Hi everyone,

I read the ‘Game’ a while ago and that introduced me to the community. I’m really shy around women. Not in all contexts, I have female work colleagues who I can talk to fairly easily but definitely so when it comes to hitting on them.

I’ve always been shy with women and not the most popular kid in school. However, when I was around 16 – 17 I managed to get some confidence through going to house parties and clubs. I made out with quite a few girls when I was 17 and this continued through to uni.

But…I never reached 4th base. I managed to sleep with women 5-6 times in uni but for one reason or another i.e. No condom, didn’t know what I was doing, never quite managed to get the deed done! These had all happened by the 2nd year of uni. I also had a couple cases of major ‘one – it is’. Given that I was never originally that confident, these negative experiences put me in a shell and I reckon I’ve kissed one girl in the last 3 years.


I’m really ashamed about not having lost my virginity. I’ve never had a girlfriend ( a few dates here and there ) It feels like I’m getting older and older and I’m not doing anything about it. The old way is definitely not working so I need to change.

My biggest fear is rejection. I’m afraid I’ve putting myself out there because I’m afraid of feeling bad if a girl does something I interpret negatively.

I’ve worked on myself a lot in other ways over the last year. I have a stutter. I’ve been on a course for this and have learnt to bring it under control. I’m now part of a public speaking club. I’ve also done some acting training. Part of my training for my speech was to go out there and speak to strangers to get over my fears and thereby control my speech.

That in a nutshell is my story. My goals? I want to make up for my lack of experience, sexually and generally. I want to bring me out of my own shell; I want to learn how to attract women. Slowly but surely over the next year. Where do I start?

Hey man, I know how you feel, I have been there and done that. One of my most memorable shitdicklery moments was this one time when I snuck out my house over to my friends house in 11th grade.

We then snuck out of his house, stole his dads car and drove down to his girlfriends house which was a good 30 minutes away. His girlfriend had this hb9 over who's tits were as big as my head, im no elephant man but my head is pretty large.

So we then snuck into her house, went into her basement and were deciding on what to do when OH SHIT he dad was on his way down because he thought he heard guys talking. We panicked. We sa an exercise bike and some blankets against the wall, we hurry up and hid under them for like 10 minutes while her dad perused the basement looking for guys.

*Note* he was a crazy fuck redneck with a shotgun lol, I am half black

With that being said when he finally went up stairs, my friends girlfriend was like, "wow all that excitement of you guys hiding got me so horny" So she took him upstairs. Now here i am. Me and Bigtits Mcgee staring face to face. She says "I know they are going to go have sex. I dont like sex anyway, I think it's not fun"

I called her bluff. I went over to her and started to makeout with her. Starting slowly from her neck moving to her lips to her ear. Then I got her shirt off. Then her bra.

Now, three things are running through my head
1) WOW IM FINALLY GONNA HAVE SEX!!11
2) Oh fuck, what do I do next.
3).....I don't have any condoms.....

I was so inexperienced and unprepared, I didnt know what to do, I had no condoms, so like a malnurished puppy I just lapped effortlessly at her nipples, I mean, thats what I you're supposed to do right? I could tell she was growing weary of this, so I moved to kissing her ear.

She got weirded out by that and said "What the hell are you doing" I tried to mumble a response and said, hey I think we would be more comfortable on the couch. At the time of me saying this, we were on the hard cold floor, and she was on the bottom. I tried to pick her up and carry her to the couch like I had seen in some movies.

Bad Idea. I dropped her. "WHAT THE FUCK!?" she shreieked as she hit her head on the ground, "Fuck im sorry, i didnt mean..." i tried to appologize, but as the song goes, it's too late to apologize. She put her shirt back on, covered herself in the blanket and we just waited there until my friend came back downstairs to tell me let's go.

The most awkward shit in my life. Honestly, that's what happens when alex trebek has a picture of a giraffe in his ass during an earthquake.
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Now, with that being said I learned some valuable things from that failed encounted of the sexual kind

1) Always have atleast one condom on you

2) Dropping a naked girl on a hard cement floor as she bashes her head is both a turn off and a mood killer.

3) Bikes and blankets make good hiding spots.


Now, I would link you to some great sites that gave me awesome tips on sexual conduct, but I am a new member and they won't allow me to post URLs of any kind, so I will P.M you some great stuff.

Sex is great, infact one of the best feelings in the world, which is why so many guys get nervous when they are about to do it for the first time. But honestly the best thing I can say to you is first eliminate the things that can hinder you before hand.

I.e no condoms, not groomed and showered, not knowing what to do. <- These are all things that can kill you before you even get started.

thats brilliant story there man!

its like the scouts

always be prepaird

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Hey Kdd,

I read your story, noticed what you were doing and I personally think that you're doing GREAT.

I sincerely believe you're on the right track because you mentioned that you're working on the stutter, forcing yourself to talk to girls... and if you've already made out with girls, and "slept" with some then you probably look fine physically.

So what's next? Well, from what you said, it seems as if confidence is the part you need to work on the most.

You'll build confidence the more you push yourself in life. I know this doesn't sound like directly girl related, but one of the best ways to develop confidence is to do physical activities. Pick up a sport, go to the gym, whatever you do, get physical and this will help your game tremendously.

After that, the main way to get good with women is to practice. I recommend going out with guys with the specific intention of picking up women... having support will help.

If you're looking for reading material and you've read The Game, then I could suggest The Mystery Method (since The Game is entirely based on the Mystery Method)

Otherwise, there's a lot of knowledge in my sigs.

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Hi Guys,

Thanks for the replies. Appreciate it. I've decided over the next few weeks to just focus on reducing Approach Anxiety and going for it. Just opening my mouth, starting conversations with women and not holding back. I'm thinking If I open 5 simple sets on free nights after work (Restaurant/ book recommendations, etc) That would be a great start. What do you think?

KDD