so my girlfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago for unclear reasons. she was the first girl i cared about so it was hard but i did what you guys say cut contact, keep busy, have fun, game other girls. when we broke up she says she wants to be friends. heres some txting from her i never replied.
-wanna hang out
-i cant come out this weekend but lets hang tues.
-come to ----- house
-fuck you asshole dont ignore me
-im gonna forget i ever loved you dont ever think you can look or talk to me again

then i see her for the first time since we broke it off which is about 2 weeks at work. i go for a smoke and she comes out to see me.

HB-hey

ME-???

HB-i just want to tell you why i broke up with you blah blah blah, and i still love you and miss you and want you in my life

ME-do you want me to show you what you said to me a couple days ago

HB-i was just mad, you dont have anything to say to me

ME-not really
and i just walk away after hugging her cause she asked me too

so im woring shes coming and standing by where i work and wandering around me but i ignore her. im walking down the hall and she kicks me to get my attention saying shes bored and i should hang out with her but i said i have to get a protien shake. then she waits for me but i walk by and she says stop being and asshole your so rude. i apolagize for being rude and walk away and she gets real mad and storms around work hahaha. anyway later that night she texted me but i didnt reply.

-so are you going to be in my life or not
-answer me asshole
-helooo dont make me fucking stalk you again im too tired
-your an asshole you want to talk to me but your being a stubborn bitch. will you come out with me tomorow please

and now its the morning after and im very confused about what she want and what to do. this is my first love, any other girl i wouldnt even think about but shes messing with my head. help me out please guys.

Well do you want her or not? She's yours for the taking if u want...

U've reacted pretty well to this imo. Maybe soften your line a bit - give her your attention in VERY SMALL doses - just so she knows how good it is to be with you.
Also - what are the reasons she broke up with you ? U didn't really say... Cause tbh u need to get that stuff sorted before u guys can be together again. Otherwise the same old problems are gonna come up again and again.

i think you are playing it well...but you never stated your intentions with this girl. are you trying to get back into a relationship with her? if so, don`t just take her back with no penalty...make her buy her way back in. if you don`t want her, stop with bullshit...tell her your friendship with her ended when she decided to break up.

what were her reasons (where u sed blah blah blah)?

i think you have made her stalk you enuf now, why not just call her and say

'X, what do you want, (say it like you are sick of her texting you and you're just calling to stop the incessant texting) why do you keep texting me?'

listen to her but dont really react much to what she says (it'll prob be that she wants to see you, she wants you back, she still loves you........)

tell her you'll think about it, and then say you've got to go you're busy (dont say what you are doing) right now and you'll call her later'

but dont call her later, maybe in about another week (if you still want her and havent found anyone else better maybe)

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Prince... the way you handled this situation was purely AWESOME. Finally there's a guy who gets this!

Ok so here's the deal... First off, you gotta admit that all the attention you're given is kind of satisfying but yes, it has probably crossed the line.

Only thing that matters now is whether or not you want her. If you do, slowly progress into getting back together (going out on a date, then moving it further and further), so she doesn't think she can get you back whenever she wants and use you. Also, make it clear to her that she can't pull that kind of crap again - it's unacceptable.

But if you don't want her back... Just make it clear to her. Quit apologizing for being rude and quit being all neutral about it. Why? Because your case is special. Stalker girls won't get it until you step your foot down and scare the shit out of her. Well ok, don't scare her. But make it clear that you don't want her anymore and that she should quit stalking you because it's getting creepy. You gotta tell her how it is, or she'll continues doing this shit.

Once again, what you did was just.... perfect! The results were a little too great though

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thanks for the advice boys you guys really help me out. and yes i am liking the attention a little. anyways we broke up because were at different pooints in life. im 19 and shes 22. she wants to settle down and im just starting my life. i just applied to college after taking a break after highschool and im not looking to move out for a couple more years to save money cause i get free rent but have to pay 100% for school. i think she wants a guy with a solid career and has his shit together. we also had stupid fights and she would play games and it made shit worse. like she wouldnt call me for a couple days to see when i would call her and then she would get so mad that i never called her and went clubbing both days hahaha. im just trying to be a PUA and have a busy life.

those were the main reasons she broke it off but the week before we talked about these issues and she says she doesnt care and will do anything to keep me. i still love her so fucking much but it scares me cause this is the only girl that can hurt me and i never showed it but she hurt me so much and i dont want to risk it again so i dont know if i want her back. i do want to hook up with her still but i think it will hurt me more.

like i told you guys on friday she texted saying ''your an asshole you want to talk to me but your being a stubborn bitch. will you come out with me tomorow please '' she was meaning saturday night cause our friend was having a going away party. there was no contact saturday but this morning (sunday) like 10 min. ago she text me
HB- i know you fucking love me asshole ignoring me wont change it. talk to me please.

i want her back 100% but dont know if its the best decision cause im scared of getting hurt but lets forget about that shit for now what so i do guys. im gonna plan on setting up a ''date'' with her cause even when she broke up with me i made laugh and hit me in the arm even though she was crying the whole time. i know i can game her and make her fall for me even more. should i text her back or wait a couple days and see her at work on tuesday?

btw i really apreciate everyone who reads everything and takes time to give me all this really good advice.

Look, you can't live your life in fear of getting hurt. You should get back together for the right reasons and not because "you love her too much".

But . . .

Clearly, you guys want two different things in life. There's no point in getting back together if you're gonna end up in the same situation some time in the future. You'll just end up getting even more hurt.

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she just texted me ''fuck you'' hahaha. i know we wont work but i think i want her in my life stilll so im gonna hook up with her. just not sure how to play this yet, maybe give her a shout tonight or wait till i see her at work and make plans.

ok she texted me again and i dont know what to do. ive been pretty confident on everything ive been doing but i think i might slip and pull some afc shit.

HB-i really need you to be here for me tonight i have some shit going on. if you still want me to be in your life then now would be a good time to talk to me.

wtf do i do. do i go see her or just ignore her and call her tomorow? im really tempted to go see her but how she said it made it seem like an ultimatum and if i go its like shes in control. and if i dont go she might go crazy thinking of me or get over me. i never overthink this much but im kinda confused but i want to fuck her so i dont know how to play this situation.

I see the situation clearly now.
Go down that path and expect to reach a dead end.

Seriously, let go of her, she's no good for you and you're no good for her.

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sometimes its so hard to accept the truth. i know we wont work so im gonna forget her. time for a couple flings to keep my mind off her.

She seems like shes Drama central you dont need that in your life. You are 19 gunna be going to school if you were 28 and had nothing going on I can see where there might be an issue but this girl is toxic. There will be others if you go back and forth in a drama filled relationship it will only end eventually. I have never seen a relationship wrought with Drama work out in the long run.

I have been cheated twice by my girlfriend.We have a verry nice relationship we have an amazing sex life and also emotionally we are bounded to eachother anyway at first I forgive because she seemed devastating to me and keep saying 'I wont doi it again I am so sorry' but from her earlier relationships she always cheated her boyfriends lots of times and when we were talking at the begining of our relationship she said to me that I never cheat you because I know the horrible consequences and I love you so I believe that lie her but after two weeks ago she cheated again me with another boy so this time I deleted her from my life
NOW she calls me everyday says sorry I am so bad right now I cry everyday every moment please accept me bac but I dont want anymore my heart was broken already.She seems like she love her roomate but actually she doesnt she actually made her broke up with her boyfriend secretly but her roommate doesnt know that she use her every time and her roommate assume that they are close friend but its a lie.
I really find her roommate attractive how can I pick up her roommate and make a clear finish about this girls curelty please help me
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