So I've asked this girl to go to the mall with me. She agreed to go, but being as it's the last week of school she has a ton of work to do. So she asked if we could go around the 17th of December. That may have just been a polite 'no', but incase it isn't...What are some basic tips you'd give me? This is my first date with a new woman in three years (got out of a 3 year relationship with a girl about 6 months ago).

tl;dr -

Going on date with a girl to the mall.
Tips on how to build attraction at date would be appreciated.
Where to go after date/how to close?

Does she knows it's a "DATE" or she thinks it's just hang out?

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Hang out is still a date i think.. if you set the frame as it's a date it will be a date. just go eat somewhere after and get to know her better like what u usually do in a normal date stuff build rapport comfort...etc

Go to Starbucks and talk with her. That is a most important tip! It gives you both time to talk and get to know each other. Also you can ask a little question that I always do. It's my deal breaker, if she answers it wrongly.

"Where do you see yourself in 5-10 years?"

I'm highly ambitious, so if she sees herself nowhere, or hasn't thought that far ahead, I know it's not going to work out. She just becomes an FB at most.

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Start off with a quick coffee or a bite so you can talk a bit. Be jokey and fun, flirty and don't be afraid to tease her a little (teasing is NOT insulting!)

Then walk around. Be fun - find the weirdest looking women's dress in the store and put it in front of you and ask her if it brings out your eyes. Then demand a size zero in it from the shop assistant, for yourself. Being playful and fun with her, but also mess around and joke with people around you. This shows that you have your own sense of reality and humour, are confident and social, and all the while you guys are having a good time.

Walking around is a good time to ramp up the kino - clawing her in when you share a joke, holding her by the small of the back to lead her somewhere, etc.

Then after a while walking around, sit down and do some more comfort stuff. Would be a good idea to get a nice couch at a starbucks so you can sit with the whole side of your bodies touching, and you arm around her / holding hands, etc. Make it comfortable because of the kino you've done before.

(1) Have FUN
(2) Don't be a pussy

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Not sure to be honest. Probably not. I was hoping to just kind of turn it into one.

Also, thanks to the rest of you who posted. I will keep all your tips in mind. I definitely already had Starbucks in mind. Figured we'd eat, explore the mall and then get coffee.

Good stuff right here

I've actually written an article on what questions you should ask on a first date...

I'll go dig out the link in a second,

So yes, go to a coffee shop and sit down with a drink, make sure it never gets awkward. I'm not sure how much you know her already but try to avoid all the boring questions like "What do you do?", "Where are you living?" etc.

Instead you need to ask questions that will allow here to talk back at you or a while and are a little more interesting. The above questions are bad because obviously they are boring and she will just say "Answer, what about you?" which doesn't really aid a free flowing conversation.

NEVER ask her about her previous relationships, try to avoid that subject as it can bring back feelings for her that she may then associate with you and if they are bad feelings, that's not good!

Depending on your personality you should ask different questions. For example if you're a 'funny-guy' you might want to just be incredibly random. After some conversation I quite like to ask stupid questions such as 'What's your favourite Dinosaur?' and 'If you were a soup, which soup would you be?'. These can always spark up amusing conversations. If you're not as comfortable being random and trying to be funny asking questions like 'What did you want to be as a kid?" are also incredibly good. These can develop into deep conversations sometimes and can also be levered into funny conversations.

This is what happened in Starbucks to me once:

Me: "What did you want to be when you were a kid?"
Her: "I always wanted to be a doctor blah blah blah blah"
Me: "Oh wow, that's really cool! I was just content with wanting to be a frog!"
*laughter*

Then I went on to describe how a frog's lifestyle was simple fantastic and we both ended up having a fun time on that date. (This is true, my parents tell me that I did actually want to be a frog when I grew up when I was 4 or so).

Anyway, the trick is to be confident and be yourself.

Ahh, it wont let me post the URL to my article until I've been here longer.

I've covered most of it in this post anyway but if you'd like to read the article anyway, shoot me a PM.

Cheers,

Hoodyy

LOOOL @ the frog thing... hilarious

Good job