Hey guys,

I know this is a website which teaches you how to pick up women, but as you are all PUAs, I was wondering what could a woman say to you which would defer you from trying to pick her up????

The reason I ask if because when I am out without my boyfriend and there is a strong PUA influence around, he doesn't seem to care when I say "I have a boyfriend" and tries to use boyfriend destroyers. These never work because I really love my boyfriend and would not cheat on him and because I can see straight through them to the motive.

It is really annoying when a guy will not leave me alone and will keep trying to pick me up. In this case, persistance does NOT pay off - it just results in me becoming increasingly more and more pissed off.

There are also the guys that try and pick me up and when I inform them I have a boyfriend, they say things like "well obviously you're not his tonight" or "why does he let you go out without him - if you were my girl, I would not let you go out without me"

So I just would like to know some PUA destroyers I guess.

Thanks guys

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....Thought you might like a girl's opinion....

All you have to do is shut down your personality and don't interact with the person. Reply with one word sentences and that type of thing. Definitely don't laugh or smile at anything he says. Don't tell him you have a boyfriend. Don't tell him anything whatsoever about yourself.

Thanks for your reply bluemoon!!

So in other words, be a bitch?

I have tried that before and it actually ended pretty badly. The guy trying to pick me up started becoming really agressive and pinned me to the wall of the club. He was much bigger than me so my friend had to run and get the security.

I just want something that will still seem polite-ish to avoid these sort of crazy outbursts.

Any ideas?

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Yeah I more or less agree with bluemoon. The only way to diffuse the situation is to be short with him.

If for instance you really love your boyfriend, tell him that you are committed to a boyfriend. Then perhaps, get away. Failing that release the bitches wraith (not attacking though).

If you don't want to be gamed then you don't want to be gamed, period. Yeah it is a man's job to show a woman what he has to offer her be it a good/attractive attitude, DHV, or whatever. But in the end it is you that has the pussy and if you are not attracted then at that point you have ALL the power. In other words he has no REAL power over you.

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Yeah I more or less agree with bluemoon. The only way to diffuse the situation is to be short with him.

If for instance you really love your boyfriend, tell him that you are committed to a boyfriend. Then perhaps, get away. Failing that release the bitches wraith (not attacking though).

If you don't want to be gamed then you don't want to be gamed, period. Yeah it is a man's job to show a woman what he has to offer her be it a good/attractive attitude, DHV, or whatever. But in the end it is you that has the pussy and if you are not attracted then at that point you have ALL the power. In other words he has no REAL power over you.

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If they are being rude, spit on them.
Don't listen to them, look away, act bitchy, and tell them you are married it's the best. As soon as you say it the better chances the PUA will leave you alone.

must be realy frustrating, if you just want to have a good, normal talk and the guys just keep on hitting on you.

most of the answers are givin i think. just sigh loudly, roll your eyes, walk away or say "talk to tha hand cuz the face won't listen anymore" :p, and then walk away.

you could also do something else, equally powerfull. make him notice that you know your hit on and you know the game. say "yeah i already know that line", or "oh yeah, isn't that what puas call 'the boyfriend destroyer?'". they will feel silly and exposed. they'll think that you already know all the lines and the game, and you force them to apologize and to act normal. chances are that they'll show their deeper self, or even afc-ness, or they just walk away.

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You could totally destroy these guys, but to be honest its not really fair, these guys could be new to pickup, it may have taken them a weak to finally approach a women and then you totally destory them with the all most unbeakable bitch sheld where you put your back to them and saying go away go away...

The reason "I have a boyfriend" objection doesnt work, on 99% of guys, is becuase some girls say that when they do not have a boyfreind and (speaking from a male perspective or maby i just have low morals) it gives it that extra edge of fun, to bed a girl with a boyfreind!!

Just have some fun (you know you wont cheat on your boyfreind) and just use more advanced techniques on him, or just say something like "i have heard all these pua techniques before.... my boyfreind taughty me to watch out for guys like you with their nlp, ect techniques!" unltimatly if you know the techniques it is a waste of his time keep trying the techniques on you....

Where's this happening? Bars and clubs or everyday locations like the grocery store and shit?

I realize you said you don't wanna be bitchy, since when you did do that, a guy got aggressive with you. I don't think you can do much about that, but just thinking about the boyfriend destroyers these guys use, you could easily destroy them. In response to "well obviously you're not his tonight", you could just say "I'm not yours either." or when they say "why does he let you go out without him - if you were my girl.." just say "Well it's a good thing I'm not your girl then."

It's impossible to pick up on a girl who won't respond to you at all. If it's in a club and it's loud, just ignore them. Act like you don't hear them, and if they touch you to get your attention, just be extremely unresponsive.

Honestly, I would probably ignore them entirely.

If you're worried about them getting aggressive, take basic self-defense. In my opinion, I'd say everyone should know self-defense.

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Shouldn't any, even newish, PUA's be picking up on all the IoD's you'd be giving off? Are you sure some part of you isn't interested and giving off IoI's that make them think they should persist?

For instance, one girl I dealt with recently was trying to convince me she didn't want to date. She still met up with me under the pretense of "no labels" but was consciously trying to control her IoIs. At one point she even pointed out verbally how she hadn't touched me once all night.... which there were two things very wrong with:

1) If she's pointing it out, I know she's consciously trying to control her signals of interest
2) She HAD touched me several times, and only ended up touching me more after saying it

What's worked on me is to just start ignoring me and talking to your friend. Might be polite to say something first, but he's not going stand there for long with you ignoring him... it makes him look bad in front of other targets.

Oh, and a guy getting aggressive like that? Yeah, call the bouncer. He's probably more drunk and arrogant than PUA...

Alright, the chances of this actually happening are minimal.

I suggest you do the exact same thing - only this time, be a bitch in a nicer way.
"That's really sweet of you, but I have a boyfriend. It was nice meeting you though."

The last part clearly says "Nice try, but go away now." If persistence calls in (btw, the guys you met clearly don't know the good meaning of persistence. They were just needy), then start acting colder like before.

... And I wouldn't worry so much about another guy attacking you. Clearly, he had attention issues and his daddy didn't hug him when he was a kid.

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IF I WAS AN AFC I WOULD BE COMPLETLY DISCOURAGED AT THIS POINT.
I imagin most came here to learn how to get past these issues with women and you're asking for the exact opposite. Your asking how to perfect these issues so that when men (probably might even be on this forum) approach you, you can have the neccacery skillset (weapons of mas destruction) to completly and utterly obliterate there INNER GAME.
AND NOW we have yet another AVERAGE FUSTRATED CHUMP with NO SELF -ESTEAM Post yet another (long) FR of HOW SOME HB BLEW HIM OFF. LEAVING HIM ASKING QUESTIONS THAT MOST ASK EVERYDAY HERE:
What did i do wrong?
A: Maybe some PUAs are giving HB advices on "how to BLOW AFCs off."
Thx For Reading, Have a Blessed Day>!

Smh!

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"I actually have a penis"

"did you know i can touch my brain with my little finger in my nose?"

"wow i had my period yesterday and green goo came out of me as well"

"My dad is here somewhere too. he is always watching me. Did i mention he works for the army?"

*picking your nose, then eating it* while he is trying to pick you up


lol i should copyright this. It's a list of what came up in my mind as unattractive for a girl

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Why else do you think girls have P*ssies