This question frequently comes up, and I am, so I never know really how to respond to it. I feel like just saying "yes" is a bad move, and can turn a lot of girls off. And I don't want to say no cause that's a direct lie. Is there a funny way I could say yes, or somehow avoid the question?

( i dont know where i got this remark from so i cant give credit)

"How many people have you slept with ? , Are you seeing anyone at the moment ? , Are you a virgin ? "

Adjust this reply to any of them

" Have you ever seen James Bond ....well you get the idea "

It dosnt answer there question and gets a laugh

I have only used this for when family start prodding into my love life which i want to keep them out off

Are you young? What are you usually doing when the question comes up? I only had it happen once, and it's because I was sleeping fully clothed which the girl found odd... she asked if I'd ever lived with someone before, then made the connection that I was probably a virgin too.

If they are asking, I suspect you are telegraphing it somehow.

I am young, but it usually comes up through us just going back and forth asking questions.

Maybe it's because you are young then, and I'm guessing that at a young age it's not a big deal. Not sure though...

I'm not that young, it's not like I'm 13. And if you're talking to non-virgins, who you ARE trying to get in bed, it kind of is.

Two question to answer first, 1) where you are and 2) what is your gender.

1) If you live in a third world country such as those in South Caucasus or Middle East, you simple don't respond, because unless it's the tourist next door, no one will answer, it's sort of a taboo and gets revealed after the first night. There is a tiny country called Armenia in South Caucasus, where after the first night, if the girl turns out to be a virgin (and god help her if she does not), the guy's family takes a red apple (symbol for virginity) to the girl's house and all the neighbors see and everyone is happy.

If you are in United States, like me, the question is a pretty ordinary thing to ask, and the answer I think depends on the second question, which is

2) Are you a guy? if the answer is "yes," I'd suggest to go ahead and always answer positively. After all, if you're above 18, what's wrong with you if you still haven't had sex. If you are a girl, I'm not sure, I'm not one, so I haven't considered all the pros and coins of saying yes, but saying "no" is not as easy as saying yes for a guy. (unless she goes through a medical procedure, of course.)

But, like others have suggested, avoid the question if you can do so with a witty response. After all, it's nobody's business and does not say much about the person, on contrary, it allows others to generalize because people need quick ways to judge you without having to go through the hard work of finding out who you really are.

what about if your mid 20s? yeah i know i just never really tried.

Use the 'are you a virgin' to create some mystery about you...

answer something like 'well thats a little personal for this stage of the interaction dont you think ' said in rhetorical tone, and then immediately switch the topic. it will be on her mind and she will invest more time trying to get to know you...purely to find out one silly answer to one silly question.

Not quite 18, I am male, and I live in the US. But I don't like flat out lying about it. I like the first person's answer, about James Bond. That'll probably be my new default.

Honestly, it depends on who you're talking to. If you're just trying to get laid, lie and say you're not. If you like the person, tell the truth. I take that back, in both situations, just lie. Even if you like the person, being a virgin will turn many women off. I know this from experience, its not that they think you'll suck in bed, they just don't want to be "the one".

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OP... listen to me very carefully.

There is nothing more lamer than lying that youv had sex when you havent.

If your a virgin.. just say so.. everyone was a virgin once.

If you say NO.. you set yourself up for possible complications if she starts questioning you about your last lay.

You say it comes up when questions are being asked back and forth, perhaps too many questions are being asked and not enough action. For a female to ask this, I take it as an IOI, but she obviously has a reason to ask, be cocky/funny, the James Bond reply is a good one.

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