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For my first post/question here on this forum, I am confused as to what actually happened with a girl I got to know recently. I am a part-time worker with a sports team. The girl in this topic is a postseason game-day assistant who works with out department (she was with us for about four days over the span of a week). The relationship I have/had with her is perhaps the strangest I have ever experienced. I don't even know what to make of it. Let me explain:
-We are both outgoing people with the same sarcastic sense of humor. As you could guess, this made conversation quite interesting.
-The first time we meet, the topic shifts to sports teams we like. Of course, she likes all of my team's arch-rivals. When I proudly stated one of my teams, she replied with "strike 2." One of her teams lost by a lot that night, and I made sure to let it be known. She joked that she was going to smack me. From this point on, we became playful "rivals."
-The majority of our conversation during the other few days was back-and-forth good-natured banter (again, sarcastic senses of humor). Always a back-and-forth exchange and an amazing ability on us both to keep that going at such a quick pace. Sometimes, she'd make fun of me, sometimes I'd made fun of her.
---Once in a while, I would bash on her and she'd reply, "That's Sandman trying to make a joke about me" with a smirk. Later on, she'd see another "cute guy" and ask me if she looked good (she is gorgeous). Immediately, I say, "Meh" with a smirk. Her friend chips in with, "What did you think he was going to say?," laughing.
-Several times, she would look at me and smile. One of my co-workers overheard her say that I "look good with a good sense of humor to boot."
-So far, so good, right? Well, next come the games. One of the other volunteers became a friend to us both, and she would kino him a bit. She'd even text me to say that "he's keeping me warm when I'm outside." There is a 0% chance she has any interest in him (trust me), so I play that off with a smile. She did initiate some kino with me (she came up and hugged me one day), but since we are in a work environment, only so much can be done.
---She did remark - jokingly (I think) - that "[Guy friend] is nice, and I'm mean," but she smirked and didn't seem angry by any means (yes, I made a remark about her favorite player). I am a bit of a ball-buster and make a lot of sarcastic/witty jokes, but I don't consider myself a mean person...in fact, I'm more on the nice side.
-The questions then rise towards the most recent events. In another one of our back-and-forths, we try to figure out who would win a pretend fight if we fought. (I don't hit girls, but we were putting that aside for the debate...yes she brought this topic up because I joked that she probably doesn't punch very hard). She said, "if punched her in the arm, she'd punch me in the face" in a teasing tone. Being the ball-buster that I am, I made sure to LIGHTLY punch her arm the next few times we ran into each other. One of my other friends claims she was getting annoyed by the joke punching and he thinks that could hurt my chances (she was speaking with her girl friend apparently), but she made no indication of this annoyance to me. She continued to tease. At the end of our most recent day, she claims she "doesn't hug" (I was on my way out for the day). Knowing what was going to happen next, my supervisor plays along and playfully separates us (he's seen some of what's been going on with the banter).
My one big question would be if she was genuinely teasing or if there's a chance she was getting annoyed for whatever reason. I have no way of knowing, though our mutual friend assured me she knows we are only playing around (One time, a girl I knew thought my jokes were serious and got very mad). I could not be very forward, since we are at work and I don't feel like putting my job in jeopardy.
Do YOU think there would be any sexual tension here? What should I look for to determine if there is sexual tension? Is there also any way of telling if she was actually annoyed instead of being funny? Once her volunteering ends - which is very soon - I might consider calling her and seeing if she'd be up for a date - however, she attends college 45 mins away. Given what I wrote, I feel she'd either really be up for it or blow up in my face. No middle ground.
Dude instead of writing 5 long paragraphs of how you guys constantly tease each other, you can say that in one sentence.. Wow that was a rather annoying read. Anyways getting back to topic.
Look, it's good that you are flirting with her, or teasing her. But NOW you must absolutely move on to the next step. You are delaying way too much man. She is already comfortable with you. And your flirting/teasing has give you some attraction as well. Before she loses that attraction towards you and places you in the friendz zone, escalate with her. There is only sexual tension if you involve kino, which I pray to god you have... And don't ask her for a date. That sets you both up for the interview approach. Just casually say, hey before I go home I'm gona stop by Tim Hortons on the way, I'd love for you to grab coffee with me" and then go from there... Dates are BAD man, don't get in that mentality. Anyways, you are going nowhere by continuing to tease her all the time. And you should also show a real, genuine side of you. And a little bit of a vunerable side. She knows you're a fun guy who's not scared to bust on a girls balls. That shows Alphaness. You just aren't progressing SPAM. GL_________________
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