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i have a pretty heavy accent and it brings my confidence down. i cant pronounce my r's and its not a recognizable accent like a mexican / chinese accent, its just a random one (doesnt matter which), and i know it brings my confidence down cuz in my native country i can open sets easily.. in america i can barely talk to ppl. what should i do

Get your head straight! You're complaining about a chest of gold because it's heavy. When I first came to these shores, the accent alone did all the work for me. All of it. And if you're ever at a loss, just open with
anything, then play the guess where I'm from game (or tell her a clear lie about your origin), eventually let her know where you're from, and voila: you just made yourself interesting/different and have had a natural convo without thinking about it. What again was your problem?