| ah okay. get ya. I got a mate just like that. He is actually a bit older (same year level as me 27y.o,) also virgin, gamer, and in a society of friends that dont go out unless its for a LAN get together gaming.
So without asking you too many personal questions, ill just assume that you are him, so i'll give you the advise I would give him.
First - If you look like my mate and dress like him - you need a make over. Meaning drop the baggy pants, loose shirts etc. You need to create a character. Dont go for something totally different then what you are. but you need to create a character for yourself, sort of like a tribe (Style talks about this in his A-method).
To identify a tribe you may belong to is easy. If you remember back in highschool, there is typicall the 'Sports tribe' usually the football players, soccer, etc...
you go the "Cool tribe" where all those tuff guys hang together, you got the "geek" guys where you see nerds, and sometimes you got the "shit kicker tribe" where the people are loosers and get bagged by all the other tribes for being losers.
decide which one suit you best... are you a gentleman, a smart person, a geek, a sporty person,.. etc. etc...
My mate would fit the category Geek/Nerd - so i would Try and aim for a "Gentleman tribe"
To become a gentleman, you should dress accordingly, perhaps suits, or semi suits, maybe nice looking jeans (try black jeans to look more classy) Get ur self some nice shoes (no runners or any other Air MAx shoes), just plain black shoes.
you can go for a geek look, with a west, and shirt, and if you wear glasses perfect.
You can even ask girls in the shops to help you TRANSFORM. they willl help, it will make their day interesting.
Once you fix your IMAGE you gotta move on the SOCIAL CIRCLE.
Since your mate are 'dragging' you down, as they are just into games as well etc.. you need to find urself new mates or people to hang out with.
To do this; think about all the people that you know - maybe people that u work with, go gym with, or know anyone.. that you could get in touch with, and suggest "lets go for a few drinks"..
You can also post a THREAD here on this forum, asking if there is anyone that lives closeby that would like to come out with you. (people are happy to help - just like im giving you advise here).
So once you Got the TRIBE/UR IMAGE and SOCIAL CIRCLE fixed up.
then you move onto your game. But lets just work on these first two.
Also, what kind of person are you:
Do you drink alchol?
Do you live at home?
Are you shy?
Do you work? / What is ur proffession?
What are ur interests?
Hope this will give you some kind of start. _________________ It's a deja vu...
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