So me and this chick have been hanging every weeekend for the last 3 weeks, and during this most recent weekend we finally hooked up.. just made out..
Anyway, most of the time the only time we text is if she texts me 1st and says "hey what's up" or something similar. I've texted her 1st once or twice and both times said "hey, so you'll never guess what happened to me today" or something.
So my problem is this; 1st of all I don't want to start the conversation off with something as mundane as "hey what's up" or "hey how was your day" because thats what every other guy would do. But I also don't want her to get tired of always having to start a conversation. Any ideas on good texting gambits?

I just prefer the casual hello, but if you want to mix things up a bit, try these...
- Don't even say hi. Just go straight into your conversation. "so I definitely kicked your ass in flip-cup the other night. "
- Start the conversation in a different language [and if you want, continue speaking the language even if she speaks back in english or has no idea what you're saying haha] "Bonjour, madame Lisa. Comment cava?"
- Use one of these corny lines >> list-of-text-messages-game-vt21175.html I don't like using these too much, just very sparingly. The best ones are the shortest ones.



white_knight

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thanks, i went with the different language opener, worked out great until she sent a long reply and, while i may know how to say hi in spanish thats about the extent of it, lol, so had to flip back to english

thats when you just say... hun, to be totally honest, i don't know what the hell you just said hahaha

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you: "stop!"
hb: "what?"
you: "thinking about me and smiling =P"


it works, srsly



but why did it take 3 weeks to k-close?

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well we're both still in high school so hanging during the week is hard and i had to get her to cheat on her boyfriend. still coulda pushed for faster close I'm sure though

It will be cool if you can come up a nickname.
Girls love them.

im diggin the nickname idea, good thought

a few things i do:

1. leave off the night before in the middle of a conversation. that will also make you mysterious.
2. leave off with 'im crashing for the night. text me tomorrow' or 'ill be expecting a text when i wake up' or something similar. but dont sound desperate when you do it.
3. if you expect her to text you, then she doesnt, and you two talk frequently, just dont text her. wait for her to text you. you are alpha. you dont want to be seen as thinking about her constantly.

as with all game, be mysterious. dont be predictable. and id say to never ever text her or ask her anything about not texting you if she didnt. you want her to wonder about you, not to know your next move before you make it.


props to white_knight. that was a good post also and his link with the text openers is really good as well. i actually used some today.

Hey, I have a question about texting guys. What do I say every time I talk to him I just go blank, what do guys like to talk about??? And also just to let you know guys girls HATE starting a conversation and we don't know what o say when all you say is Whats up? so just letting you know!

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I noticed having a girl ask you a question could start a good convo. "Ask me something" or "ask me something, anything and i will answer it". that works because you ask them about it, and theres a conversation. Something they will want to talk about because it comes from them.

WTF WHERE DID MY PANTS GO?

phone calls > txt

if you can take something you know about her and tease her on it, it is also funny.

If she is a cheerleader, you can say something like "Oh oh, mother tells me cheerleaders are trouble."

Best attraction conversations in person/phone or text that always work for me are animals fact: did you know...type stuff

Best one for me is "did you know platypuses are poisonous!?"

Go do a google search on why platypuses are poisonous....it's an erotic reason and girls will think it's disturbingly cute.

-essp

Just "Hey" is all you should use. Anything else and you're trying too hard.