I'm genuinely interested in people's fears around approaching women. Can you guys list a few, (dozen:-P) of your deepest fears?

I understand it may be an intimate question but I assure you that once you take it out of you head, (self-talk) and put it down on this page, you will find it easier to see opportunities to over come those fears.

So far I've got:
- Getting rejected
- she might have a boyfriend
- i don't want to take her time.

~LJ

Hi,

intesting topic. I have only become aware of pick up in the last couple of months or so. I guess that initially I suffered AA as I presume do, the majority of guys if truth be told.

I am scared of getting laughed at.
I am shit scared of been frozen out. I am scared of trying to be funny cocky and the girl looking at me as if to say, you fucking weirdo.
I'm scared of em just being plain rude, insulting, laying into me.
I am scared of rejection/being ignored.

Well,
I won't continue. As you can see, I have a way to go. But I am working on it. I have seen major improvements in my game in just a few weeks so I suppose that this month I will have some really positive results/ hope you too are getting the results you are looking for.
Cheers!!

I believe I've gotten over the whole thing about being laughed at or whatever, now if that happens I just laugh back.

With me for some reason I always just assume they have a boyfriend already.
Even though in this day and age that doesn't count for allot, for instance the other day I was with a girl who was 24 (im 20) and had a boyfriend but she was all over me, I didn't kiss her because of my morals about being physical with girls with boyfriends, but if I had gone for it, I am 100% certain she wouldn't have stopped me.

I need to break this habit of seeing a girl and thinking "wow she's cute, but she must have a bf" I think if I can break that, I'll crack the AA in half.

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im not afraid of her reaction but my own ... what happens when the convo goes dead... the approach isnt that bad its ..what next ..... i know what to do, i can picture it in my head ... but doing it is harder than thinking it

Hey love junkie, I got a good way to get over your fear of approaching, it helped me. Open your phone book, and call random numbers. When you do this, try to talk to who ever picksup and try to see how long you can get them to stay on the phone. When you do this, you are exercising your ability to TALK to strangers. Is it weird? Sure. Will they hang up? Yup. Will it help you? Yes.

Practice running routines on them, openers, anything at all. You see, when you do this you have absolutely nothing to loose, but yet I bet you are still apprehensive of this, you know why? Because we are trained from an early age not to talk to strangers, and this is one many PUA's biggest downfalls. If you want to be a PUA you HAVE to be able to chat it up with a stranger. You might have to make 400 calls before you are comfortable, but think of it this way, if you can't even talk to a stranger over the phone with no risk what so ever, how can you expect to talk to a really hot girl walking down the street?

Eventually while making these calls, you will start to gain confidence, hell I still do it every once in a while before a night of sarging just to give me a boost of confidence.

This will allow you to practice your speaking voice, your stuttering, your openers, you would be suprised how many people will actually stay on the phone with you.
SO try it man, it will help greatly in your ability to eventually approach, take baby steps.

As for what am I afraid of, I would say, standing on high place with inadequate protection from falling, be it with no rails or no bungee cord ect.