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ive asked this girl out from work. she sais no, she doesnt want a relationship. she comes off as interested because we text each other and flirt like children nearly every day. i think what i am lacking is comfort with her. if i could get comfort buidling tips, or even specific advice, that would be excellent.
Whoa jesus.... Madals has been holding the fort for a good while now
I'll give you a couple of tips for you to try out.
Ask questions which engage emotional responces.
Instead of, doing much tonight?
Try, "so, got anything fun planned for tonight?"
Or, your going for a jog, "How does that make you feel, when I jog I get a huge rush of freedom.."
Both these quesitons are getting her not to divulge facts, but feelings!
That is the important area for comfort, it is about feelings, the more you to discuss emotions, feelings and opinions the better!
"I'm cooking for my mum, I love my mum to bits XD"
That's alot better than, "I'm cooking for my mum"
Secondly, don't confuse flirting with bonding, just having some time to talk normally about normal stuff and opinions, taking some time discussing the small things to build a familiar vibe can work wonders.
Hope it helps
