it will feel a lot better than sitting on his own depressed thinking about what shes doing with the asshole that shes fucked him over with twice.

At the end of the day it is up to you on what you decide to do. You really need to ask yourself what will make you the most happy. Like Suppa said, are you going to be suspicious when she starts acting weird? Girls act weird all the time but if you have suspicion then you will start seeing signs of infidelity everywhere.
It’s a slippery slope to head down once a girl cheats on you.

It’s really strange but on a deep subconscious level, most girls won’t respect you if you take them back because it says a lot about you as a man. Guy logic would think “hey I took her back and forgave her, I am such a great guy to be able to do that”, but using chick logic it’s more like “why would he take me back? He must have low self esteem and no other options to put up with such bad behavior, my gina is no longer tingling, I am going to keep an eye out for a real man”. It sucks but it’s true.

If you can completely trust her than you should be good to go, but if you are going to feel anxious every time she is acting weird or gets a random SMS than you may need to cut this one loose.

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Dude, I went through something very similar very recently with the same type of girl. Gonna go with the panel here in saying that there is absolutely, positively a better girl out there for you. A text message is harmless, but if she can't be honest with you about it, and you don't trust her about it, what does that say for a serious relationship?

Having been together for so long overall, I'm assuming that you two have a very strong emotional connection. My girl and I did, and there is still a physiological response in my body when I think about her. It was so strong that I was rationalizing away crazy things in order to think that we could stay together (even before we broke up). What has helped me is to raise my standards and stick by them. I choose who to love, and I won't choose to love someone who has been unfaithful or dishonest in the past, toward me or anyone else. There was a LOT of good in our relationship, and it's easy to think "Well, she was this and that, unlike most girls out there, and maybe we can work it out..." But every time that line of thinking comes up, I think STANDARDS. You get what you deserve, so even if what you had was mostly good, decide that you deserve better.

Specifically, my two cents are: find some way to break up with her without mentioning what you know, and just let it go without getting sucked into any arguing or passive-aggressive drama. Learn from the experience, and do better in the future. Welcome back to the game

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Live Your Truth.

No. Two wrongs don't make a right. By doing something manipulative and vindictive like that, you are admitting to her, and yourself, that you are so emotionally weak, that you are hurt by this and feel the need to retaliate. That's not alpha, and won't win you any points.

If someone does you wrong, you don't put up with it, and you take steps to prevent it. Whether this be a warning or breaking up. Only little brats feel the need to hit back, and back again, to no end....

similar thing happened to me. I was at home looking after our son while she was seeing friends from work. she felt guilty and admitted to me that she fucked some bloke from work that night. I let her back into my life and eventually we got back together. she was still friends with this bloke on facebook, which pissed me off as he had met me before sleeping with my misses. so i logged into her account (her passwords are all the same) and read through her emails. found some flirty/dirty emails back and forth so broke up with her that night. she had nowhere to stay so slept in her car for a few days while i looked after our son. i have since moved on to better things while she is depressed and hates her life

the advice i would give to you is this:
SHE HAS NO INTEGRITY, FUCK HER OFF YOU DESERVE BETTER, SHE IS MAKING YOU MISERABLE.

SHE IS TOXIC

Nah think you got it wrong there--i wouldnt see it as being weak ' rather more of a scorched earth policy and then dumping her.

Him doing the fake text would be showing her that she wasnt making a fool of him.

Or he could do something similar to the guy below.she needs to be told that he's on to her---if he breaks up with her without telling her ,she feels all right going off with douchbag .

IF he says ''Ive decided that in order to let you spend more time with that piece of shit youve been in contact with behind my back you should move out.then its on her

IF he does nothing---heres what happens---she dear johns him with some of the usual crap that they use---''i need some time to find myself-''--''im scared about how deep into this relationship were getting'' ''my sisters pet budgie had an ingrown toenail and im moving to siberia to geive her emotional support through her troubles''

then she will go to the guy she has lined up already---Like they ALWAYS do

This type of shit over the last year has left me so jaded about women. Does anyone who has learned game and experienced just how scheming and untrustworthy women can be actually still trust women? I mean I would love to by into the social programming that guys do all the cheating and women want the relationships but its just not true.

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No none of them can be trusted

You guys have some great fuckin points

This is a very hard thing for me to go through. I love her very much and I do believe she loves me as well. The thing that sucks is, it's like she has two sides. When we are together, she says how she loves me very much and acts very affectionate. Other than the sex decreasing over the past 5 months, our relationship seems to be very good.

Then there is sometimes when she is with her friend, they talk about some of the guys she used to be with and their whoreish endeavours. I feel very insecure at times when she does this. Stuff like this only happens once in a while, but it makes me feel very insecure like she could revert back to that way at a moments notice.

Do you think I should give her the benefit of the doubt?

When she started seeing that mother-fucker behind my back 3 years ago, that was probably one of the 2 most devestating times of my life. It's like you have this strong bond with someone, and then in one day it is all gone. (things were actually pretty rough at the time, but i still had a huge emotional investment in her)

I think the song "Don't trust a ho" is pretty accurate.

thanks fellas

I think you need to be prepared for something like that happening again. If you can handle it thats one thing, if not thats another. I totally can relate about the two sides to girls. They can be in your arms telling you they love you one minute, walk out the door and 20 minutes later be slobbing on some d-bags knob! Like I said this realization has left me pretty jaded.

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I can appreciate maintaining your status by avoiding a situation like that, which would require certain actions. This is nessecary for the kind of image you portray of yourself, to the world, and yourself. But I will never advocate doing something cruel just for any sort of direct satisfaction. That is weak, and you spiral downwards instead of rising above it.

Guys it's not productive to make this into a bitch session about how no girls can be trusted. You all know there are beautiful loving girls out there. You know that while some girls seem to just do whatever anyone says, most of them base their choices off very well justified feelings.

It's easy to say girls are the problem, so that you can avoid feeling like you were lacking in some way to the guy that she left you for, but then you miss out on a chance to move forward and learn what was different between you and him.

yeah but that old thing--''you should have seen the other guy'' is usually fairly accurate---they never leave an ok guy for someone better its usually they leave him for a dead end toss pot

if moderator Hobbit read this page, he would bitch slap all of you guys with his penis!

first, to OP: i was in a very similar situation as you. girl cheats, we break up, i'm still in love with her like an afc, i take her back, she cheats again, i take her back, and she cheats again. and for some reason i just couldnt get over her. i thought she was perfect for me. i took her back 3 times in 3 years. and i felt like shit but i "loved" her. truth is, after the first time i took her back, trust was gone. it was impossible to forgive her 100%. and it just spirals down from there. anything and everything seems suspicious. the cycle of cheating and getting back together will never end with these types of girls. my girl was the same as yours, she had low self esteem and needed validation from other guys. i finally grew a pair and had enough. it was really hard at first and i thought i would NEVER get over it because she was my "first love" haha. but truth is, it can only get better and now i'm having the time of my life. ever since i decided to grow some balls and apply my game, i haven't had anything but fun and i've been getting girls like crazy. i suggest you definitely take a break and work on your game. fuck 10 other girls. work on your inner game & outer game. if after you fuck 10 other girls you still wanna be with a girl who cheats on you then you have the choice to go back. if she truly loves you and she's the one then you WILL be with her. if she isn't then you will find someone better.

ok, now i would like to tell you why Hobbit will bitch slap some of you with his penis:

first off, conker is right.
WTF can you gain from getting revenge? that's just a fucked up ego talking! if you're a confident guy who has his shit together then you will just move on like a man! not like a little whiny bitch that cries about his problems. revenge WILL ALWAYS make you look like a bitch because you are affected by her actions. if you have your shit together then you won't care about your ego being hurt. your ego is not your self, it's just a stupid shield to protect your insecure feelings.


and second of all, being misogynist is NOT ALPHA! there is nothing manly about hating women and acting like they're the root of your problems. it's ok, i've been there before, but the only reason we hold grudges is because we can't accept reality and deal with our pain from within.

this is a pretty long rant but i was just appalled at the things i was reading. so remember, before you seek to blame external factors for your problems, take a look at your own self and fix those beliefs first.