Okay i dont think we need to give the guy a hard time.
Basically i think what everyones getting at is your holding your self back not your chair. But thats not what your question was about.
But i said this in one of my other posts on this topic that this is the wrong site if your asking how to get the one girl your obsessed with. And yes it is an obsession not love. I say that because the way your acting is not the way someone who loves someone acts that is how an obsessed jealous person acts who dosnt get his way. This website is to help you build on your character and to give you the proper tools to go out and meet girls and bring something to your life you lacked.
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Will THEY ever realize there is more to me than a wheelchair? I've been rejected more times than I can count because during my case of one-itis I would hit on the hottest girls in the club because I was more concerned with showing my oneitis that I had balls than I was with their response. The girl I love, she was my best friend, she knows me well, we get along great and trust each other(now I can't even answer the phone when she calls)...besides, I've seen her bf and I KNOW that the ONLY reason she and I aren't together is because I'm in a wheelchair. If she couldn't be with me, I really don't know who will.
I dont think they look at you as just a wheel chair and if they do its something you are doing. You need to DHV that way they know your more then that.
Also it sounds like when you were at the club with this girl hitting on other girls that your were attempting a direct approch. Sadly i dont think that is the best method for you now given your situation. The direct approch only lets them judge you physically because when you just out of the blue approch someone thats all they have to go by is what you look like.
You are going to have to use more method now that you lost some of your natural game. PUA is perfectly designed for your situation since it has tools to get you into a conversation with girls in a none threatening mannar and gives them a chance to get to know you.
Also when you hit on smoeone because of someone else or even for your self your almost setting your self up to fail. You need to just go and have a good time and be a joy to be around and pretty soon girls will be fighting over you.
Understandably your attitude is pretty poor. If i went out with an attitude like that i wouldnt have a chance. You seem like a good guy so dont let these women get you down.
And call ur F-ing friend back. Friends dont ignore each others phone calls just cuz shes got some trashy boyfriend. Unless you really dont want anyone in your life at all. Personally i would rather have the love of my life beside me as my best friend even if shes got some dude then sitting alone by my self e-mailed people on the internet about how much it hurts that she dosnt love me.
And i mean that respectfully.
You have too much to look forward to in life to be doing that. Besides if thats your picture next to your posts then you still got plenty going for yourself. You better get out every chance you got and try to meet any girl out there that sparks your interest because the last thing you want is to start getting old and loose your looks. If you think its hard to get a girl now what do you think its going to be like if your old, balding, unattractive, and in a chair? Not going to be any easier.
So be optimistic. The cup is half full. (i know i hate hearing that saying too but its still a good saying) Hopefully i didnt offend you. Im just trying to give creative advice and get you motivated to help those girls see you for more then a chair.
I would try to offer girls rides on my lap and id tell them its ok that i couldnt feel anything(even if i could) and make it into something fun. I would even work it so pretty soon girls would be fighting over who gets me or who gets a ride. Id tell girls they look too drunk to drive home and offer them a ride home on my lap. F it what do you have to loose. who knows there might even be girls with fetishes for guys in your condition.(if there are girls who like being shit on im sure there are ones who like guys in chairs) Good luck.
Skankin