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A 40 year old man in America is screwed.
No, no . . . a 40 year old YOU in America is screwed. Which is why you left.
To the OP,
The funny thing is . . .
It's the typical mindset of a mature 40 year old that tends to be quite attractive to girls of any culture. At this point, a man has had some affairs, relationships, and one night stands. He's professional and he's met and dealt with many different people from all walks of life. He doesn't go crazy over little disputes with "little girls". He sees humor in all things. And while an 18 year old might take a "negative verbal message" personally and hastily reply with an playground insult, a 40 year old man knows that little kids tend to act like, well . . . little kids. So he smiles at it . . . and chooses language/behavior to take charge of the situation so that everything in the social set progresses positively.
Go to any playground and just hang out. You'll see plenty little kids telling their parents, "I hate you! I'm so mad at you! You're ruining my life, etc . . ." Well adjusted parents know that this is just a short emotional burst so while they don't simply take the bullshit, they take charge and manage the situation LIKE AN ADULT. Meanwhile, other children and immature parents(those who really have NO BUSINESS being parents) will just stand there and toss insults back and forth. Nobody leaves happy. Berated kids will continue their emotional diarrhea and their counterparts will continue to take things personally and continue to stimulate bad behavior.
Yeah, you can just leave the show. . . or you can manage it to your own benefit. The tools to manage the show are all here. . . and as a 40 year old, I'd think you have a leg up on younger kids in terms of utilizing those tools. I doubt most posters here have any clue to why certain routines work but it all amounts to effectively managing social situations. If you can calmly communicate with a waitress to correct an order without pissing her off to spit on your food, you can do this. If you can ask your boss for a raise by offering demonstrable benefits you've added to the company, you can do this. If you can laugh off your 5 year old niece's tantrum, you can do this.
Many younger men simply don't have the mental stability, experience, nor the maturity to manage their own emotions through social situations without clowning around, insulting others, or simply giving up. This is why they mostly need to rely on rehearsed cliche's. In my mind, most of the buzzwords, acronyms and "routines" in our game is an attempt to elevate a kid's visible behavior to that of a well adjusted 40 year old. Know what you want. Know who can give it to you. Assess the situation, and manage your way through. And it's this ability that makes you attractive to women.
You're only missing a tiny piece of the puzzle. You probably already have a "gut-feeling" that interacting with women in terms of sex and relationships is really no different than interacting with your boss or the waitress at a breakfast joint. You are right. It's NOT DIFFERENT AT ALL. One writes you a paycheck, the other gives you pancakes, and women(in the scope of our discussion) offers you sex and companionship. The specific language might be different but the strategy to gain any of these things from various people are nearly the same.
Don't dumb yourself down to thinking you need to be 20. All those kids are rehearsing routines in an attempt to appear more mature than they are. You don't need to rehearse. You're already mature. Just be your well adjusted 40 year old self and corral those girls like you'd line up a bunch of your rowdy niece's friends in the ice cream store for their treats. (They want their ice cream. They want to line up. But they NEED you to give them direction)
Accept this truth and accept your role. . . and go get em'.
CHAT
... is the make all the right noises about "wanting a meaningful relationship", meet them maybe once or twice running some heavy seduction right up to the point of sex, even perhaps to the point of having overcome their LMR, then ... LEAVE or FREEZE OUT without closing or ask them to leave if its your place). The next day (to give them a night to ponder what happened) say you though you were ready for a serious relationship but you now realise your not and you didn't want to go the whole way because you didn't want to take advantage of them. IME 2 out of 3 will then offer to "just have some fun for while". There is little that is more attractive to a woman than a man prepared to walk away from sex, even if it was a bluff ... 
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