ok i have been having a problem recently, in field i go for a women of a unique disposition.
E.g. really tall, goth, something where you usually have to be similar in order to be with the girl.
If your not in the game that is...

If i see a really tall girl, do i talk about my ex who was 5,11 to qaulify myself, or do i disqualify her by saying
"I've been out with tall girls before and they just couldn't handle me being smaller and stronger.. this is never going to work."

What frame do i take on this matter?
Thanks for replying i know there are idiotic questions evrywhere and as always reactions appreciates any answers

I would use the same sort of disqualification that I use on older women.
When they ask me how old, (or how tall) I am I make them guess.
Then when they tell me how old, (or how tall) they are, I say:
"Pity you arn't younger/shorter. You would totally be my type."
Sometimes, if they try qualifying themselves to me, I neg them just a little by saying, "Sorry, I like 'em new, not like you." And give them a bit of a wink. But you have to bait them soon afterwards otherwise they'll believe you are too young for them.
My favorite bait is a DHV story,
"My friend and I were discussing, would you rather have a 20 year old or a 40 year old, and why? Most men, like my friend, answer they want somebody younger. I disagree, because we all know that a young girl is inexperienced and scared in the sack. Whereas the 40 year old practically rapes you."
You can switch out the words old, for short to make it more pertinent. But you get the idea.

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maybe say something like:

"i can't stand when women are superficial and insecure. I like when a woman is confident and secure enough that she will date a guy smaller or shorter than her!"

I would say its dangerous to disqualify a girl because she is tall because tall girls IME usually interpret a man having a problem with their hight as a sign of his insecurity.

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Firstly thanks ...
Most people don't appriciate in put. I firmly beleive that when it comes to things like this you guys can make a difference. (without sounding a little too hollywood!)

I see what you guys are getting at, however it still confuses me, do i qaulify myself or disqualify them.
I think maybe mystery's model may interprit this, however i know this is a limiting belief of mine.
Keep it coming guys and girls?

Well normally you dont speak of disqualifying them, but rather disqualifying yourself.

A neg is normally used to disqualify yourself initially on opening. eg. 'cute dress....a liiiittle outdated for my liking but cute nonetheless.'. You have disqualified yourself as no guy that is interested in her would ever make an 'honest' judgement like that. an AFC would go on and on about how hot she looks and how awesome her dress is. Thats just too easy for her...wheres the challenge!

Another reason for disqualification is to send mixed messages to keep her guessing. if a girl ever hints that im coming onto her or trying to pick her up...i immediately say 'ah dont worry about that sweetie, kissing you would be like kissing my sister'....and then carry on teasing and flirting with them. You want them to be wondering if you were being serious or not. at the same time you want to convey you are sexually interested, but have them wonder about it.

Qualifying yourself serves a completely different purpose, this is basically DHVing.

i just realized that i gave an example of qualification instead of disqualification. my bad guys

Say "I heard mountains get their own weather."
Hahahah Tottally kidding!

What are you talking about? If you 2 have a connection, why do you think you need to qualify or disqualify?

[/quote]What are you talking about? If you 2 have a connection, why do you think you need to qualify or disqualify?[/quote]

seroiusly? am not even answering that.
OK OK OK! jesus am a sucker for teaching, you git i now won't be able to do anything untill i say.

Ok, disqaulification and qualification at ANY stage produce attraction, the more attraction the better. so i will throw it in anywhere