Starting today, once this post is made, I will refrain from all text usage. Any form of communication must be aural. I will post a video pertaining to how this will benefit us all once the exercise is over.

But in the mean time, for those that would like to join in this challenge, do so at any time.

Stop texting people. If you want to talk to them, call them. Stop being available for other people at all times. Start living your life, and actually connect with people. Stop trying to perfect your "text game" for one week. Try it out. Keep the changes you like.


That's all for now. Till then, Spread Love.
-Ders


Since I will not be keeping up with this thread for the next week, I ask that haters stay off the thread. The purpose of this thread is to promote growth, to get people doing other things than to be hanging on the thread of the incoming text message and to get a better grip on priorities.

So in short, please refrain from commenting in a negative fashion, unless you have taken part in this challenge.
Thank you.

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-Ders


www.facebook.com/spreadloveders

I was about to call you a fag because I read your title, and thought you wanted everyone to text all the girls in your phone something. However, you posted the exact opposite, and I'm pleased. I would be down, but I don't got minutes lol

If it helps you in any way, feel free to modify the conditions if it suits you better. Maybe you're on the chat too much and you want to refrain for a week. Maybe you want to just stay off facebook and social networking sites. Maybe you want to limit the amount of texts you sent out.

Whatever your commitment, post it here and follow up a week later on how it affected you.

Thanks again!
-Ders

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I am in love with texting. I love it when a guy texts me. I had a 5 year relationship that was built around texts.

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Skooled to The Game

Yeah I think people who are learning go through these phases. First they text loads. Then they do what you are doing which is think texting is bad and you should talk over the phone where possible. Then finally they realise there's a time and a place for both of them, and texting is not bad.

A lot of girls like to text and is in fact an essential part of their pickup process. A lot of girls prefer text than call because they feel more comfortable. Texting also has in built mechanisms to show if the girl or guy is ready to be fully seduced or if they don't like their counterpart, without losing face.

One example is what I call the '3 kisses mechanism'. Every girl employs her own strategy for kisses (x's) as the end of a text, but one of the most popular is the three kisses mechanism. Essentially:

x means "Testing the waters" or "just friends"
xx means "There could be something here"
xxx means "I'm ready to be seduced"
Anything more than 3 kisses means "FUCK ME NOW".

It's a signalling mechanism. It's all over nature, like when animals make noises before they want to mate.

So yeah, texting has a lot of benefits, I wouldn't get carried away and go too extreme. I do think your exercise will have its merits though, and will teach people not to be so reliant on it if they are.

Just keeping it real

I propose we stop using the letters S,D,A and O in both text and verbal communication.
While they are a very accepted way of communicating I feel totally stopping using them will only be beneficial in my attempt to communicate with people.
Actually, while I am at it I will also stop communicating with anyone I am not standing next too, these new "phones" and things are clearly useless and taking away from my natural ability to communicate. I should be living my life, trying to track down anyone I want to talk with so we can have a good face to face conversation.

If this goes well - I will then stop using my car, the internal combustion engine is clearly something that is reducing my chance of getting laid.

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Now, that may sound stupid/dickish but I am fed up of all these dumb posts about "STOP USING FACEBOOK" or "STOP USING TEXT MESSAGING".

The year is 2010. We live in a scary place with the interweb and uPods. Now, my grandparents have managed to get the hang of text messaging and facebook so why the hell are so many of you against it?

Lets make something clear - EVERYTHING SHOULD BE USED IN MODERATION.

Lets look at the facts about texting: So, nearly 3/4 of US adults use text messages - these silly things must actually be quite popular. The reason they are so popular is because they don't require your full attention to send. I can be at the gym, working out and send some text messages to friends/my GF and sort out our weekend plans. I could not do this on the phone.
Likewise, I could take a picture on a film camera, get it developed and then take it to all of my friends to show. Alternatively, I could put my damn awesome picture on this thing called facebook where hundreds of people will look at it, quite a few will comment and I dare to say a couple of people will masturbate to it.
It's called utilizing the resources available to you.

Texting is just another resource. YOU SHOULD USE IT. I fully agree that texting is NOT a replacement for a phone call or a face to face chat, but it is useful.

To make my point, here are some common useful text messages I send:
1)"Is your bus running on time?" (so I am not sitting around waiting for my date)
2)"I am at starbucks in town, you wanna meet up with us?" (To meet face to face)
3)"OMG THERE ARE DWARFS" (I received this at 3am from my best mate)

Now while a phone call could have also done the job, lets examine why it would have been worse:
1) If she is on the bus it will be loud, she will probably be bored so will want to talk. She may not want to talk as she is talking to someone.
2) I am with friends, I know another friend is in town and rather than interrupting the conversation we are having to ask a quick question on the phone the text achieves the job faster and quieter than a call. Also, the person I am sending it to doesn't have to pick up their phone etc.
3) I didn't have to listen to his drunk induced happiness at there being short people in the club.

To summarise:
Texting is good
Excessive texting is bad

uh yeah what he said.
My thing is about this whole "stop this completely" thing or 'all or nothing' thing, i used to think it was the answer to everything, "if im gunna learn kung fu, i must dedicate everyday to it" or same with the whole "stop masturbating thing". Its like dieting, if you say you cant eat something, you just spend your days thinking about it and then eat it. Its also a bad mentality for life in general.

masturbate in moderation, eat in moderation, text in moderation and do kung fu in moderation.

I also bet at the end of the challenge, everybody goes back to the same ways they were before.

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Oh man, what has the world come to?
I know you don't mean this as an exact science, but I really wouldn't look too far into it.
And just to get in another female perspective here, I'm not big on texting at all. Of course it does come in handy, like Madals stated above, but I personally LOVE it when the guy has the balls to call me, especially if it's to book a date. Some guys facebook/text WAY TOO MUCH.

With that being said, I do think there are many guys that can benefit from this challenge:

This one guy I knew use to text me nonsense daily. Most times I wouldn't even respond. Then suddenly, he just stopped... a few days went by, and I remember I actually started wondering about him.

Anyway, at the end of the day it all comes down to this:
If you're an excessive texter, facebooker, or you're simply too scared to call the girl etc. I believe this challenge can help you. A week won't kill you; see if you get more done by talking to girls IRL rather than behind a screen.


-Roz

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NOTE: I'm taking a break from the site, and hence will not be responding to any messages!

I completely disagree.

What the O.P. is suggesting here is a practical excersise that will actual push some people here to grow. It's not a denial of the use of texting, but a test of peoples basic oral communication and confidence that could be a very interesting experiment.

Ive just scanned though 90+ text messages received form a girlfriend not GF. When we started texting they ended with x and then quickly became xx. After a while they dropped back to x and even disappeared for a few messages. The last couple have been xx. The number of x's does in fact match the tone and sexual tension of the message. I'm waiting for more than 3 x's and I will be round there like a rat up a drain pipe

Do women who do this do it subconsciously?

Salute

Fellas, learn from these wise words.

If you text, you'll get stuck in a relationship that lasts an entire FIVE FUCKING YEARS. If that doesn't scare the shit out of you, I don't know what will.

Spread Love Ders,
Kudos to you for pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. That's the kind of attitude that will make you a winner.

Texting HB's is a BIG part of the game. Where the fuck have you been? You're probably just not good at it. Hence this thread.