alright people i really need your help,ive known this girl for about 5 months and i really like her,we hang out just the 2 of us quite a lot and we enjoy each others company. i asked her out last week and she said yes but 2 days later she said "her friends pressured her into it and she just wanted to be friends" she had even told my best friend that she liked me before i had asked her out and her friends were sure she liked me. she also told me i was on her friend ladder and that she lead me on. basically i cant give up on her and i want to ask her out again preferably as soon as possible but i dont know what to do to ensure i have a chance next time

can you please help me?

Hi man.

Look, its quite simple actually:
ask again. If she says no, ask why. If she really doesnt want to come, there is nothing to do about it. Leave her, sob it out in a corner of your room and then look for somebody else. Lots of girls out there.

Not being able to give up on her is BS of the most stinkiest kind. Besides, if she really needs approval of her friends and cant decide on her own, i think you are better off with somebody else.

ciao.

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thanks for the advice man. i did ask her why last week but she just said she didnt know why cos im a really nice guy and she wishes she could change things but she can only see me as a friend and is there anything i can do to make her see me as something other than just a friend?

game her friends that were pressuring her... obviously they like u lol..

You gotta show her that you are not hung-up on her and have other options, so def try to game other girls and then when she finds out she may be jealous because she will know it could have been her.

awesome guys,thanks for all your help so if i game her friends then she might become jealous and want me? sorry if i sound like a retard here im new to all of this lol

Yeah man, just game her friends, but you might not want to game like her BEST friend because that could create too much drama, just game other girls and make sure she finds out about it, and make sure they are quality girls because if she sees you gaming skanks she will just be grossed out.

I've gotten out of the firend zone 2 times. I would use the first way as a last resort, because it could go badly. but...

1. build up a great friendship, call a lot, talk to her at night. Be a great friend. When you have become a huge figure in her life. Tell her that you can't do it anymore and that you have to many mixed feelings and your both better off without each other.

This one seemed hopeless at first but within two weeks I was sleeping with the woman, later married her and soon divorced her. Hooray for the lessons off life.

2. Once your in the friend zone your screwed if your gonna be around her for a while. If you feel the need that you have to be near her; make sexual comments from time to time. Put the image of you and her having sex in her mind. Don't get stupid with it. Just do it occasionally and when she comes around to doing the same, look at her like she kicked a puppy. Don't say anything good about it, but act for a moment like you considered it and let that go. Before long the comments will become more blunt and the time to ask her out again will be at hand.

Either way your looking at a long road. The friend zone is no joke, and whiching the girl you are after go out with other guys can become a bit painful.

Gaming the friends would be a good thing to do in the mean time as well. Adding possible envy or jealousy is a good thing.

I would totally game the crap out of her friends, and not to make the original girl jealous, but to get with the friends. Typically, where there's one hot girl, there are others, but many guys make the mistake of getting involved with the first one, having it end, and losing their chance with the rest of them. One reason that so many guys have no friends that are girls.

Flirt with her. Be sexual.

How can she see you as more than friends when you don't act like more than friends with her?

Start casually flirting with her and then move it up together with her comfort levels of you.

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