I cannot believe that I am receiving so many thank you's, hehe. Thanks guys! Yeah, basically my aim was to lay out some type of foundation and to just share my thoughts in the hope to help some people out. It's not really words that help you out, it's the feelings that help you out. Since feelings make you "click". So hopefully my sentence structure, and some analogy's that I used in my post gave you some sort of feeling. It's all about action, you just gotta do it. Atleast when the right foundations are in place, the rest is all up to the action.
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chea, 100 thumbs up. I've saved this away in my google docs for me to read to pep me up again (I can access google docs from my iPhone)
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Im like you, im good looking and I know it. Girls always cant believe that I have trouble getting dates or just talking to girls in general. I completely and 100% confident about my physical appeal and sexual abilities. Girls I sleep with always come back for more. But even still I have so many insecurities despite all of this. Im smart, good looking, and very good at sex, but I still have insecurities because I "know" deep down I am not good enough. If they knew the "real" me they would laugh; it keeps me awake some nights knowing how inadequate I am. I feel like all my accomplishments with women have been a charade, and my true self would disappoint. I feel if I can truly change my self-image I will be unstoppable.
Me exactly. I have to fucking LIE and tell them I've had a very large, but indeterminate number of girls. The few times I've been honest - it went bad. Only 2 official girlfriends, and a handful of lays. They flat out COULDN'T BELIEVE ME to the point that they assumed 100% that I was lying and it was a trick to get them to feel sorry for me and to get them into bed, and I never saw them again. So now I lie, lie to match the expectation people have. I don't consider it bending to other people's impression of me. I consider their view to correctly reflect the life I'm SUPPOSED to be living (and have had smatterings of it here and there, gradually more frequent), and the issues I've had from a bad upbringing have held me back from living the life I'm supposed to have led.
But the good thing is, when I fool myself into thinking I have led that life, and am that person, that's when I feel the best and do the best things and get along best with people. In my mind, that's the real true me, and some things that went badly have prevented me from living what should be the truth.
I agree with you. Mostly why we have this women problem in the beninning is probably because of the way we grew up that has affected our confidence and mindset. I personally grew up with 2 grandmother's up until the age of 13. My father had alcohol problem, and my mother lived in the United States. When I turned 13, I moved to United States to live with my mother (Miami). My social life was kind of difficult, I went to about 5 different high school's, due to lot's of moving. I had to learn english, new country, etc... So you can imagine that. Also from small age I lacked to brush my teeth until I developed cavities and then did not brush my teeth due to pain. So I had yellow teeth problem all the way up to age of 20. That insecurity left a major impact on my growing up, since the first move you do is to kiss a girl, and my teeth problem was major. So I did not have many interactions with girls during my growing up. I spent about 20K at the age of 20 to fix my teeth. I did the hollywood smile, and now I have all white teeth, just like the celebrities. So I do have the white teeth now, but still need to catch up with the "correct growing mindset" that I miseed during my teenage years. I will do it, I believe that!!!!!!
But my point is, these problems we have today is just because of how we grew up. Some kids had "good" upbringings. For example even the confident kids in school could of had parents with a "cool attitude", oh cool u brought a girl home, etc... Or jokes about girls all the time. So that just molded in his mind, that he is actually required to bring girls home, or hang out. That's where the so called "naturals" have these skills. Because of the way we were raised up, they don't even realize that their circumstances developed them in that way. We all are naturals, the difference is how we were raised up. Actually personality factor could also matter, but I don't think it does that much. I believe that personality is shapped in a big way of your growing up circumstances.
I think that women want the perfect partner, so when u start talking about the truth, that you didnt have too many women before, they loose the attraction, since you no longer seem to be the same guy they expected in the first place. So a solution of that is yeah, basically to "lie", but that is only for right now. Once you start living the better lifestyle, with lot's of women, there will be NO NEED urge, to tell that you had a women problem before. Right now you may feel the need to share the "history of lacking women", only because you are still in the beginning of the game. Once you get good at it, I believe that urge will dissapear. It's better to leave out some things, and not to say them. Life is a jungle, people want only the best of the best. If they sense a weakness, you are out. So be smart, play your cards right, and you will start living the better lifestyle, and eventually you will turn into your true best self, the way you were supposed to be in the first place!!! When people say be yourself, you have to know what that means, you cannot just go all out, and start telling all kinds of weird shit, just because that's how you think. You have to filtrate what you say, but there is the trick in finding the right balance.
Anyways, once you start living the better lifestyle longer and longer, all these piece of shit doubts, and what not will slowly start to fade in your memory, and you will start living the life you've always wanted and deserved!!!!! Life is a jungle, play your cards RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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