Girlfriend of almost a month, we're going great.

I text her this morning, no reply.

She came on FB this evening (we were both busy during the afternoon) and after saying hey I said something like:

"Sent you a text this morningg cause I knew I'd be busy all day and wanted to say hi before"

She said she didn't reply because she couldn't be bothered :/

I thought it was rather harsh ... I've done nothing wrong. I brushed it off, acted indifferent, didn't want her to think it had got to me when actually it had.

Then as we were speaking, she turned down my invitation to come to mine tomorrow and it now looks like we won't see each other again before Christmas.

We then discussed her hair as she's talked about changing it. I said she didn't need to, dropped a few compliments, but then as the convo I went on I said things like "Well the no.1 rule is to do what you want so if you want to change it I'm not gonna stop you". Then played it C&F saying I look at her more than she looks at herself so my opinion is vital.

Then she made a comment saying she never listens to anyone else anyway, I know she likes to feel in control. I just replied with "I would never force anyone to listen to me, you do what you want to do at the end of the day". And she was like "Well I hope you hate it".

I've treated the whole conversation as one big shit-test. We went to the next stage on Saturday and now I think she's testing me to see how I'll react to this shit. I read an Article on here - http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread ... =squirrels - I think I'm in this 'Active Test' stage. So I played along but didn't go AFC on her, kept it funny, yes I threw in some compliments here and there but also brought up previous Game-related things such as the reading I got off her when Palm Reading (did the Wealth, Life and Retard line routine).

I then went into another routine as she said she was going, telling her that before she went she firstly had to say something along the lines of:

"Do you want to come over tomorrow evening to inspect my hair, that and I need another sneak peak at your guns"

To which I said I would accept the invite, blow her a kiss good night and let her go peacefully.

She said no as expected. Then went to bed with just a 'night x' basically, after I'd tried to say goodnight nicely. Not cool.

What the fuck do I do ? Is this a big test, when talking about her hair she said that she 'gets bored easily'. I ofc threw in lines like "You'll never get bored with me" "I'm too different" "Most guys would have rolled over when they saw your hair (reference to earlier convo) but not me "

Help me, I just need some re-assurance. She has a bit of a History of getting 'bored', but I am determined that my inner game is strong enough to prevent that from happening.

IMO mate your trying too hard. You gotta switch that frame again. Saying things like "You wont get bored with me" and such is a massive DLV, your qualifying yourself to her like a salesman selling yourself!

Now this is easily recoverable. The tools I use in these situations is mainly jealously and a sustained coolness. Ill explain.

Jealously is a very strong emotion for women to deal with. They HATE it. It can simply in the form of a txt, say something about meeting a girl on the train and she told you a funny story (que story)or something specific to you. But by god, do this subtlely!!If she senses your trying to make her jealous you will go down with flames and your relationship too. They dont have to be big things just lots of little things. Like maybe in a txt: "When i was hanging with Lucy earlier..." when she doesnt know who lucy is. Simple. But very powerful when done right.

Sustained coolness - she is definitely testing you by the sounds of it. So by all means do not go AFC on her like you said and ask whats wrong and desprately try and make her feel better. Simply get on with your life. If shes acting up put her on the back burner for a while, contact her less and get on with other stuff. at the moment shes not deserving your attention.

finally, if none of the above has worked. If this continues for maybe more than 1.5-2 weeks. Call her out on it big time. I mean big time. not AFC, full dominant, this is what i accept, this is what i DO NOT accept. Maybe this isnt going to work. If you dont feel you can tell me whats bothering you then maybe you should be alone. That kinda thing.

Hope this helps bro.

Solo

sounds bad dude ... really bad ... she is probably testing you .. probably doubting about the relationship .....

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well yeah .... girls will complain you have issues or they can't understand/ read you....

with some girls you can only shoot yourself in the foot gaming or not gaming with pua routines. Don't use routines dude... it sounds out of line and ridicoulious

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Solo's post sounds great. but in addition to this, I like to boil down the problem/solution to a simple single concept to keep in your head in the moment.

Reading it feels like everything you do is around her. Show interest but show you have a life, other girls are in it, and YOU can get bored easily too

Hey guys, I posted an update on my relationship in this thread - is-confrontation-a-good-idea--vt58526.html

I personally think a problem with our relationship may be that we got together as she was leaving another relationship.

But she has said to me before, intimately, that her initial intentions with me weren't to get involved in an LTR, but she's really glad things turned out the way they did and that she loves me.

I dunno, I think this girl has emotional issues that she can't open up to a guy and she has to stay in control at all times. Man I pick the easy ones don't I Still, I might be able to salvage this, I just gotta change my approach.

Firstly, anytime she's acting dodgy, I will stop the conversation (on chat) and either call her or wait till I next see her in person.

And I'm going to escalate things further sexually, I think if she sleeps with me, she'll become more attached - and considering I do actually have good intentions and AM a nice guy, surely she'll be making a good choice for herself.