWLY homeslice.

If you're not closing by the 3 / 4th time you see her, it's too slow.

You need to be the badboy type she wants to FUCK

BEFORE

You can be the boyfriend type she wants to have a relationship with.

AND

Even when you're in a relationship, you need to ALWAYS be very dominant and dirty in the bedroom.

=> In this situation, she may just still be unwell and was probably thinking about you and where you guys stand whilst she was away. She may have met a badboy of her own whilst on holiday.

I would give her a little time to get better / miss you, etc. Then re-engage, invite her to something fun, and CLOSE THE DEAL.

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Perfect reply, that helped open my eyes a bit. I appreciate it.

One thing I wanted to ask was that what I noticed was a SUDDEN change in the way things were going. I'm curious what that could be since things were going good and then in a week they seem completely different? Is it things I might not be aware of that are going on in her life? (school/work) I just feel like I had something going with her and it just kind of dropped right off.

Blondeguy answers this well.

The end.

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She met someone on vacation. DUH!

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She told you right there what you needed to know. Ask yourself why would a person prefer to stay in and watch movies, rather then go out to a christmas light show. Because she wanted it.

Oh and that big long kiss, was their to say "Be a man, and take advantage of me".

And I definitely wasn't just twiddling my thumbs with her. I escalated to oral and all that just not sex so I dont know what else this could be except that I didn't escalate further. She even complimented me before she passed out in my arms. (Harlequin method is amazing). So I'm at a standstill. Either she is scared to get comfortable too fast since we moved pretty steady or else she has lost interest.