http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hymen

It breaks if still intact thus causing pain.
Not acceptable. Cut it out, now. Thanks.
This is probably a key reason why if you do get into a relationship at any point it wont last. Since you like using the term alpha so much, I will put it into that context.
To respect someone is incredibly alpha, it shows you notice peoples positive traits but are not threatened by them. Respect people and most of the time they will respect you back.
If its as bad as you say, go and see a professional in the mental health field.
However, if its just ...... Then get a grip. Women have had their heart broken just as much as men, it is not an excuse to have these negative views of an entire sex.
Prejudiced is never alpha so try to be more open to the possibility not everyone is as bad as the last.
There is a fundamental problem in your thought here. You do not own any woman, therefore she is not yours to share or not. This all links back to respect.
What you say in words and what I am reading between the lines are two very different things. You want her to be yours and cannot deal with the uncertainty if she isn't.
As for if something better comes along, wouldn't you?
Now, this is where you have a messed up idea of better.
Hotter,smarter etc are traits you will NEVER BE THE BEST AT. There will always be a guy who is smarter/sexier/braver/stronger/etc than you are - deal with it. However, I strongly believe there is something more to love than those things. I may be a little fairy tale style when I say that, but I bet there are women you see as near perfect that another guy my see as the worst thing ever. Personal choice makes a massive difference, people are willing to compromise on some things while not on others making them almost uniquely attracted to certain people.
You have identified yourself that its your fucked up view of reality that is causing the problem, not them. What are you doing to put yourself back in the real world so you can actually be happy?

Hope this has given you some things to think about.

Madals

QFT
You mean like how EVERY male PUA does?

Turn something into a "game" and you're going to make some unnecessary rules for yourself.

Ok GirlfriendofaPUA I don’t know if you really want the answer or if you are just ranting. So I will give a short and long answer.

Short answer:
Because society would fall apart if women did not call other women sluts.

Long answer:
What is going on is the last vestiges’ of the Victorian morals system. We have evolution of reciprocal altruism in progress.

The Victorian value system is based on small communities (which is probably closer to our actual genetic instructions). In a small community it made much more since to display generous, honorable characteristics (raise everyone’s boat if you will) because later on down the road some one would repay the favor; it also made since to appear chaste because you could bestow by right of virtue to your husband honorable and chaste characteristics to him. These values directly influenced and affected his social value and wealth in the community and by proxy hers.
As societies grew and urban centers began to be formed; the strategy of lying and deception became the favorable strategy. Relationships with people became shorter and people moved away or lost contact. In this environment the strategy of generosity and honorable actions is no longer rewarded and lost its competitive edge. It is natural for our society’s behaviors to adapt to our environment in such a manner.

Why the Victorian society frowns on promiscuous women.

Polygamy laws actually protect society not women and a polygamous situation would be a favorable society to a woman. Let us imagine that there are 100 men and women all perfectly matched for each other in terms of value (ie her reproduction vs his survival)

Now imagine that polygamy is legal and the woman can marry any man she wants. Would she choose ;given the fact that there are no societal constraints; to be the only wife of the ”sort of” handsome taco bell worker…or the third wife of the attractive and powerful investment banker? Financial, physically and reproductively it would make more sense for her to marry the investment banker…and statistically on a whole that’s what would happen.

So now we have a whole lower class society of single low paid males running around. Can you guess who the majority (92%) of violent crimes are committed by in a society? That’s right. Low class, single males.

So being a slut is not a bad thing for you singularly. If you want to adapt and change your strategy with men. Do it. That’s what PUAs have done. However remember that society as whole will cease to function peacefully if all women do it. That is why there is so much social pressure not to; we have evolved through trial and error.

SO THANK YOU FOR NOT BEING A SLUT

much love
-R

lol Ezo, thanks man. I have some fucked up believes in my head cuz of that ex gf. She was so mean and I loved her so much. I respected her so much though and things started off really good. I can't believe it ended the way it did.

anyway thank you a lot for your post. I must say that I am very jealous too if I care about someone, but Im working on that.

Peace mate

And Madals, thank you too man. I respect you a lot man, lol I posted a story about my girlfriend who should not go on a 2000 dollar trip to australia about a year ago. Dunno if you remember, hahah guess what, it was about that girl. She did not come along. lol So glad you insisted the bitch could not go! My mom is happy she did not come either afterwards lol
Thanks for giving good insights

Oh and btw, a quick question regarding to the topic. I dunno if its jealousy, but I suffer from this:

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-can ... -past.html

People say get over it, but I find it hard to get over. Thats why I already know I won't get married.
How do you guys feel about that stuff, or do you simply not care

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Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

1. Exactly as chief responded, everyone is over-complicating PU. It's actually a very simple process.

2. Don't know about cultural differences but eastern european countries usually value women less in their societies, so it SHOULD have been easier in Budapest. I'll take a look into the study, cheers for the heads up!

3. More selective over who they sleep with? Who says that's the way it is staying? Or indeed that it is the biological imperitive that it remains? The introduction of condoms is going to erode that selectiveness. Maybe not in relationships and partnering, but definatly with sex.

4. In that respect, I agree, us men have less social constraints to put up with.

5.
A females evaluation of a potential lay.
1) Is he hot?
2) Is there a catch?
3) Is he hot enough I don't care about the catch?

I'd consider the problem with "friends thinking this" toi be in the catch department.
As for the pregnancy stuff, with it's utility gone, the behaviour should begin to dis-appear; though it can certainly be considered a factor now.

6. Ah Great so we ARE on the same page.

7. No woman has ever had the power to launch a thousand ships to get her man back. Trust me, women are quite capable of going bat shit insane becuase they lose their guy!

The best action is to work around the slut mentality. It's there, but it won't be long before the ball starts truly rolling and things shift.

I think we can agree that their is almost no credible sense in the slut mentality left. The sooner it's gone and the problems that "it" solved, replaced with more efficient and free solutions; the better.

Valuing women less doesn't mean anything about acceptance of sexuality. If their culture/belief system demonizes sex enough both men and women will be less likely to go for sex outside of marriage. With women being valued less, they are again even less likely to do so since a part of their value may be their chasteness... which could leave men pretty damn confused when some western chick comes up offering sex.



Thousands of years of evolution do not go away with a couple generations worth of effective birth control and safer child births. (I know condoms have been around for hundreds of years, but our evolution goes back millennia.)
You've oversimplified 1, given that we KNOW a woman's level of attraction is based on more than just physical characteristics.

And you left out the slut mentality that you ADMIT exists. This is disingenuous at best.
We're talking about now.

There have been female world leaders you know...

Besides, how many other women just go out and hook up every night? Because they can, and without spending years studying PUA material at that!

I don't think the slut mentality will go away. It is something women inflict on themselves, as I said in my first post.