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The belief of MM that aggravates me the most. Is that MM states that the man has to impress/qualify himself to the women. I must admit I am very mysoginistic at times, but i have found that women like that approach(they are sluts, and they need to be taught what to do). I think MM has the wrong approach on attraction also. It says that the words you say is what matters, and not the way you say them. I encorage people to look at other methods.

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MM like other analytical methods are good for a starting point. This in my opinion is because alot of men think of women as logical thinkers, and this belief effects how they act around women. So i must say that MM is good for begginers. I also think that MM gives a good idea on how to isolate women from a group. Other methods just suggest that she will "fall in to your reality" and she will leave with you, this is not true most of the time, but when it is its very serious.

to sum it up, MM has its good points and bad points, and that it can be used successfully by begginers, but eventually it fails. Thats my opinion. I am open to critisizm.

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MM like other analytical methods are good for a starting point. This in my opinion is because alot of men think of women as logical thinkers, and this belief effects how they act around women. So i must say that MM is good for begginers. I also think that MM gives a good idea on how to isolate women from a group. Other methods just suggest that she will "fall in to your reality" and she will leave with you, this is not true most of the time, but when it is its very serious.
I think you're right, it does appeal to beginners because of its analytical method, but I think that this is the greatest pitfall. Women aren't logical, so neither is game.

Even supporting this view the tiniest bit gives guys the idea that pickup can be logically broken down. If there was no MM or Mehow, guys would be forced to turn to more natural methods of game, and would probably learn more and learn better.

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it could be said that other methods place too much emphasis on seduction, and not enough on solid game (e.g. comfort, 25-hour rule etc). So this could be a strength of MM.
This is another one of my concerns in regards to mental masturbation. Trying to focus on "solid game" is mental masturbation. You don't even need this "solid game" to adhere to the leave-her-better-than-you-found-her rule. In fact, if you run a very quick game while properly managing expectations, you're far more likely to leave her better than you found her than using Mystery's "solid game."

This PUA Community was originally called the Seduction Community, by the way.
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AFC Adam (at least in the past), has admitted that a lot of his game rides on social value.

...what would say about AFC Adam's game, which you could almost compare to a "Natural MM"?
It's glaringly obvious that AFC Adam has his roots in MM, but I don't think it would be fair to compare his current method with it. He's still got a linear method like Mystery does, but (C-R)+Q+SE=A is a LOT less vague and seemingly more accurate than A+C=S. It's like comparing a guitar to a shoe box with rubber bands on it.

Other than that, AFC Adam's Entourage Game is all about social value and, more specifically, preselection. The main difference between his usage of preselection and Mystery's, besides the fact that AFC Adam uses real science to explain how his shit actually works, is that AFC Adam is actually surrounded by tons of women giving him attention rather than telling a questionable story about an ex-girlfriend. Oh, and AFC Adam doesn't waste time with the other 4 DHVs that Mystery teaches.

AFC Adam's camp also admits to not really being seducers/PUAs/whatever because they rely on their ridiculously high social value for pussy. While that's all fine and dandy for extremely extroverted people who made incredible social networks for themselves, you gotta understand that people who aren't THAT extroverted won't want to focus on such a macro level of game. To me it seems a lot simpler to go micro and focus on the 1 on 1 interaction. That's when social value becomes less relevant.
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MM - gets people out of their comfort zone ( true it tricks most of us into it with false hopes ) nevertheless it gives people comfort to believe that if they fail at life theirs always the mm to help them.Its probably the best thing to read when entering the community
Most other methods serve this function for newbies a lot better than MM does. Unfortunately, MM is the most commercialized and well-known method thanks to VH1 and "The Game" while the true gems like Vin DiCarlo remain hidden from the public eye.
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DHVing - Literally every method use''s this.
No, only methods that assume attraction is based on social value do this. Methods that focus more on sexual tension like GWM don't waste time with any sort of DHVing, unless you consider it a "DHV" to maximize your masculine polarity.
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Maybe this is because Im still between AFC-PUA but i believe the M3 model is pretty useful . Although I am only achieving moderate success using this model as guidelines with my own material but Im not overly dedicated to this lifestyle
I'd like to offer you a challenge. Check out my Sexual Attraction thread here: sexual-attraction-explained-in-depth-vt40419.html
and 60 Years of Challenge here: 60-years-of-challenge-vt74099.html
I bet that "moderate success" of yours will AT LEAST double.
You can thank me later.
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So Im curious, would anyone here who has used RSD methods in depth be able to post up a similar list of pros/cons?
That's simple.
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You get an extremely good idea on what it means to do "natural game" instead of being robotic. You actually become "cool" and learn to get laid by being a cool guy.
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You end up being just as weird as the MM-obsessed guys, but in a different way, because RSD encourages cult-like behavior since their marketing strategy is to separate themselves from the rest of the PUA Community as much as possible.

If you can avoid getting sucked into their cult-like SPAM, I would say RSD is actually really worth looking into.
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Now I prefer to have higher quality women in my life, and in fact would rather have less quantity and more quality. My latest current flame is a russian girl, hb9 platinum blonde, amazing body, the full package. But to me the looks are just the icing on the cake, she manages a luxury hotel in my city and she has been travelling around the world for the last 7 years (since she was 14) so she has so many interesting stories....and a great perspective in life that I find intellectually stimulating.
It makes me frown with quiet sadness to think that you assume that your "higher quality woman" wouldn't love being a "drunk club slut" from time to time.

Every woman deserves and wants the full spectrum of awesomeness that life has to offer. Being seduced in less than 7 hours is one of those cool things that your "higher quality woman" has a right to have. I'm sorry, but the 7 hour rule isn't about quality over quantity. It's rooted in the limiting belief that women don't want sex, one of the many limiting beliefs that MM actually reinforces.
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What are the practical alternatives to MM that give the same groundwork for motivation? It's easy to say "yea this sucks, do it better" when your already past a certain point.
From what I've heard, Jeffy from RSD (Jlaix, for you community veterans) says that newbies should start with GWM. I agree. A lot of more experienced PUAs, like TVA_Oslo, also agree.
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>It's no secret that MM encourages dishonesty

Where is that said or written?...

...If flirting involves a bit of lying, I can live with that.
I rest my case.
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What’s different with mystery compared to others is that he has charisma. I recently showed a girl videos of different pick up artists, she said ‘I definitely would go for mystery’.
Too bad that some of the only "guru" videos available are from Mystery, Ross Jeffries, Mehow, and some no-name flash-in-the-pan businessmen. Ask any random person to pick between Mystery, RJ, and Mehow. They'll pick Mystery and that means Mystery is better than everyone in the world. (sarcasm)
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Mystery and Style have created HIGH QUALITY methods and teachings, which are seldom matched by other PUAs. I find many concepts of Mystery are part of other methods, which was already addressed in an answer.
This statement tells me that you actually have little experience in terms of other methods. You've most likely just been exposed to commercially popular methods that are coincidentally all similar to MM. For example, there's a "guru" who started teaching bootcamps while he was still a virgin or something like that. He grew his business and today his name is known by everyone. He basically does MM. You know him as "Mehow."

Not everyone plays the same value-game that Mystery plays. Check out GWM.
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but I can't and will not fault the M3 method after some of the results I've got over the past coupla months
To be honest I'm getting pretty tired of hearing these types of opinions from people who have obviously tried ONLY the MM and haven't really tried anything else.
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I must admit I am very mysoginistic at times, but i have found that women like that approach(they are sluts, and they need to be taught what to do)
You have some serious problems. A PUA is a lover, not a bitter idiot who doesn't understand women. GTFO and come back when you have some life experience that has taught you otherwise. This is no place for a woman-hating 16 year old virgin.


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I'm sure you've seen Warped Mindless's 2 threads on bashing MM. I'm sure you've also noticed how much of a space monkey (RSD fanboy) he is. I'm also sure that his blatantly RSD-brainwashed cult-like attitude and inability to spell "escalate" has put you off. Stop posting in those threads. Post in this one if you're not gonna be a dogmatic fuck. If you're not going to speak from your own experience, go away. I don't want quotes from that book or that book.

What I'd like to do is to open a constructive dialogue on the real reasons MM is bad without all the dogmatic nonsense from any fanboys from either side of the debate. Then I would like to discuss practical and useful alternatives to what MM has to offer without that bullshit elitist indirect advertising for RSD. Warped Mindless has attempted to open such a dialogue by comparing MM to RSD on a shallow level but doesn't actually seem to speak with his own words. I will speak from personal experience of practicing MM and coaching pickup students.

First of all, what experience do I have with MM and other pickup material? I've spent the past 7 years of my life learning and practicing almost everything that the seduction community has to offer. I have a very solid basis of understanding of the various different kind of methods that are out there. I also know how certain methods are advantageous over certain other methods for different situations.

Let's get something else out of the way before I start my MM-bashing:

The Good Things About MM

Microcalibration
Although I argue that social value has less to do with "attraction" and more to do with "comfort," (check out my thread "Sexual Attraction Explained In-depth" in the Mid-Game section) it is important to calibrate yourself in different situations so that you actually preserve the value that you "naturally" have. Newbies who give MM an initial read-through won't have a very good idea of what Microcalibration actually is, but the more practiced student will have a good hang of it. It's a pretty useful - although not strictly necessary - skill that helps you keep riding the social wave without wiping out.

Bounce/Extraction Logistics
The most invaluable thing I took away from MM are the logistics for actually moving the girl to different locations. Although MM didn't stress the importance of logistics nearly as much as it should have, it did lay a decent groundwork for pulling logistics. I still use the "plausible deniability" thing to pull the girl to my "seduction location." lol

Group Theory
Although other methods have better ways of handling sets with multiple people, MM does offer something for this. Even though your average MM student won't really know what to do once he has isolated a girl (compared to someone who has studied GWM and Vin DiCarlo, for example), he does have a fairly decent idea of what to do to in order to get to that isolation phase if the girl has friends and orbiters with her.

So, MM does indeed have its merits. However, the cons far outweigh the pros.

The Bad Things About MM

MM stands for Mental Masturbation
Of all the methods in the seduction community, it seems to me that MM encourages mental masturbation THE MOST. If you're not actually stuck in the mental masturbation trap of MM, but you have been before, you know what I'm talking about. I don't need to explain this one to you. If you are a newbie who has found this site right after reading "The Game," however, this one's for you.

Mental masturbation is bad because it creates a comfort zone inside your own head and keeps you from taking action in the physical world. One of the many downsides to MM's analytical nature is that it gives your ego far too many opportunities to rationalize things for the purposes of protection and value-preservation. This actually hinders your progress since you're preventing yourself from calling it like it is. The mental masturbation encouraged by MM will actually create sticking points for you and will force you to dedicate way too much time into this shit than you should. I actually wasted a few YEARS with MM, and I feel like I threw those years away in terms of learning pickup. We can discuss this point further but for now I'm going to move on.

MM's assumptions about attraction
MM assumes that the higher your "value," the higher the attraction. If you've seen this to be true from other experiences that you've had, trust me when I say that correlation does not equal causation. We all learned that one in school. Social value and attraction are related, but you're wasting your time if you're trying to get laid with a DHV story. Other methods have found ways of creating attraction and pushing a seduction forward a hundred times better than what MM could ever offer. Check out that Sexual Attraction thread that I mentioned earlier. Your penis will thank you.

Group Theory
I know I listed this one as a good thing initially but MM puts way too much emphasis on "running sets" and social domination techniques that don't even work out for you in the greatest way in the long run, and not enough emphasis on actually seducing a girl. Sure, you've got Lovedrop teaching pointers on kino escalation here and there, but most other methods have that shit down so much better. Sure, some methods like SS barely have an emphasis on kino escalation at all, but MM is in a pretty low tier when it comes to that, believe it or not. "Would you like to kiss me?" I mean, come on. Really?

Verbal Game
MM is one of the older methods, so I guess it wouldn't be too fair to criticize MM for having such a strong emphasis on verbal game since it's pretty damn close to the era when SS reigned supreme. That still doesn't change the fact that newbies today are using old technology and that they should upgrade. I think MM does teach that it matters more on HOW you say something rather than WHAT you actually say, but it still encourages people to think that WHAT they actually say (routines and DHV stories, for example) is more important than it actually is. David Deangelo already informed us a long time ago that words only make up 7% of communication, but Mystery still told you that you have to indirectly telling girls that you're a preselected protector of loved ones with a story about a stripper ex-girlfriend you've never had.

Dishonesty
It's no secret that MM encourages dishonesty. I don't think I even have to explain how. Unfortunately for the average MM student, consistent HONESTY is one of the most powerful seduction tools you can ever use. Those of us who have been practicing seduction for a long time have already figured this out. And, no, this isn't one of those "direct game vs. indirect game" arguments. You don't have to lie and/or hide behind half-truths to run any sort of game.

Hobbit, get your ass in here and join this discussion. I want to hear what you've got to say about this topic. :P
Chief, I would first like to admire you. The way you approached this whole MM bashing which seems to be making its way around the forum recently really reflects true value. You state your opinion and make your stance while keeping both sides of the argument in view, which I look up to, and it really reflects the self-improvement aspect of game, despite some of the personal remarks about Warped Mindless and his views.

I also appreciate the fact that you stated the merits and positive aspects of the Mystery Method before you began with the fallbacks. I have read many times, and noticed in real life experience, that buttering any critical remark with even a small compliment or applause truly leaves a stronger impact. "I like the way you do this, but this could be improved..." is always much more respectable, effective, believable, and persuasive than "This sucks because I think so."

Now, onto my perspective on your content and criticisms.

Could you explain in a little more detail this whole 'microcalibration' concept? I'm not exactly understanding social calibration, and I feel its an aspect of game that could help me improve.

Isolating and Extracting the girl kind of merge into one single method. I have to agree with this. One thing that I have always remembered about the Mystery Method is how to isolate a target from her friends, and bring her to a location where you can game in a more private area, one on one. Things such as ignoring the target, push / pull, and more personal and intimate routines such as 'the cube' and others have always helped me do this.

Not exactly sure I agree with the whole 'mental masturbation' term or criticism, but here is my interpretation of what you are trying to say...

This 'mental masturbation' has us rationalizing our faults and fallbacks with false confidence and self-comfort.

This may be partly true, but some parts of the Mystery Method such as the Three Second Rule force us to approach within three seconds, leaving no time for mentally jacking off or false rationalization.

On MM's assumptions about attraction..

I believe this to be partly true. I see the importance of DHV's in building attraction, but like you said, high value does not = attraction, it merely is one of many ways to build attraction. Demonstrating your value by telling her you DJ, or are well traveled, or are popular, or are educated, is a tool that can and will help you build attraction but will not in itself = attraction. So it is important, but yes, MM stresses this far too much.

Your Part 2 of Group Theory, no comment.

Your thoughts on Verbal Game; yes.
It's not what you say, it's how you say it. He does lead his followers to believe that what you say is tremendously important - routines, lines, responses, negs, openers, closers, etc.

Dishonesty; I'd like to add to this one.

Playing a dishonest game can only help you feel more and more uncomfortable with who you actually are. If you go into a set and lie to her about your job, your hobbies, your friends, your lifestyle, and you are told that this will get you laid, it implants in your mind that who you actually are, your honest self, is not good enough to get you laid. What happens? You get some one night stands and your *real* confidence goes to shit. You play a dishonest game forever, you never make it past day 2, and you cry yourself to sleep on those nights when you go home alone with your thoughts.

Cheers for the post and the fair criticism, its about time someone does this right.

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...despite some of the personal remarks about Warped Mindless and his views.
lol Warped and I are on the same page about a lot of things and we chat a lot so I'd say we had enough rapport for me to neg him a bit :P ...and for me to finally call him out on cultishness! He's also impenetrable because of his training in the pickup arts so it's almost impossible to offend him :wink:
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Could you explain in a little more detail this whole 'microcalibration' concept? I'm not exactly understanding social calibration, and I feel its an aspect of game that could help me improve.
I believe microcalibration has a lot more to do with emotional intelligence developed through field experience than MM gives it credit for. The basics of microcalibration is to preserve your value through tiny negs, DHVs, SOIs, DLVs, etc. Unfortunately it does involve a reactive strategy (RSD people would argue that its bad to have a style based in reactivity) since you're calibrating mostly based on the actions of others.

As an example of microcalibration, let's say you're rich and you accidentally mention something that gives a clue to how rich you are. Lets say that the girl you're talking to gives a split-second facial expression that you just feel and you can tell that she's uncomfortable with you having a certain economic status for whatever reason. You would think that someone would normally be excited about being around a rich person but the nature of microcalibration is to adapt to unexpected shit. You would microcalibrate by DLVing yourself a little bit and switching the frame to having the conversation be about her + maybe a compliment or an SOI. The girl is then comfortable again and you don't lose value for being seen as a rich snob who only cares about himself.
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Not exactly sure I agree with the whole 'mental masturbation' term or criticism, but here is my interpretation of what you are trying to say...

This 'mental masturbation' has us rationalizing our faults and fallbacks with false confidence and self-comfort.

This may be partly true, but some parts of the Mystery Method such as the Three Second Rule force us to approach within three seconds, leaving no time for mentally jacking off or false rationalization.
Most people are going to take the path of least resistance. How many MM-practicing guys say things like "I'm not going to approach her because she's not my type for reasons X, Y, and Z" instead of adhering to the 3 second rule (I've been guilty of this myself when I did MM)? It takes less than 3 seconds for your ego to give you an excuse and rationalize away progress. While they preach the 3 second rule to their "students," they still let their egos prevent them from advancing their own practice. They don't get the results they were initially hoping for so they say things like "pickup is about improving your life instead of getting laid" while they sit at home reading more books. This is the epitome of mental masturbation.
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Playing a dishonest game can only help you feel more and more uncomfortable with who you actually are. If you go into a set and lie to her about your job, your hobbies, your friends, your lifestyle, and you are told that this will get you laid, it implants in your mind that who you actually are, your honest self, is not good enough to get you laid.
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MM keeps you further from the truth that who you really are on the inside is more than good enough to get laid and seduce like a pro. The REAL "game" is learning how to unlock that caged beast within by removing the shackles of years and years of hindering social programming.


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Now I prefer to have higher quality women in my life, and in fact would rather have less quantity and more quality. My latest current flame is a russian girl, hb9 platinum blonde, amazing body, the full package. But to me the looks are just the icing on the cake, she manages a luxury hotel in my city and she has been travelling around the world for the last 7 years (since she was 14) so she has so many interesting stories....and a great perspective in life that I find intellectually stimulating.
It makes me frown with quiet sadness to think that you assume that your "higher quality woman" wouldn't love being a "drunk club slut" from time to time.

Every woman deserves and wants the full spectrum of awesomeness that life has to offer. Being seduced in less than 7 hours is one of those cool things that your "higher quality woman" has a right to have. I'm sorry, but the 7 hour rule isn't about quality over quantity. It's rooted in the limiting belief that women don't want sex, one of the many limiting beliefs that MM actually reinforces.
Hmm, perhaps I am not communicating in the best possible way, or it is easy to take my comments a little out of context.

In my limited understanding of MM, the 7 hour rule is a rule of thumb for a skilled seducer to really capture a womans imagination and emotions.

I am more than aware that a high quality woman has the right, and plenty of opportunity to enjoy and instafuck, and the accompanying emotional rush! As do I!

Perhaps better to say that, when I meet a woman that strikes me as being of particular quality, I pace the interaction to progress a little more slowly, in order for me to enhance the quality of the seduction and make her invest more - this way I have her locked in for LTR or MLTR.

I could easily have fucked her on the first nite, just as I have done for many girls, and im sure this girl even has in her life - but I didnt let her fuck me, in fact told her she wasnt getting laid until the 3rd night we spent together.

So I might say something along the lines of its not the quality of the girl, but rather the quality of the seduction process that rings a little more true.

I am perhaps thinking of a wider seduction here, that of a mind and a heart as opposed to just fucking. Hope that clears up any issues ;)

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Now I prefer to have higher quality women in my life, and in fact would rather have less quantity and more quality. My latest current flame is a russian girl, hb9 platinum blonde, amazing body, the full package. But to me the looks are just the icing on the cake, she manages a luxury hotel in my city and she has been travelling around the world for the last 7 years (since she was 14) so she has so many interesting stories....and a great perspective in life that I find intellectually stimulating.
It makes me frown with quiet sadness to think that you assume that your "higher quality woman" wouldn't love being a "drunk club slut" from time to time.

Every woman deserves and wants the full spectrum of awesomeness that life has to offer. Being seduced in less than 7 hours is one of those cool things that your "higher quality woman" has a right to have. I'm sorry, but the 7 hour rule isn't about quality over quantity. It's rooted in the limiting belief that women don't want sex, one of the many limiting beliefs that MM actually reinforces.
Hmm, perhaps I am not communicating in the best possible way, or it is easy to take my comments a little out of context.

In my limited understanding of MM, the 7 hour rule is a rule of thumb for a skilled seducer to really capture a womans imagination and emotions.

I am more than aware that a high quality woman has the right, and plenty of opportunity to enjoy and instafuck, and the accompanying emotional rush! As do I!

Perhaps better to say that, when I meet a woman that strikes me as being of particular quality, I pace the interaction to progress a little more slowly, in order for me to enhance the quality of the seduction and make her invest more - this way I have her locked in for LTR or MLTR.

I could easily have fucked her on the first nite, just as I have done for many girls, and im sure this girl even has in her life - but I didnt let her fuck me, in fact told her she wasnt getting laid until the 3rd night we spent together.

So I might say something along the lines of its not the quality of the girl, but rather the quality of the seduction process that rings a little more true.

I am perhaps thinking of a wider seduction here, that of a mind and a heart as opposed to just fucking. Hope that clears up any issues ;)
But what's the point of a better seduction. If you get her in bed and she does everything you want that's as good a seduction as I can imagine. Is it you want to go out with them. Because if so what's to stop you doing that after the first night of sex.

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I have standards of conversational ability and intelligance, the process is more enjoyable for me, less dramas in the long term. You can really frame it how you want it. Just leaving less things to chance I guess...

But normally 90% of the time I will fuck on the first night :P Its just when you come across a girl of particular quality, you dont want to leave so much to chance, plus that is something almost no guy will tell her, every guy drools over her so for someone to tell her "no"? or "not yet"? Demonstrates value and standards.

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I have standards of conversational ability and intelligance, the process is more enjoyable for me, less dramas in the long term. You can really frame it how you want it. Just leaving less things to chance I guess...

But normally 90% of the time I will fuck on the first night :P Its just when you come across a girl of particular quality, you dont want to leave so much to chance, plus that is something almost no guy will tell her, every guy drools over her so for someone to tell her "no"? or "not yet"? Demonstrates value and standards.
But once you've seduced her what's the point of demonstrating value and standards, she's already decided she wants to sleep with you. And good talkers are usually good sex. The best sex is generally with girls that worship the ground you walk on and will do anything for you. Or the girls that hate your guts but just want to fuck you and have all the moves.

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As I said, its not a rule, I guess I will at the end of the day just do what I want to do :P

I could go further to say that the energy of an interaction with any individual is always different, interacting with a unique person brings out a unique response in you....but thats a little fruity and esoteric :D

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Its just when you come across a girl of particular quality, you dont want to leave so much to chance, plus that is something almost no guy will tell her, every guy drools over her so for someone to tell her "no"? or "not yet"? Demonstrates value and standards.
Don't want to leave so much to chance? If you're talking about what I think you're talking about, it's easier to sleep with a girl if you do it sooner. The longer you wait, the less likely it's gonna happen.

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In that LR I withheld sex for a bit because I thought that would be more fun w/ better sex.


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Yup, pretty much exactly like that. I want to enjoy the interaction as much as she does, build the tension etc etc let things escalate naturally.

As you said in that thread, I also used RJs Discovery Channel pattern, and then one of my own patterns called Memorable Sex, that myself and my wing Chocolate from the UK came up with using RJs principles.

And yes, thanks to Mr Piccus it was oral heaven he first two nights before I finally fucked her on the third ;)

I think its interesting after being in the game for a wee while, that there is a tendency for the seduction to become almost boring...when you know what works and how to lock it in most of the time.

I actually want to enjoy my connection with the women I meet, and not just see them as a number or a bang, and so im always trying to be as spontaneous as possible, do crazy shit with them, fuck them in public places, be adventurous, be naughty, make them feel special, bring them on an emotional rollercoaster - pickup is an art, and its a place for us to express our creativity.

I know Tim from RSD talks about creativity in the Transformations series as being what separates the good from the best, and I think its when that authentic creativity and spontaneity and just LIFE shines through that makes for a really enjoyable attraction.

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PostPosted: Mon Sep 13, 2010 2:10 pm 
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good talkers are usually good sex. The best sex is generally with girls that worship the ground you walk on and will do anything for you. Or the girls that hate your guts but just want to fuck you and have all the moves.
I like that by the way, very true :P

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What are the steps in Gunwitch method? What about it is motivating? If I remember correctly from when I read it three years ago, it immediately makes someone judge if they are ugly or not. Doesn't seem very motivating to me. And asking someone with no sexual experience to be sexual seems silly to me, but I really can't know one way or the other about that.
Reading the GWM will first give the student some good Inner Game basics. As for the looks thing, GW is just trying to be a realist. Looks do matter and he's not gonna lie about it. As he's said before, "looks can replace game."

Why are you so hung up on the motivation issue? Doesn't a new PU student already have motivation once he decides to learn PU? The average male's desire to get laid after he's lacked consistent sex his entire life can be very strong and can serve as very sufficient motivation. By the way, I don't mean that in a sarcastic manner because I know where you're coming from.

GWM is a free, practical, and BS-free guide to seduction. That's all a newbie needs to start with. Someone with no prior sexual experience with women won't necessarily have problems using GW's sexual state technique if he can still get an erection from watching porn.

GWM may be a nice philosophy, but where is the practical tools? I can't find any with my google searches.
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The only problem I saw with MM is that people used to cling to it and never try new things once they got to that level where they could do 'better' methods. That problem is pretty much nonexistent now with all this MM bashing.
Looks like all the bashing has done its work from your POV, then :)

But what do you think of all the mental masturbation and dishonesty that MM encourages? Seriously, if I hear one more person use that "It's not lying, it's flirting" quote from Neil Strauss I'm going to fuck their mother. In less than 7 hours, too.


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Seriously, if I hear one more person use that "It's not lying, it's flirting" quote from Neil Strauss I'm going to fuck their mother. In less than 7 hours, too.
Actually laughed out loud.

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