Top post Chel.
Sounds liked this girl kinda knocked your game a bit?
We all get it, it’s called being human
but lets be honest.
You have FAR too tight a game to let it affect you.
My take on this thread?
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crazyoney2k wrote:
how cool is that turning the negative into a positive!!!
the girl that blew you out was probably sat at home i imagine either watching beaches, steel magnolas, pretty woman or some sandra bullock film eating ice cream and drinking a glass of wine wondering why she's alone on a friday night
Haha well that's a good way to put it, but to be honest, couldn't give a fook what she was doing, because I had fun
EXACTLY.
THAT is the Chel we all know and love.
Who cares what she was doing, sorry crazyoney2k but fantasising that this girl is having a crap time is a bit afc. imo
Thinking about it she may have flaked a bit because she's insecure about her age, being too old.
Girls worry A LOT
She could be having inner conflict, self protection mechanism coming in
Thinking with the rational side of her mind
"Should I really meet up with this young guy? I ought to meet older guys and settle down”
Thinking with the emotional side of her mind
“This guy was really cute and we had loads of fun, we should hang out”
Thinking with the rational side of her mind
"But he’ll probably meet younger, hotter women and I’ll get hurt”
Thinking with the emotional side of her mind
“That younger guy was cute AND fun, a fling with him would be just what I need”
Hence you get an date request when her mind is in the emotional phase
And a flake when it’s in the rational phase
If I was in this situation I'd like to think that
IF I heard from her again I'd either disqualify and Neg
Example. "Jeez you older girls sure play games huh?"
OR
Try and get around her rational objections (so she tells herself it's not a "date")
Whatever day she mentions a possible meet up say in a matter of fact way that you are doing something with some friends
Something innocuous like a movie or something, move the conversation on....
And then say “hey, you know what? you should come along with us, it’ll be fun”
This takes the pressure off the “date” for her
AND
Doesn’t make you look afc.
Also if you hint that the group of friends are mixed (she won’t want to come along with just you and the guys) and it will bring out the competitive side of her nature.
You are the prize!
Just my opinion
Scamp