So, in other words, you are advocating building an ego? Really though, your term pillar and ego are the same. Not that it's a horrible thing, because it can help with confidence like you are saying and can get you results that you want, but what happens when your pillar or ego falls? In your scenario you have another part of your ego to subside the fall, but do you really want to rely on that? Ultimately, all else fails, is your inner game strong enough?

That's where the "not giving a fuck" mentality comes in to play. Sure, you may actually care, but its the presence, or lack thereof that is physically attractive. Don't get me wrong, caring has it's time and place, too. I know what you are saying though, a lot of people act like they don't care when they really do. I find myself in the same boat a lot of times, but if it helps get you the results that you want, "who gives a fuck?" lol

No Im not. An ego is a substitute for confidence. My term pillar and ego are very different. Ego is what you get when you dont have strong enough inner game to have true confidence. Ego is telling yourself that you are the shit. Confidence is being secure enough not to have to care about that.

So I advocate staying as far away from ego as possible and going for building true confidence instead.

Did you even read my pillars of confidence post? If not, do. It explains more in detail.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

If you give a fuck about what people think... Why is your avatar showing the shove it up your ass sign

LOL. You make me laugh. For one, you entirely missed my point. Secondly, you're trying to label me as some crazed rebel to disprove my point. Funny guy.

Read and understand...

Buddha was passing through a village and the people came and they insulted him. And they used all the insulting words that they could use – all the four-letter words that they knew. Buddha stood there, listened silently, very attentively, and then said, "Thank you for coming to me, but I am in a hurry. I have to reach the next village, people will be waiting for me there. I cannot devote more time to you today, but tomorrow coming back I will have more time. You can gather again, and tomorrow if something is left which you wanted to say and have not been able to say, you can say it to me. But today, excuse me.

Those people could not believe their ears, their eyes: this man has remained utterly unaffected, undistributed. One of them asked, "Have you not heard us? We have been abusing you like anything, and you have not even answered!"

Buddha said, "If you wanted an answer then you have come too late. You should have come ten years ago, then I would have answered you. But for these ten years I have stopped being manipulated by others. I am no longer a slave, I am my own master. I act according to myself, not according to anybody else. I act according to my inner need. You cannot force me to do anything. It's perfectly good: you wanted to abuse me, you abused me! Feel fulfilled. You have done your work perfectly well. But as far as I am concerned, I don't take your insults, and unless I take them, they are meaningless."

When somebody insults you, you have to become a receiver, you have to accept what he says; only then can you react. But if you don't accept, if you simply remain detached, if you keep the distance, if you remain cool, what can he do?

Buddha said, "Somebody can throw a burning torch into the river. It will remain alight till it reaches the river. The moment it falls into the river, all fire is gone – the river cools it. I have become a river. You throw abuses at me. They are fire when you throw them, but the moment they reach me, in my coolness, their fire is lost. They no longer hurt. You throw thorns – falling in my silence they become flowers. I act out of my own intrinsic nature.


Love & not being a slave to others

~Finesse

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Munroe: "I kinoed the hell out of that goat"
Jav: "bashing chodes 24/7 ftw"
Slywalker: "Neg the bagel"
Slywalker: "I had a 1yr old GF when I was 19"
SS_Trunks:I asked her for an extra pen, confidently....

Because the other option was to hold a cigarette and I dont like smoking.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Yes, but the torch still enters the river even though it has gone out. We are talking about the same thing here apparently. I am not saying that we should take all advice we get. I am saying that we need to listen to it because once in a while someone has a really good point and it would be a shame to miss out.