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I'm going to now discuss another reason (other than Marketing) why Mystery Methods, and routines specially, are extremely prevalent in the seduction community.
"I don't know what to say"
"What do I say when I open?"
"After my opener what do i say?"
"Im not sure what to say"
All things every experienced on this forum as herd from guys trying to get good at this.
Lets talk a little about this...
Why doesn't the person know what to say? When broken down there is actually a pretty simple explanation.
The not knowing what to say stems from the socially conditioned belief that he must "impress" the girl.
A guy is out and sees this real cutie off to his left and wants to approach. All of a sudden his mind goes blank.
"I need to say something cool so she will like me."
"I need to say something witty to hook her"
"I need to say something to impress her"
This questions may all happen at a subconscious level, but they do happen.
Women can sense this whole "trying to impress her" vibe...not good.
"Nah, warped...im not trying to impress her. I just dont know what to say."
If you wasn't trying to impress her you wouldn't care what you say. Your mind wouldn't go blank on you,
Girl: "Hes trying to impress me, hes not cool enough to deserve me"
High value guys dont go around trying ti impress people. he just expresses himself. I'm going to repeat that:
Expression, not Impression.
So, why cant you think of what to say when your trying to impress? Your mind starts putting a word filter on everything you want to say.
Your mind: "will saying this make me seem lame?"
Then it over analyzes everything and hence, you now have a blank mind.
Routines came about because guys though "ah-ha! Now I dont have to worry about what to say. I'll just slap a one size fit all routine on every interaction!"
Problem is, routines (besides being lame) arnt one size fit all. In addition, its common place for the user of the routines to replace (cover up deeply!) his personality. Insted of having an actual personality, he now just has a few memorized routines. Hes no longer a person, just a social robot.
These routines are just a band-aid. They dont fix the problem, just covers it up with a "magic pill quick fix" and teh problem grows worse and worse until routines cant even help anymore.
Insted of being real men and fixing the root source of the problem, they opt for the band-aid approach. Its easier (in the short term) but extremely unhealthy in the long run.
The real way to handle the "mind going blank" problem is to develop yourself (and contrary to popular belief...this does not take a long time) so that you no longer feel the need to impress women. Inner Game.
To add another note on using routines...women arnt dumb! They can sense that your not being fully real with them. They may not be able to place their finger on it but they know your being fake....not attractive.
Jesus fucking christ, are you for real?
That shit you just said there looks DIRECTLY COPIED from the RSDnation site, wtf dude you dont use your own opinion and your own eyes, you just soak up everything tyler and alex says to you and take it like the fucking truth.
You mr is a super RSD fanboy and should most likely keep your mouth shut.
If you even had some kind of IQ you would soon realize that "I dont know what to say" thingy isnt really about the verbals, but a STATE OF MIND, this state of mind WILL BE trained as you get more comfortable with girls, even if you use routines, it has a psychological scientific explanation behind it so dont give me your damn RSD brainwashed bullshit.
And about that shit "women can feel when you are not authentic" NO, not true, you think girls do have some kind of psychotic ability? They dont, that mindset will only get you fucking paranoid. I tell you this, girls are often very VERY easy to fool, when u are congruent with your routine shit they wont "detect you bullshitting and not become attracted" - You tell me how the fuck I was able to fuck 70+ girls going PURE MM ? And these girls were hot, believe me, I live in Sweden.
You are so full of shit it aint even funny.
MM do have alot of limiting shit in it, and it is surely "out of date", but that bullshit you're spitting is just NOT TRUE - ofcourse you wont be able to see that due to your fucking "RSD conditioning".
I've never seen what i wrote on RSDnation but I dont doubt something similar to it might be on there. It is possible for 2+ people to come to the same conclusion with anyone having to rip each off. Just means the conclusion is more likely to be true.
Also, women can feel when your fake. In general, they feel what you feel. Thats because your the man and your reality is (or at least supposed to be) stronger than hers. I'll explain one theory posed by scientist as to why this is:
Do you have a baby? Im willing to bet not. I don't either. But, I used to take care of my baby nephew all the time. When he would cry I would first think to ask myself "whens the last time he was fed, perhaps he is hungry." If he wasnt hungry Id check his diaper. If it wasn't his diaper id simply try something else.
The same thing happens with a lot of dads. They go down a "list" and do everything until they finally fix whatever is making the baby cry.
Have you ever noticed this is different with women, and specially moms? A baby starts to cry and the women (almost all the time) pretty much immediate knows why the baby is crying. This isn't magic, or even that astounding really...iits simply a by-product of evolution. Women have, historically, be the ones to take care of the children while the men was out bringing home the "meat."
Over time, Women has evolved this "sense." They are more finely intune with emotions and feelings. Lets use another example:
Ever had a friend, specially a female, come up to you and start laying out a big problem of hers. Lest say her car died.
Susans cat died so she runs over to Bobbies house. She lays there crying and telling him about the cat. Bobby defentially feels bad for her but hes not feeling the emotions she feels.
Now, Susan runs over to her female friends, Ashley, house. She is crying and telling about her cat. Ashley is crying too and is feeling a MUCH deeper level of emotion than Bobby did. Thats because Ashley can feel (not as much but can feel it) what Susan is feeling.
Women can feel what you feel. Thats teh whole basis of sexual sate projection.
You feel sexual and horny, she will feel sexual and horny.
You feel happy, she will feel happy.
You feel ok and not awkward with the silences, she will be comfortable with them too.
Something else I have noticed and would like to point out:
As I have said many, many times over... It is bad to be reactive. Its much better to be nonreactive. I have also said thats one big reason MM is bad, it teaches you to b reactive where as working on yourself and inner game will teach you to be nonreactive.
MM making the user reactive can simply be proved why looking no further than this fourm. Take my two recent threads on MM and combine it with this one. Now, go thru every reply and chalk the reply up as:
"positive and nonreactive."
"netural"
or
"negative and reactive."
Replying with a different opinion that man does not count as being reactive as long as their reply is mature. Ezo is a great example. Ezo disagress with me on MM being bad but he disagress in a mature way. My opinion doesn't effect his emotional state. It doesn't make him angry and furtrated and therefore causing him to lash out. Hes very emotionally stable and mature is his replies.
Now, once you do all that, notice that almost everyone that you put in the "negative and reactive" category is a very strong supporter of MM. Notice the pattern?
So, why does my opinion cause many of these MM supporters to lash out, call me names, and be very negative? Insecurity. On some level, my opinion has resonated with them and it makes sense. Their ego then takes over and says "wow, it kinda makes sense but NO..I cant be wrong! I wont let myself be wrong!"
They then lash out. Why are they insecure? A big part of it is because they have been using routines to try and attract women. And how can they be secure with themselves when they arnt being themselves around women? How cna they be secure when the method they use encourages them to be ashamed of being a man? Im of course talking about opinion openers here. A real man isnt afraid to go up and show his true masculine intent. No need to cover up his intentions why asking some opinion. He is a man and not ashamed of it. And really, you dont even need an opener. A opener is siimply an excuse to go up and start a conversation. Humans are social creatures, you dont need an excuse to go up and start being social. Needing an excuse (opener) is again, another limiting belief.
But all that said, its okay if your insecure. Its okay if you have an ego. I once did, a lot of people once did. Instead of trying to cover it up with routines, develop yourself so that you can rid yourself on insecurity and the ego.
Wish you the best.