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Is it possible, that maybe, just like the self proclaimed "gurus" who wrote these books--by going out and experimenting with social situations, maybe you could go out and do the same? They did not have books to read
Going to respond to this using your own example-
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So lets take your practice into in example. Build a rocketship without reading a book. Well for starters, the nature of the textbook I read to build my rocketship, will most likely be written by no more than at least a dozen doctorates in engineering.
The first engineers who build a rocketship would have done it from their own invention and thought to create something new and brilliant. HOWEVER, they would have read physics books containing idea's thought of by people who probably couldn't even imagine what a space shuttle would be like!
However, those books gave the engineers the base principles they needed to carry the idea further.
A lot of guys who come to this forum really don't know where to start - they are unable to set realistic targets in their life to achieve.
They see it as this:
I am currently I lonely loser -----> I am now a sexual active player with an awesome social life.
They don't factor in any middle steps, they don't know how to achieve it since they have no past evidence to work on.
Books are not the optimum way of learning social skills though, I learnt mainly from growing up and seeing how other people interacted and doing my own things based on what I had observed and seeing the results.
Lots of children won't do that though for whatever reason and therefore won't learn the base skills.
What a PUA book offers in my opinion is a 60/40 split of placebo/real help. However, just because 60% is placebo doesn't mean it is bad - people believing that it will work or they have found the secret will cause them to put across lots of non-verbal signals that will make them attractive!
Sure, lots of the things in PUA books are obvious to me ("kino" - ofc you need to touch a woman to get into bed with her and ofc you have to build it up steadily not just jump in) - but to a lot of people that really isn't obvious!
But the people who actually read a book and then get out and do it then gain 1st hand experience of what works!
Another example of this working in another way is with sports coaching:
A coach can tell me how to shoot a basketball, but the first time I do it I probably wont be that great. I have to keep doing it again and again to get my own experience of it and learn the fine details that are specific to how I do it. However, if nobody told me (or if I never saw) someone shoot a basketball would my technique be anything like what works best? Maybe after a long time...
Madals
p.s. All of my discussion points revolve around the basis that the person who reads a book actually gets off their ass and tries it. People who don't get out and do it have the same chance of success with or without a book (0% chance).
p.p.s - Please keep the discussion civilised and try not to re-post what has already been said without adding to it.