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In social psychology, research shows that a lot of times knowing someone is interested in you makes you interested in them. Have you tried asking the girls a small personal question first? This may get them to start returning the favor and when you run the PUA stuff, they ask more and more.
Hi Hobbit,
I have read some of your advice on other posts and I have to say I am very impressed. I can tell you have a high skill level.
Yes, I am aware of this phenomenon you have stated. My opener is not direct. It is not about the girl, and in that sense it is a disqualifier which is why I think it works. However, the opener is just fluff and not the real meat of my pick-up; it's just a excuse to get a conversation started with a stranger. Once I've opened that door I bring in different threads after some comfort has been built. The first personal question I usually always ask is, "Are you on your way home from work?" Then maybe after that I might ask, "Do you live around here?"
The big deal breaker though is, "What is your name?" This comes a bit later after comfort has been built, I've disarmed her nervousness about talking to a stranger and (if the approach has gone good) made her laugh. I call it the deal breaker because after I ask that question I always pause. Yup, that's right. I stay absolutely silent for about 7 seconds, look at her and smile as if I'm WAITING to be asked the same question. You would be surprised how many girls DON'T take the cue.
Funny enough though, I can still number close some of those girls who don't ask my name even though I have asked theirs. After I number close them I sometimes make a joke and say, "So do you always give your number to guys whose names you don't know?" They laugh and finally ask my name.
WITHOUT A DOUBT, the girls that always show interest by asking me the same questions that I have asked them or by asking questions that they want to ask are the ones that I end up seeing again and usually f-clozing.
Some girls are real bitches. As soon as I drop a casual personal question in there they just freeze up. Some girls who are super bitches will walk away as soon as I ask a personal question.
I am still working on this part of my game, though. I am still trying to solve the puzzle on how to elicit interest. You are right, asking the girl questions does open the door for her to ask me questions back and it does let her know in an indirect way that I am interested in her. If she is open to answering the questions I know I have just gotten a few millimeters closer to her underpants.
I had a very interesting experience today in a new technique I tried to get the girl to elicit interest. I will talk about it in my June 22 field report.